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Topless in gym pool?

102 replies

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 10:56

I don't know if this is such an obvious question, but men obviously just wear swimming shorts, as a woman, could I be topless? Or would I be asked to leave?

I mean people sexualise boobs but they're there for a purpose... to feed babies. Surely if men can a woman can?

Thank u

OP posts:
Comedycook · 09/10/2024 11:08

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:06

Hahahaha, I've not done it I'm generally just curious as to what people think on this

I mean how many times have you seen topless women in your local pool or gym?

There's your answer

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:08

Wishboneswishes · 09/10/2024 11:05

Oh here we go! Another OP with bugger all to do today. Another no story fake thread 🙄

I see you are also commenting... do you have nothing to do either HmmSmile

OP posts:
liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:08

YouveGotAFastCar · 09/10/2024 11:05

No, I don’t think you could. It’s not massively fair, but the law isn’t when it comes to this; either.

Plenty of people get asked to leave the pool when breastfeeding despite that being covered and legally allowed, so I can’t imagine they’d turn a blind eye to you just being topless.

Report back if you give it a go, though!

For sure I will!

OP posts:
Chowtime · 09/10/2024 11:08

Absolutely! Get your baps out! you go girl!

Justasmalltowngirllivinginalonelyworld · 09/10/2024 11:09

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz

"inches away from a nipple"
Sounds like it could be a line for a true crime doc, used in the trailer 😂

Bestyearever2024 · 09/10/2024 11:10

SnowyPetals · 09/10/2024 11:03

Why not give it a go and let us know how you get on?

Absolutely! Post photos 😀

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:10

Chowtime · 09/10/2024 11:08

Absolutely! Get your baps out! you go girl!

SmileSmile

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AutumnTimeForCosy24 · 09/10/2024 11:10

@liv4321S

you're not edgy or original.

CoffeeGood · 09/10/2024 11:10

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:05

I've not done it, but if I was just going about my business, they couldn't really do much about it, right? I mean would it be discrimination saying because I'm a woman and have boobs that's I HAVE to wear a bikini top?

They could chuck you out. It wouldn't be discrimination because most places have the right to refuse entry for any reason. You being topless would almost certainly be one of them. I'm absolutely a feminist but do not want to see swinging boobs flapping and splashing around if I'm honest.

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:10

AutumnTimeForCosy24 · 09/10/2024 11:10

@liv4321S

you're not edgy or original.

I didn't say I was? I asked a question hahaha

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Viviennemary · 09/10/2024 11:10

I'm quite a prude in some ways but I can see the argument that if men go topless why is it a no-no for women. But I wouldmt try it out at your gym pool.

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/10/2024 11:10

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:05

I've not done it, but if I was just going about my business, they couldn't really do much about it, right? I mean would it be discrimination saying because I'm a woman and have boobs that's I HAVE to wear a bikini top?

I believe it has actually been legally tested and the result was that at the point a female customer, after being asked to put a top on, became so insistent about not doing so, this insistence and refusal to do so became perceived as intent to alarm or distress.

The same basis is why the Naked Rambler is frequently arrested: naked rambling in areas where people are happy to turn a blind eye = not a crime. Naked rambling in areas where you have been politely asked not to do so and vehemently refuse to abide by the request = your intention becomes questionable.

OneDegreeOfSeparation · 09/10/2024 11:15

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:07

Hahahaha, yeah probably... the women however wouldn't I don't think. Even wearing a bikini gets you the daggers

I wear a bikini to the leisure centre pool all the time and no woman has ever given me daggers! Going topless there sounds like an anxiety dream to me though so no I wouldn't.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 09/10/2024 11:18

Justasmalltowngirllivinginalonelyworld · 09/10/2024 11:09

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz

"inches away from a nipple"
Sounds like it could be a line for a true crime doc, used in the trailer 😂

I'm imagining Larry lamb growling it ... Grin

Lovelysummerdays · 09/10/2024 11:19

My gym sent round an email about being appropriately dressed in the sauna ie. wear swimwear. I tend to wear a costume but there were some ladies complaining that being nude is the appropriate dress for a sauna.

These were single sex saunas as located in changing room, there wasn’t a pool or jacuzzi just a gym. I did think it was ironic as some years later they went all trans bandwagon (university gym) and get changed where you are most comfortable. So they are happy to police women being naked around each other but not men who want to be naked around women. 🤬🤯

KimberleyClark · 09/10/2024 11:19

Breasts play a role in sexual attraction and without that there would be no babies to feed. Ridiculous to pretend they’re not sexual.

SnowyPetals · 09/10/2024 11:20

Getting your boobs out down the local swimming pool is all very well until you run into your children's friends or your boss 😂😂

goodluckbinbin · 09/10/2024 11:28

I get that some people are just natural exhibitionists, but I wouldn't want to see your tits in the gym pool.

TreesWelliesKnees · 09/10/2024 11:28

So many times on mn I want to say to posters 'Men and women are not the same', but this is the most obvious.

Christwosheds · 09/10/2024 11:28

I had a friend years ago who would walk around topless, get on the bus etc. She did it as a protest against men being allowed to be bare but women not allowed. Occasionally a very bemused policeman would try and talk her out of it. Public decency was mentioned.
Friend was fabulous, tiny and fierce, I often wonder where she is now.

Wishboneswishes · 09/10/2024 11:31

liv4321S · 09/10/2024 11:08

I see you are also commenting... do you have nothing to do either HmmSmile

Not really though I wouldn’t bother starting a fake thread 🙄

Chowtime · 09/10/2024 11:31

Christwosheds · 09/10/2024 11:28

I had a friend years ago who would walk around topless, get on the bus etc. She did it as a protest against men being allowed to be bare but women not allowed. Occasionally a very bemused policeman would try and talk her out of it. Public decency was mentioned.
Friend was fabulous, tiny and fierce, I often wonder where she is now.

Probably living a quiet life being "cared for in the community" and sedated to within an inch of her life 😀

Jessie1259 · 09/10/2024 11:35

KimberleyClark · 09/10/2024 11:19

Breasts play a role in sexual attraction and without that there would be no babies to feed. Ridiculous to pretend they’re not sexual.

Nonsense, society dictates that. There are plenty of tribes where the women are topless and breasts aren't seen as sexual.

That said in this society they are considered incredibly sexual unfortunately - to the point that women often feel they have to go to ridiculous lengths to cover up the fact that they are BFing - so I'd give it a very big miss.

BunnyLake · 09/10/2024 11:36

Wishboneswishes · 09/10/2024 11:05

Oh here we go! Another OP with bugger all to do today. Another no story fake thread 🙄

They’re out in force today. You just know that they are not proper adults.

BunnyLake · 09/10/2024 11:40

Well if anyone is wanting to become the next Bianca Censori then go for it. You might even get your picture in your local paper.

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