To get really annoyed at being asked what I'm eating?

[thefoodinquisitor]

Every single time. "Ooh what's that?" "What are you making?" "What's in there?" AIBU to not want questions about what I'm eating from my DH all the time?

Is it a full moon tonight? Because I'm seeing a lot of posts of people getting annoyed about literally nothing! Your DH is taking an interest in your food? Tell him not to if it bothers you I guess

I do tell him and then he gets all sulky and asks again the next time

If he's a greedy bastard and wants what you've got all the time then yes it'd do my head in. If he's just showing an interest you're being a bit of a dick. I struggle to find anything I fancy eating so like to see what's what so it maybe makes me hungry 🤷🏼‍♀️

Just normal conversation surely?

Jesus 🙄

Yeah I think he's always angling for some. Like a dog.

Is he trying to hint that he wants you to make it for him too? Do you ever cook for each other?

Do you offer to make him some of what you’re having? Or visa versa?

Do either of you every cook/make a sandwich/cup of coffee for each other, or just do your own?

I do the bulk of the cooking.

I'm always making him coffee and cooking meals. Lunches and snacks are a free for all

This is so weird & I can never get my head around these types of relationships.

Dh & I share the cooking informally (we don't have a rota or anything) but when one of us is cooking or making tea or coffee or pouring a drink or making a snack we ALWAYS ask the other if they'd like some. Same with dc.

I just can't imagine making something to eat & not offering dh some from the get go.

Dh never even asks me what’s for dinner tonight (I cook, he clears up.).
I once asked him why not - he said, ‘Well, it’s always something nice.’

That's great when it goes both ways. It's not when you're the one always doing the making. Plus he's lazy

Please could you tell me a few meals that you cook?

My partner always asks what I am making as although we share a few meals, we have very different diets. I am a mainly low carb vegetarian and he is a high carb meat eater.

Of course YABU and weird

Why though?

I know exactly what you mean. " What's for dinner?" What are you cooking" "do you boil that then put it in the oven" "are you having eggs" "what did you have/are having/going to have for lunch" looks at the food on each of our plates, I'm convinced it's so he can work out if he has the larger portion, eats all left overs at random times, eats whole family bars of chocolate at a sitting despite "not having a sweet tooth" Doesn't cook ever. The only applicable description is lazy idle bastard. and yes if I'm making lunch I ask him if he wants anything, always says no because he "doesn't have a big appetite" what he means is he doesn't have a big appetite if he is required to make any effort at all.

@thefoodinquisitor I generally cook the main meal - dinner each day.

Dh makes breakfast for us all & I get mine in bed every single morning (he likes getting up earlier & hates eating in bed)

He makes lunch every day - usually for himself & dc if they're home (he works from home. I work from an office) & at weekends he looks after breakfast & lunch & coffees etc as we want them. I rarely use the coffee machine as he does it.

I make dinner & he cleans up after it every night unless there's some reason why not like he has to go out or has a work deadline & needs to work late etc

Like a pp he never asks what's for dinner - I'm a good cook & he loves everything I make.

Sometimes he says he's looking after dinner & that's code for he's getting us a takeaway!

I think the conversation you might need to be having is around a fairer distribution of work in the house - not that he wants to eat what you're eating.

Thank goodness! I was beginning to think I was on my own with this!

Out of interest mainly but also because I might share if he does fancy some to accompany his dead animals products.

See that's what annoys me I think. I've made it. I'm just settling down to eat it. And he clearly wants some. It's so off-putting.

Reminds me of my dad asking my mum
dad - do you want a coffee?
mum - oh yes, thank you!
dad- you do it? Looking like a little child.

Arrgggg

Just normal Brit dishes, roasts, shepherd’s pie, sausage and mash, cauliflower cheese, etc. plus various curries, stir fries, risottos, chilli - you name it, really.
Thank goodness dh will happily eat whatever he’s given.