Who is in the wrong

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Parent A is bathing 14 month old baby who is playing happily in the bath.

Parent B asks to swap as they need the toilet.

Parent B sits on the toilet on their phone doing some work whist right in front of the baby happily playing in the bath.

Parent A goes to get on with some house work.

Parent B, after approx 7 mins, shouts to parent A that the bath is freezing and the baby is really cold.

Parent A thinks that this is Parent B's fault as they should keep checking the temperature and it was their responsibility.

Parent B thinks that Parent A must have had the bath too cold in the first place and that it is their fault.

Who's in the right?

I agree with you, I think it's grim

And if there's one bathroom in a house and someone is in the bath, what's the solution? I've yet to read about a baby becoming ill by breathing in 'poo particles' 🙄

This!!

Wait for the person to be out of the bath?

Not so much poo particles in my experience but the smell, the disrespect and general grimness. I don't want to go to the loo after my son has been for a poo, nevermind laying in the bath with the stench.

Could the person B not consider the fumes of toileting ( not so much worried about poo particules but fumes)
Before removing the child out of the unwarm bath.

Partner B sounds very busy and sleep deprived, possibly this is causing their grumpy reaction. Not that it's an excuse. They should apologise with a nice bunch of flowers.

Babies don't care if someone poos in front of them 😂 They literally do it themselves every day. Ours quite often stares into your eyes over dinner whilst pooing.

Well life doesn't always work like that does it!

Babies literally shit anywhere while staring their parents right in the eye. I think they're fine while other people shit.

Maybe so but I still wouldn't subject anyone to be stuck in a stinky bathroom

Well you obviously have your bowels in quite the routine, but surely understand that not everyone is the same.

Parent B is a blamey blamer who blames and needs pulling up on it every time.

B was being a knob, clearly - if he noticed the water had turned cold, he should have either topped it up or taken the baby out. It's not rocket science:

(I'm also sniggering at the "Who on earth takes their phone with them when they go to the loo?" poster. Half the bloody world, that's who. Where have you been?)

What you mean is your husband has no common sense and once he'd finished on the toilet didn't get the baby straight out of the bath get them dry and into their pyjamas.

In my 17 years of parenting 5 kids I don't think I've ever had to top a bath up because it got too cold within 10 minutes, how cold was it to start with?!

This is mn who ever is male is to blame its easier to go with that

B is sitting playing on phone - in front of child - and think the child is A's responsibility ?
Jesus ....

This is so petty it's strange it's even an argument. If the bath was freezing after 7 minutes it probably was too cold to begin with, but why Mum left baby in the bath to be supervised by Dad who was on the toilet is a bit rank, id have taken baby out of the bath not left him there while Dad was using the loo and he shouldn't have been on his phone while supervising the bath either.

It's a non issue, how cold is a baby going to get in 7 minutes? We are taking toddler, not newborn. Was the baby crying? Happily playing seemed to be the description.
Is parent B saying they are incapable of either adding warm water, or taking their baby out and wrapping in a warm fluffy towel? If so they have an executive function issue and can't think or act for themselves.
Looks like B is looking for reasons to have a go at A, or B is expecting that they don't have to put in any effort with parenting because they expect that A will do everything, all the time, so they don't have to. So B was annoyed that they couldn't continue to be on phone doing their own thing and actually had to do something, when they'd rather not be a parent really. After all, if you work for a living, that means you don't have to look after any DC's you have - utter BS obviously.

Literally this also, my little boy used to stay in until his breath was nearly showing (not really obviously!) he's even attempted to get in to the basin with his toys on the kitchen floor but that just us water folk 😆He (your partner) sounds like a bit of a useless dick

Parent b was fully responsible for the baby and the bath as the adult in the room. It is a task that requires attention. That B thought it could be multitasked with 2 other activities is ridiculous.

B should not be left with a child. It beggars belief that any adult could convince themselves it is not batshit to get annoyed with someone for something that is clearly their own responsibility.

Well I do pretty much all bath times as my DH works evenings and I've never run a bath that has gone from being a wonderful temperature one minute to being absolutely freezing 7 minutes later, so on that alone I'd imagine that the bath wasn't warm enough to begin with (unless the child had already been in it for a long while?)

However, if I was parent A I'd be pretty irritated at being shouted at from the bathroom about it. If there was a problem then B should be more than capable of dealing with it. Either warm the bath up (safely of course) or remove the child. It shouldn't need to be a team effort!