Breastfeeding jewellery

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I don't really understand why you would want it, it's a bodily fluid. The idea of sending my bodily fluid through the post to some stranger to make it into a ring makes me feel a bit sick. I probably an being unreasonable but it can't just be me

I am with you on that one. And also post-mortem jewellery made out of ashes of your loved one. Grim.

Totally agree about both !

I wouldn’t want it personally, but I suppose when you think about what quite a lot of things are or have been made from (bone, antler, fur, skin, ambergris, baleen, pearl etc) then bits of human isn’t any more sick-making or “grim” in comparison.

I've got a pendant. I keep it as a momento of something special to me only that was the foundation to my relationship with my child. I don't think I could wear it out. It is made from a bodily fluid after all. A bit Victorian, like watch ropes made of hair.

Don't do it then.

It's more "grim" imo to make fun of a harmless way people choose to grieve that affects you not one jot, @Catza.

I wouldn’t do it but I don’t mind it, including things made from ashes or plaited hair. What harm is there in it.

It's certainly not for me but not because I think it's 'grim', it's just incredibly twee.

But some people like twee things, so where's the harm?

I love my breastmilk jewellery, it’s powdered and mixed with resin so it’s not like I’m spraying people in the face with it whenever it touches anything!

I totally get where you’re coming from but I’m so proud of myself for feeding my daughter for as long as I did, that I wanted to preserve some of my milk and that seemed like a nice way to do it!

Other people’s bodily fluids are everywhere, no matter how hard we try to avoid them haha!

Ive often thought about doing the ashes of my cat, it would bring me comfort to have him close.
if i lost it though it would devastate me.

Not my cuppa but most things child and birth related are a bit gross anyway

I don't do them and I don't wear them. I also missed where exactly did you see me making fun of anyone in my comment.

I find it hard to feel any sort of concern about wearing solid breast milk or jewellery made from ashes when I’m quite happy to drink cow’s milk, have leather shoes, have feathers in cushions and eat meat. I hate to sound like a militant vegan, but we ingest far more disgusting things than either our own bodily fluids or the ashes of a loved one.

Easy, don't have them.

I have earrings and no one knows what is in them. They are just simple earrings...

God yes awful. So mawkish.

I don't have any but can see the appeal. My breastfeeding days were the happiest of my life, I loved having a newborn. Breastfeeding is quite all-consuming when you first become a mum so I suppose it's the key reminder of that time. (Not judging parents who don't breastfeed btw, just my personal experience).

You called a death/grief custom "grim"

There are cultures who make things from ashes, from beads to statues to art. Just because you don't want it doesn't make it "grim"

Quoting didn't work, see above.

This is a very personal choice. I have a ring made from my Dads ashes, it's beautiful and no one but me and my immediate family know what it's made from. We were very close and it's a comfort to me to wear it.

Each to their own, but I do find the "grim" reference quite offensive.

I agree, but I didn’t find breastfeeding a rewarding experience. I did it because it’s good for the kids, but I couldn’t wait to stop. And I found it kind of gross honestly: all the fluid leaking everywhere, the way it congeals and how it stinks if it gets on your clothes.

If I were one of those women who found breastfeeding to be magical and beautiful I’d probably feel differently.

Isn't too each their own a wonderful thing? There's so much people love that completely baffle me but if its not offensive, cruel, dangerous then I smile enthusiastically and enjoy their joy.

I agree. Total madness. I mean why would you.

I'm in neither camp. I found it easy and straightforward and was very pleased I was able to have the easy route of feeding anywhere and anytime without prep.

I'd have been really disappointed to have to bottle feed but I didn't find breastfeeding magical, just practical and pleasant.

I don't think the jewellery is "grim", I'm just a bit bemused by the desire to commemorate something which to me is entirely mundane and everyday.

I think it's a case of each to their own. I wouldn't want a piece of jewellery made out of breast milk in a thousand years, but it's not harming anyone.

The idea of making something from breast milk just makes me want to heave, though. Firstly because it just makes me think of curdled, sour milk in general. Secondly because the idea of old body fluids festering is rank. And thirdly because I generally find the whole 'breastfeeding is special and precious' cult really odd and uncomfortable. It's not like it's commemorating a person who has died. It's commemorating a fairly messy biological process. So it's a no from me.

However, I would really like jewellery made out of someone's ashes. Ashes, bones, teeth, hair of dead people don't upset me at all and the idea of keeping them or making something from them, after someone has died, doesn't feel in the slightest bit weird or gross to me. If someone asked me if I wanted to keep one of my partner's actual bones after he died, I'd probably say yes. Whereas I know a lot of people (most people?) think that would be utterly hideous.

Basically, I'm more of a goth than an earth mother.

You can use seamen for this too.

Jizzellery.

It’s dried, made into a powder and then resin is added. It’s not solid milk that leaks whenever you wear it or anyone touches it.

It’s very ignorant to not be able to understand why some people would want to commemorate their BF journey - for some (like me) it was very emotional and hard and at times really really really challenging. I am very proud of being to achieve something I wanted and my husband bought me the jewellery.

Obviously each to their own but it’s not hard to see why someone would make a different choice to you!