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Nominated driver

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Namechangetheyarewatching · 04/10/2024 09:26

So there is a team of three, me and two men, then our line manager man, then his line manager man, then his line manager female, we don't see her very often perhaps once a year at an away day.

That's just to give you the make up of our group.

The three of us are the only people in the organisation who do our role.

So one of the men in my team uses a wheelchair and up until now his wife has dropped him to meetings as and when required, we WFH 99% so not often.

They have now arranged a hire vehicle that can take his wheelchair, but no driver.

I have been asked to drive and pick up the vehicle (hour round trip), then drive back and pick up my colleague and then drive to the meeting (hour there), doing it all in reverse on the way back. It takes me an hour to drive from mine to the meeting.

So a 4 hour trip, picking up a colleague, hour meeting, home.

Or 2 hour trip, hour meeting, home.

I have to be honest, I don't want to become the default driver, it's not my responsibility.

YABU, suck it up help a colleague

YANBU, they should find another way, such as a driver

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cherish123 · 12/10/2024 15:31

If it's in your own time, YANBU and I would not do it.
If it's in work time, I'd do it.

Ibelieveicanfly988 · 12/10/2024 16:11

I can't believe a manager would rather someone spend the best part of 4-5 hours a day driving rather than getting on with work when there is access to work to fund support for disabled people/can be done on teams! If this was public services money/services that clients are paying for and 4 hours of time is being spent on driving instead of doing their work I'd be annoyed!

Gcsunnyside23 · 12/10/2024 16:20

Namechangetheyarewatching · 12/10/2024 15:28

I agree

It's just such a faff and I do feel mean, but FFS I don't want to be responsible for a vehicle that's not mine and extra travel.

I would also push this, I would hate to have to drive the hire car and panic incase something happens to it. You've already said no so it's really unfair they push it. What has your other colleagues said? Has you manager said why they won't get him a taxi?

Namechangetheyarewatching · 13/10/2024 08:26

I haven't spoken to anyone else about, I don't even know if he has spoken to the colleague about it.

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