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To burn my house down TRiGGER WARNING spiders

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moleymoley1 · 08/10/2024 18:42

As of last week I’ve been finding little black spiders everywhere in my house mainly by my back door and bathroom. They are tiny like money spiders but I literally have loads. I picked up my kittens bed and there was about 3 under there. I’m now worrying there was a mummy spider somewhere and has hatched eggs into my house 🫣 I’ve attached a picture for context

To burn my house down TRiGGER WARNING spiders
To burn my house down TRiGGER WARNING spiders
OP posts:
Caswallonthefox · 09/10/2024 01:16

I currently have a village of spiders in my kitchen. 2 above my window, 1 in my toaster, 1 near the edge of the window and 1 was underneath a piece of artwork pinned to a Cork board. I also have 2 in my dining room and at least 2 in my hallway.
They just hide and come out in the early hours of the morning to admire the view. They leave my bedroom alone, which I'm truly grateful for.
I've only ever seen false widows and cellar spiders.

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/10/2024 04:00

HermoniePotter · 08/10/2024 23:23

You always get spider lovers and spider haters on here, it’s the same every year. I use Indorex or squash them. The spider lovers will save them the haters will kill them, spiders will always exist, they’re no loss to society no matter what MN users say. They’re creepy little fuckers and I have no hesitation in making sure none of them invade my living space.

Edited to add I disagree with @WiddlinDiddlin. Spiders do bite as I was bitten by a spider in the UK. They are not harmless but people like this poster who have never been on the receiving end of a spider bite will always profess to them being “harmless”.

Edited

I didn't say they couldn't bite (in fact I did say they could) - and I have been bitten by both a false widow and a garden spider...

In the process of proving to someone that they indeed could and would, if provoked, bite. Yes, a very stupid thing to do and not very nice for the spiders, what can I say, I was a pretty irritating teenager.

Both hurt a bit less than a wasp sting or horsefly bite but more than a mosquito.

Both resulted in a slightly raised red, slightly itchy (not like a mozzie or flea bite though) lump that faded after a few days.

To get both to bite, I had to hold them firmly and poke my finger underneath at their mouth parts, they were extremely reluctant to bite so it took several goes.

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/10/2024 04:03

Kilroywashere · 09/10/2024 00:35

@WiddlinDiddlin Thanks for your info about spiders. Never realised that was a cellar spider, I assumed cave and cellar spiders were alternative names for the same creature - we have cave spiders in the garden which are much more robust - they live in an old underground wartime shelter.

Oooh I am jealous - only ever found cave spiders in canal tunnels (and not caves which I am quite familiar with and have definitely been in more caves than canal tunnels!) Yes they're a very different make and model (a much prettier spider in my opinion!) to the cellar spider!

LoudGreyBalonz · 10/10/2024 01:31

WiddlinDiddlin · 08/10/2024 20:42

Sorry peeps, spiders couldn't give a shit about conkers.

Most critters don't like things like lavender, peppermint oil, neem, tea tree etc - they're toxic to arthropods (actually they're toxic to most beings in sufficient quantity or inappropriate application), however mating season tends to over ride any of the deterrents.

You're seeing more spiders because its autumn and many spiders are now breeding, males out looking for love, running themselves into the ground to find Mrs Right Now I (Probably) Won't Eat You (literally they won't eat or drink in many cases and will cark it of exhaustion before they find their one true love).

I think your spider is Amaurobius ferox, male. Not a baby certainly, he has adult pedipalps (the boxing glove like jobbies in front of his face) but the photo isn't really good enough to tell more than 'its an adult male spider'.)

Spiderlings of most species, at the dispersal stage are absolutely tiny, head of a pin job, you'll barely notice them.

Hoover often. Don't have piles of stuff that the females of many species like to hide under, then you won't attract males (well, you wll unless you regularly lift the floorboards and skirting boards and hoover under those, a step most folk think is too far)...

Pesticides will kill them of course, leaving your home a veritable playground for all sorts of species that will trash your stuff and bite you when it wears off... but if you're scared of spiders that probably over-rides that issue.

If you can stand to, and have them, leave 'cellar spiders' (Pholcus phalangiodes if you want to google it to be sure, often called daddy long legs though this is just an example of how common names lead to misunderstandings as that name is used for opilones and a fly species too) alone - they will eat anything that wanders their way, including spiders vastly bigger than them (they really really like eating other spiders. And if their own numbers get too big they will snack on each other too).

My 'interesting' spider collection here has risen enormously since I started evicting the cellar spiders.

For those really terrified of spiders - move around and stomp.

A lot of our spiders (really, all of them barring the jumping spiders which you've probably never even noticed as ours are small and fairly dull) have really shitty eyesight, seeing just light/dark and movement.

They may appear to run AT you because you represent a big fixed object, your shadow offers what they believe is safety, so they run towards you to hide, not realising you actually represent danger.

Our big house spiders do the 'sprint and stop' thing because they have little stamina and are basically knackered and need to recharge, they're not plotting their next move as such or sizing you up as a potential victim. In a few weeks you may see more of this behaviour as they get dehydrated and fatigued in their almost always fatal hunt for a lady.

It is very very difficult for a spider to bite you - not because their fangs can't penetrate skin, most of the big ones can.

Its because their fangs lie flat against their underside, to use them they need to get above a small target, lift and then stab. Doing so to a large target like a human is like you trying to bite a chunk out of a double decker bus... extremely difficult, the angles are all wrong.

Humans therefore are typically only bitten when the spider is squashed against a person - so shake out duvets and clothing and shoes, and wear gloves if you're going rummaging in leaf litter.

Here endeth the spider lesson. Hang tight as they will all mostly bugger off over the next four weeks and most of the ones you see are destined to die of starvation, and those who survive and get to meet a lady... are getting all the joy of being an Amazon delivery bloke as spider 'sex' is really just them handing over a package of goo. Zero fun, and then death. Be smug you are not a spider?

Really enjoyed this post, thanks for taking the time!

LabFab · 10/10/2024 03:19

I mix some peppermint essential oil with water and spritz around all windows and doorframes regularly (it smells so nice as well), but having LOTS of cellar spiders around (the only ones that don't bother me) helps more than anything.

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 10/10/2024 07:33

Ok so we have had massive ones this year and hardly any last year which is not helping my fear but can someone clear this up for me?
house spiders are in your house all the time and only come out to mate? I see people always say oh it’s because it’s cold and they want shelter or something but I was always told they just live in your house all the time and therefore it’s cruel to relocate outside as they die?

I keep the spindly ones as I can just about put up with them out of the way and I have seen them eat the big house spiders with my own eyes!

Dustyblue · 11/10/2024 06:45

@WiddlinDiddlin Awesome info! I'm Australian so I'm guessing the species here differ somewhat?

Most common here are Huntsman's which can be quite some size!! but are regarded as harmless. Also you don't typically get more than 1 or 2 in the house at a time for some reason? I tend to leave them to it, or sometimes do the trick of putting a tupperware container over them and sliding a magazine under it, to trap them and take them outside.

'Daddy Long Legs' are common, we were taught that they're poisonous, but their fangs aren't strong enough to bite you. Seems to be a total myth!

Then of course there's the red back, highly poisonous. I've never seen one inside, only ever found them in the garden when lifting up rocks, wood etc.

And of course the funnel web, highly poisonous, never seen one in 50 years. As kids we were taught to shake our shoes out before putting them on 😃

Sorry to derail OP, I do understand your concern about "Where is the Mummy spider??"

WiddlinDiddlin · 11/10/2024 15:16

Whilst spiders fascinate me, I do not think I could cope with the Aussie Huntsman, they are a bit large and quick for my liking! I have a very jumpy 'reactive' nature that I work quite hard to suppress!

Redbacks would bother me far less, like most orb weavers, they would rather stay put in safety on their web (unless males in breeding season) and mind their own biz.

There are so many myths about daddy long legs and the three species commonly referred to as that.

Craneflies - can't bite anyone (often in teh US they're called 'skeeter eaters' though they actually don't), many have no mouthparts at all and do not feed as adults.

Pholcus sp. - too small to bite humans, venomous but only the same way most spiders are ( think theres just one species that isn't).

Opiliones - have little lobster claw like mouthparts, great for disassembling dead things and leaves and stuff or eating colembola, but zero use for biting big things, and no venom. Yet often said to be hugely venomous! Weird!

ForPearlViper · 11/10/2024 16:17

@WiddlinDiddlin Thank you for all the fascinating information. I always have lots of spiders in autumn but this year has been exceptional - loads all summer - I think because of the wet weather. Parts of my house are like Miss Haversham's and the seem to particularly like to spin webs on my car.

I don't mind them at all but I don't really want one crawling over me - hence an exhausting 20 minutes with a glass and cardboard trying to rehome the giant that had taken ownership of my bed. By goodness they can sprint.

I don't know if UK spiders bite but, fun fact, ladybirds do if provoked. I got a right nip on the finger from one. But to be fair I had just been bashed by me as I didn't know it was there when potting up a plant.

gano · 11/10/2024 16:31

HermoniePotter · 08/10/2024 23:23

You always get spider lovers and spider haters on here, it’s the same every year. I use Indorex or squash them. The spider lovers will save them the haters will kill them, spiders will always exist, they’re no loss to society no matter what MN users say. They’re creepy little fuckers and I have no hesitation in making sure none of them invade my living space.

Edited to add I disagree with @WiddlinDiddlin. Spiders do bite as I was bitten by a spider in the UK. They are not harmless but people like this poster who have never been on the receiving end of a spider bite will always profess to them being “harmless”.

Edited

Not all spider haters kill them. I can't stand spiders, but I do my best to relocate them with a plastic cup and piece of stiff cardboard. I may not like them but they're only trying to live out their lives.

LakieLady · 11/10/2024 17:01

@WiddlinDiddlin , you should have your own spider programme on tv! You are so knowledgeable and you plainly find them fascinating.

I'm a bit of an arachnophile, too, so I never do anything that will harm them. And I feel sorry for the arachnophobes, as this year seems to be a bumper year for them. I've never had as many in the house as I have this autumn.

Dustyblue · 11/10/2024 17:22

I was bitten once by some critter when I was sitting on grass with bare legs, likely a spider but I brushed it off so fast I didn't get a good look at it. Ended up with an abscess on the back of my leg.

Interestingly, the doctor who cut/drained it said that sometimes with spiders, it's not the venom that causes problems but the bacteria on their fangs. Maybe it's an Aussie thing LOL

Edited to add- most hospitals here have anti-venom for the poisonous ones. Some people actually earn money catching them to donate for this purpose. True!

Spider Venom Program - Australian Reptile Park | Visit our website

NeverDropYourMooncup · 11/10/2024 17:56

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 08/10/2024 21:44

It's a horrible phobia to have though, as I say to people; I'm not scared of mice or rats, or snakes. But there isn't a "mice" season, and you don't have to worry every autumn you're going to come home and find a ruddy great snake in the bath! No, just us arachnophobes!

No one condescendingly tells them "oh, it's only a snake", or rolls their eyes and says "that rat is more scared of you, just get it on a bit of card" 😤

No mouse season, you say?

<glares at cat>

'So, is this pathetic spectacle <gestures at squishy gummed corpse on the kitchen floor> every Sunday morning through every October for the last ten years your version of Trick AND Treating and not a seasonal Mouseageddon, then?'

underthelights · 11/10/2024 18:05

WiddlinDiddlin · 08/10/2024 20:42

Sorry peeps, spiders couldn't give a shit about conkers.

Most critters don't like things like lavender, peppermint oil, neem, tea tree etc - they're toxic to arthropods (actually they're toxic to most beings in sufficient quantity or inappropriate application), however mating season tends to over ride any of the deterrents.

You're seeing more spiders because its autumn and many spiders are now breeding, males out looking for love, running themselves into the ground to find Mrs Right Now I (Probably) Won't Eat You (literally they won't eat or drink in many cases and will cark it of exhaustion before they find their one true love).

I think your spider is Amaurobius ferox, male. Not a baby certainly, he has adult pedipalps (the boxing glove like jobbies in front of his face) but the photo isn't really good enough to tell more than 'its an adult male spider'.)

Spiderlings of most species, at the dispersal stage are absolutely tiny, head of a pin job, you'll barely notice them.

Hoover often. Don't have piles of stuff that the females of many species like to hide under, then you won't attract males (well, you wll unless you regularly lift the floorboards and skirting boards and hoover under those, a step most folk think is too far)...

Pesticides will kill them of course, leaving your home a veritable playground for all sorts of species that will trash your stuff and bite you when it wears off... but if you're scared of spiders that probably over-rides that issue.

If you can stand to, and have them, leave 'cellar spiders' (Pholcus phalangiodes if you want to google it to be sure, often called daddy long legs though this is just an example of how common names lead to misunderstandings as that name is used for opilones and a fly species too) alone - they will eat anything that wanders their way, including spiders vastly bigger than them (they really really like eating other spiders. And if their own numbers get too big they will snack on each other too).

My 'interesting' spider collection here has risen enormously since I started evicting the cellar spiders.

For those really terrified of spiders - move around and stomp.

A lot of our spiders (really, all of them barring the jumping spiders which you've probably never even noticed as ours are small and fairly dull) have really shitty eyesight, seeing just light/dark and movement.

They may appear to run AT you because you represent a big fixed object, your shadow offers what they believe is safety, so they run towards you to hide, not realising you actually represent danger.

Our big house spiders do the 'sprint and stop' thing because they have little stamina and are basically knackered and need to recharge, they're not plotting their next move as such or sizing you up as a potential victim. In a few weeks you may see more of this behaviour as they get dehydrated and fatigued in their almost always fatal hunt for a lady.

It is very very difficult for a spider to bite you - not because their fangs can't penetrate skin, most of the big ones can.

Its because their fangs lie flat against their underside, to use them they need to get above a small target, lift and then stab. Doing so to a large target like a human is like you trying to bite a chunk out of a double decker bus... extremely difficult, the angles are all wrong.

Humans therefore are typically only bitten when the spider is squashed against a person - so shake out duvets and clothing and shoes, and wear gloves if you're going rummaging in leaf litter.

Here endeth the spider lesson. Hang tight as they will all mostly bugger off over the next four weeks and most of the ones you see are destined to die of starvation, and those who survive and get to meet a lady... are getting all the joy of being an Amazon delivery bloke as spider 'sex' is really just them handing over a package of goo. Zero fun, and then death. Be smug you are not a spider?

Fascinating post! Thanks for sharing I now want to know more about spiders 🕷️

hilariousnamehere · 11/10/2024 18:09

WiddlinDiddlin · 08/10/2024 20:42

Sorry peeps, spiders couldn't give a shit about conkers.

Most critters don't like things like lavender, peppermint oil, neem, tea tree etc - they're toxic to arthropods (actually they're toxic to most beings in sufficient quantity or inappropriate application), however mating season tends to over ride any of the deterrents.

You're seeing more spiders because its autumn and many spiders are now breeding, males out looking for love, running themselves into the ground to find Mrs Right Now I (Probably) Won't Eat You (literally they won't eat or drink in many cases and will cark it of exhaustion before they find their one true love).

I think your spider is Amaurobius ferox, male. Not a baby certainly, he has adult pedipalps (the boxing glove like jobbies in front of his face) but the photo isn't really good enough to tell more than 'its an adult male spider'.)

Spiderlings of most species, at the dispersal stage are absolutely tiny, head of a pin job, you'll barely notice them.

Hoover often. Don't have piles of stuff that the females of many species like to hide under, then you won't attract males (well, you wll unless you regularly lift the floorboards and skirting boards and hoover under those, a step most folk think is too far)...

Pesticides will kill them of course, leaving your home a veritable playground for all sorts of species that will trash your stuff and bite you when it wears off... but if you're scared of spiders that probably over-rides that issue.

If you can stand to, and have them, leave 'cellar spiders' (Pholcus phalangiodes if you want to google it to be sure, often called daddy long legs though this is just an example of how common names lead to misunderstandings as that name is used for opilones and a fly species too) alone - they will eat anything that wanders their way, including spiders vastly bigger than them (they really really like eating other spiders. And if their own numbers get too big they will snack on each other too).

My 'interesting' spider collection here has risen enormously since I started evicting the cellar spiders.

For those really terrified of spiders - move around and stomp.

A lot of our spiders (really, all of them barring the jumping spiders which you've probably never even noticed as ours are small and fairly dull) have really shitty eyesight, seeing just light/dark and movement.

They may appear to run AT you because you represent a big fixed object, your shadow offers what they believe is safety, so they run towards you to hide, not realising you actually represent danger.

Our big house spiders do the 'sprint and stop' thing because they have little stamina and are basically knackered and need to recharge, they're not plotting their next move as such or sizing you up as a potential victim. In a few weeks you may see more of this behaviour as they get dehydrated and fatigued in their almost always fatal hunt for a lady.

It is very very difficult for a spider to bite you - not because their fangs can't penetrate skin, most of the big ones can.

Its because their fangs lie flat against their underside, to use them they need to get above a small target, lift and then stab. Doing so to a large target like a human is like you trying to bite a chunk out of a double decker bus... extremely difficult, the angles are all wrong.

Humans therefore are typically only bitten when the spider is squashed against a person - so shake out duvets and clothing and shoes, and wear gloves if you're going rummaging in leaf litter.

Here endeth the spider lesson. Hang tight as they will all mostly bugger off over the next four weeks and most of the ones you see are destined to die of starvation, and those who survive and get to meet a lady... are getting all the joy of being an Amazon delivery bloke as spider 'sex' is really just them handing over a package of goo. Zero fun, and then death. Be smug you are not a spider?

I am terrified of spiders but this was a really interesting read, thank you @WiddlinDiddlin . Will try and keep all this in mind - succeeded in using a spider catcher with fronds to relocate a huge one for first time ever this year so hoping this is progress?!

ILoveToCleanSaidNooneEver · 11/10/2024 19:06

I have cellar spiders all over my house. The only reason it is a pain is when it comes to cleaning because I don't want to kill them, so I just leave them be and clean when they leave that area.

@WiddlinDiddlin do you know if relocating the cellar spiders to the shed could kill them? I'm in the UK so it can get cold in the shed.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/10/2024 13:50

Spiders on the whole will just find shelter if relocated.

All these 'house' species are capable of finding other shelter. Whilst some of them have moved here (along with the movement of people and goods) from warmer climates and this has been helped by us providing loads of shelter in the form of houses, sheds, barns etc and perhaps wouldn't have survived at earlier points in our history, the cold isn't the biggest risk out there - predators are (blue tits are savage spider predators, as are many other birds).

Chucking a house spider or pholcus or whatever you've found under a hedge or in the shed will be fine, and sometimes we find species that are better off outside who have accidentally wandered in.

The only thing you really shouldn't do, is if you find a non-native spider say on your bananas or grapes, don't whizz that outside. Instead if you go on FB theres a British Spider Identification Group and posting a photo there, someone will take it off your hands. Pop it in a plastic tub and you can post it to a spider nerd. (It is incredibly unlikely to be harmful!)

@Dustyblue - this is pretty much the risk with all biting insects, the bacteria introduced into a tiny puncture can be an issue. That may be from their fangs or from the saliva with blood sucking insects, it may have been on your skin and brought in with the bite. And of course anyone can have an allergic reaction to a novel allergen.
Most people tend not to take tiny puncture wounds seriously, and yet they can be a far bigger risk of infection than larger, freely bleeding wounds, and this makes the risk higher as people only tend to notice and do something after they see signs of infection. If you have a big wound you clean it, but no one cleans an insect bite until it starts to look icky!

Those sheet webs are impressive, and actually very rarely caused by spiders. It is much more common that these huge bush/grass/ground covering webs are made by one of various species of caterpillar. (THe ones in that article are made by spiders but thats a rare phenomenon caused by very wet weather forcing the tiny spiders up further out of the vegetation).

SinnerBoy · 12/10/2024 14:09

WiddlinDiddlin · 08/10/2024 20:42

A lot of our spiders (really, all of them barring the jumping spiders which you've probably never even noticed as ours are small and fairly dull) have really shitty eyesight, seeing just light/dark and movement.

Thanks for your excellent and highly informative posts! We get zebra spiders in the back yard and can watch them for ages. It's great if we can catch one in the magnifying pot, my daughter loves them and will try to keep one as a pet... She's got no fear and will catch them with a glass and paper.

We often have house spiders behind the cistern of the outside loo and she will catch houseflies to feed them; they come out like Mike Tyson.

We don't get wolf spiders up here in the Northeast, but we saw a few a couple of years ago, when we were in Hertfordshire, on holiday.

I used to see hunting spiders, about the size of a house spider, all black, with a shiny thorax, but not since I was a kid. I've never been able to identify them.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/10/2024 15:33

Big black shiny spiders -tube webs (segestria sp.) and steatoda grossa could answer that description, S. grossa is often such a dark brown as to look black, but isn't really quite as big as a house spider.

The mouse spider could answer that description too, Scotophaeus blackwalli, the abdomen is really a very furry satiny grey/black but in some lights would look like shiny black - they are chunky, and are speed hunters rather than web-makers. I have only seen one here (west midlands) twice.

I love jumping spiders, they are absolutely adorable and we have quite a few species but the most strikingly marked is Salticus scenicus, the zebra jumping spider - the rest are generally rather brown, some a bit fuzzy, and very small. They do love a sunbathe on a warm sunny wall or fence and are very entertaining if you get to watch them hunting.

Moujojojo · 12/10/2024 15:41

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 08/10/2024 21:44

It's a horrible phobia to have though, as I say to people; I'm not scared of mice or rats, or snakes. But there isn't a "mice" season, and you don't have to worry every autumn you're going to come home and find a ruddy great snake in the bath! No, just us arachnophobes!

No one condescendingly tells them "oh, it's only a snake", or rolls their eyes and says "that rat is more scared of you, just get it on a bit of card" 😤

I have pet rats, snakes and spiders 🤣

Alltheyearround · 12/10/2024 15:50

StarDolphins · 08/10/2024 21:13

This post is sad. Hoover them, squash them, indorex them😭 they’re just trying to live their lives & don’t deserve to just be killed. Have a heart & put a glass over them, put paper under & put them outside. They’re petrified of us.

They will probably die. They are indoor spiders, they are always with us, under floorboards and in the walls but we see them as they are mate seeking missiles at this time of year. They don't come in from the cold.

Just going to fact check this with @WiddlinDiddlin who is fount of all spidery knowledge.

I am thinking about Karcher peppermint spray, even if its a placebo. And I do have piles of stuff aka lady spider hidey places. Oh dear.

Alltheyearround · 12/10/2024 15:55

LabFab · 10/10/2024 03:19

I mix some peppermint essential oil with water and spritz around all windows and doorframes regularly (it smells so nice as well), but having LOTS of cellar spiders around (the only ones that don't bother me) helps more than anything.

This is my Plan also ^^ I have had 2 large ones in so far but yet to try peppermint spray.

Alltheyearround · 12/10/2024 16:00

Purplebunnie · 08/10/2024 21:48

I've made up my own with peppermint oil, washing up liquid and water. You do need to be careful as it is poisonous to cats - not sure about a ready bought spray

oh bugger. Got a cat so can't use then?

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