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Original poster

To dislike someone largely based on their hair?

48 replies

HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 18:55

Ok so I realise that this sounds unreasonable instantly.

But you don't understand.

This woman has hair like you see in american films when someone shows their yearbook photo.

It's a short mullet, long over the ears, with a kind of frosted highlighting that means it has no actual colour - they've picked non colour for the tint, over a kind of mouse, so the effect is not colour, but a kind of a texture. The texture of everything that was wrong and bad about the 80's.

When I see her hair I feel fear. And she wears her hair with stone washed jeans for casual, and a shiny grey skirt suit for work.

Does she not see? it's 2008 for shits sake!

And I realise that this makes me an unbearably bad person, but really, if you could see, you'd know. You'd feel it too, I know you would.

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MrsMattie · 22/04/2008 18:56

PMSL

posieflump · 22/04/2008 18:57

yanbu - what must she be thinking, maybe she loves Dallas

Lauriefairycake · 22/04/2008 18:57

dislike a bit strong

but that's a very funny post

is she 76 years old (not to diss any older perkins out there)

BetteNoire · 22/04/2008 18:57

I have shit hair.
But I really am rather lovely.
Don't hate me!

littlelapin · 22/04/2008 18:58

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HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 18:59

Everyone has bad hair days, often people could do better, but this is different. This is a woman in her early thirties, and she's proud of her hair, she has it done like that. On Purpose.

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Chequers · 22/04/2008 18:59

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BetteNoire · 22/04/2008 19:00

Well yes, to pay to have bad hair is worthy of scorn.
My bad hair is au naturel.

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HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 19:00

No you see Lapin Life on Mars etc that's all that is quite good about the 80's. She'd have travelled from the very darkest recesses of the 80's and surely have disintegrated on arrival.

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Flamesparrow · 22/04/2008 19:00

I am going to offend someone now (bound to), but I feel the same about that wonky thing that people seem to be sprouting - where is is sort of a bob on one side, and then shaved much shorter up the other (meaning left/right not front/back)... it always looks to me like they fell asleep and the kids attacked it.

constancereader · 22/04/2008 19:01

"When I see her hair I feel fear."
Hilarious!
I can see that it is the intention that makes it worse, anyone can have crap hair accidently.

Ambi · 22/04/2008 19:01

v. funny - maybe she got the idea that the 80's fashion was back and went for it BIG style! Reminds me of the wedding singer film.

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HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 19:02

This is a rural village. I don't think she's thought it through, I think that round here many people just haven't evolved past 89. It's bloody scary at times.

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nametaken · 22/04/2008 19:06

I live in a place like that too. It's got it's advantages though. Hardly anyone has internet access because they are all stuck in a 1980's timewarp so I can bitch about them on mumnset without fear of impunity.

YANBU - is there any possible way you could very gently and kindly show her the error of her ways. What about buying a hair magazine for yourself, looking through it when she's there, and saying, ooooh look at this one, it would look lovely on you.

saadia · 22/04/2008 19:09

I don't blame you at all. I once worked with a woman who must have been late forties/early fifties and she had long bleached so blonde it's white hair, and it looked so dry I couldn't stand it.

TenaciousG · 22/04/2008 19:10

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HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 19:18

She looks down on my, from her high white stilettos - she would NEVER take advice from me, fashion or other wise. She lives in a palatial new build with dallas style decor, she's made it, she's there, she's all about the shag pile, she thinks i'm shabby. She purses her pearlescent lips and raises her narrows her electric blue shadowed eyes and pities me for not having such a frosted freak show of a head.

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Spidermama · 22/04/2008 19:22

YA most certainly NBA. However I fear the mullet has been making a bizarre and unwelcome return for quite sometime.

I've felt the fear upon meeting otherwise intelligent, reasonably attractive women who've had similar atrocious barnets.

QuintessentialShadows · 22/04/2008 19:27

Oh, I know her! She studied law when I studied literature at adjoining faculties!
She dressed the same way then, and had her hair exactly so! She has not changed in over 20 years!

Fllight · 22/04/2008 19:28

This is ALREADY thread of the week

Your name, your name, I can't get over it

Yanbu, I hate myself based almost entirely on my hair.

DirtySexyMummy · 22/04/2008 19:29

flame - what you describe is a really trendy haircut, for people with slightly different but still really good fashion sense. They are probably feeling about you

My best friends hair is exactly like that!

OP - YANBU. What is wrong with some people?!

scottishmummy · 22/04/2008 19:30

where do you live?Deepest Lanarkshire was it Scary 1980'a hair mmmm nice

Flamesparrow · 22/04/2008 19:32

DSM - I know It makes me feel really old (I am 27 ffs) and like I am looking at policemen thinking they should be in school still.... I like symmetry... tis a curse.

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HereHairFear · 22/04/2008 19:40

I quite like this name too. Does anyone get the withnail and I reference? [ponce]

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lemonstartree · 22/04/2008 19:46

YAB completely U

but very funny !