To have barged into someone?

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I was getting off the train today. People tend to queue either side of the doors to then get on but a woman stood right infront of the doors, not giving me an opportunity to exit anywhere. I think she wanted to get on first. People's manners are bloody awful. As I walked off, I swore but also barged into her. I know I was BU now, but after a long week and battling mental health, I saw red. How can I help myself in future situations?

Use your words and say "Excuse me"?

It was obvious to her that I had no other exit route as she had blocked it though.

This drives me mad too. I would have done the same, she shouldn't have blocked the exit.

You asked how you can help yourself in future situations and that was my answer 🤷‍♂️

Not sure what else you want anyone to say?

It's not something that's ever going to stop being a problem when you use public transport.

Confused what you want from people. Of course you should have barged her or sworn at her. You help yourself by saying, so they can hear ‘excuse me’.

What if she had retaliated? And attacked you?

What if she had a long week and battling mental health?

What if you had knocked her over and injured her?

My words in these situations are "for fucks sake let people OFF first" while barging past them.

I mean, I usually say a very pointed 'excuse me' in a loud voice first, and then maybe don't take quite so much care in passing them as I get off as I could do.

It's basic station etiquette to allow people off the train first. Not sure I'd go as far as calling what I do 'barging', which sounds overly rough, but I'm not particularly bothered if my bag or elbow gets in their way.

The only exception to that would be if it were someone obviously frail, heavily pregnant, or with a visible health issue. In which case I would be more verbal and make it clear that they need to wait.

Well Showerofshites answer is the grown up one BUT I think it's a waste of breath with people like that.

If someone stands like that, as though I can walk through them, then I tend to try to walk through them. I'm not the bloody night bus, able to squeeze myself through an inch gap so not sure what else they imagine will happen.

It's bizarre as it seems like people are impatient to get on, yet their behaviour slows everything down. Just dumb.

not polite, not ok - but it's the sort of thing I do. Not barrel right into someone hard, but perhaps shoulder barge a bit with a huffy 'excuse me'. Doesn't take a genius not not stand in the way of people trying to disembark from a train, it's rude and annoying AF.

Mine too, but I don't know if that would help the OP.

Mind you, it's difficult to know what they want from the thread really, or how to help future situations.

Loudly and pointedly say 'excuse me'. It may be blindingly obvious, but if someone is standing in the way, they must equally as obviously have not realised they are.
Barging into people deliberately is just obnoxious.

We have all had our moments where we lose it and you feel bad now, which says to be that you generally have more self control and patience in these situations. Just chalk it up to a bad day and let it go. Life is too short. Perhaps the person will also think twice before they are so inconsiderate and impatient in future. Happy Friday! 💐

I realised when I was walking with my friend who was bashing into people with her umbrella that some people are not as spatially and socially aware as others.

This each and every time, it is not a race to the bottom.

I was deliberately barged/shoulder charged by a man in August who told me to get out of his 'f**king way.' We were walking towards each other in a pedestrian area with lots of space either side of us. I said excuse me, you've just hit me and he told me it was my fault for straying into his 'line.' He hit me so hard he popped out one of my ribs. He called me many names after this and was clearly a ticking time bomb. Don't be this person OP. I reported it and got a crime number.

I know I need to manage my anger better. I will get help. It was just the way she wanted on first and so didn't queue but stood right infront of the doors to get on first.

Why are you asking if you are going to justify your behaviour to the first person who gives you a solution?

Fuck it they were annoying. Brush it off.

Someone did that to me the other day (stood right in front of the door). She ignored me when I said excuse me so I just stood in the train door pointedly staring at her until one of the other passengers waiting to board told her to bloody well move!

Maybe she's foreign. I'm not saying this in a derogatory way about foreigners but people have different customs.
It's a very British custom to stand and wait on the platform while people get off. In every other country I've been to people start getting on as soon as the doors open. My SIL (who's not British) came to stay recently. She walked on to a lift as soon as the doors open, before people had got off. This woman started yelling and swearing at her! My SIL had absolutely no idea that it was rude to do this as it's perfectly normal in her country,

Dunno really.

People can ge oblivious.
It may be obvious to you but she may have been in her own world and simply not even thought about what she was doing.
A simple "excuse me" would have nudged her.

Stand there and say loudly, “If I had room to get off, YOU would be able to get ON”. And wait for her to move.

I sympathise, I find rudeness very triggering. But as you identify, it’s on us to manage that rage.

On the tube I directly say 'let me off' it's bloody awful out there. Same on the streets. Too many people everywhere.

I could see as we were pulling up that she clocked the queues either side of where the door would stop and wanted on first so stood in where the doorway was.