To be annoyed to see my (foreign) name misspelt in work email?

[Startingagainandagain]

We are working with an external agency on a project.

I am originally from an EU country and I have a first name of Latin origin, but frankly not that difficult to spell correctly.

The agency lead sent me an email, with several of my team members copied in, where they misspelt my name, anglicized it and turned it into a male name in the process...

I have spoken to the agency contact on Teams and emailed them several time so they know full well I am a woman. My name is on my email signature so there is no reason not to spell it correctly.

AIBU to think this is rather unprofessional and to feel annoyed that someone could not double-check they had spelt a foreign name correctly in a work context?

Should I point this out to them or let it slide?

I see a solution has already been suggested, but just wanted to say I feel your pain!

I have a similar name of Latin origin (my family are from said country) but it’s really quite popular now over here, particularly among very young people. To the point it’s eclipsed the English equivalent.

It’s so annoying when people get it wrong! There’s a particular sound in the middle of my name that is written differently in the language my name comes from, as opposed to the way it’s written in English, and people so often get that wrong. I’ve even heard of English children now being called my name but with the misspelling!

Re making the name masculine, that also happens to me. Funnily enough, I’m now learning a language that uses the vocative case (means you say names differently when addressing that person, basically), and my name becomes the masculine version. Sounds very funny to my ears!

Edit - i feel like it’s quite likely we have the same name!

I remember an Alistair who used to get Alligator coming up on the computer. It was at least a cause of merriment and obviously it was the machine rather than a person doing it.

Happens to me all the time, no amount of complaining gets people to get it right.

I have a common English (ish) name that has been popular for 30+ years and I regularly get called a totally different name on emails that starts with the same letter (think Hannah being called Helen, or Emily being called Elizabeth). It happens probably once every couple of months. I just shrug it off.

I’m English, it happens to me, I’m not precious.

My DD had an unusual EU spelt name. It was regularly misspelt on all sorts of school paperwork.

It really pissed me off that the school would go to the trouble to ensure other second generation migrant children had their names spelt correctly but DD had to put up with an anglicised equivalent.

I would make a fuss if I were you.

LOL

So your original plan before this post was to reply all to give the perpetrator a ticking off with an audience of everyone on cc?

I can't believe you're actually making this into a thing and sending a special email about this even if you don't now copy the others. My v traditional English name gets mispelt and mis pronounced sometimes. I know they mean me. Why make a fuss...

It's idleness and people are. Try not to take it personally.

Some 'foreigners' are given nick names - which is deliberate and undermining.

Your scenario seems like a careless typo.
Like an Italian man named Nichola and then an English person thinks it's a woman or the S must be missing at the end. It's not malicious.

Don't get hung up on the reason being your name's foreign- ness. I have a very British name that has several variants of the surname. People always get it wrong, despite the correct version being on my email signature.

I don't think it being "foreign" has anything to do with it.

For a start Britain is very multi cultural.

I just think that people tend to forget the spelling of names.

Also when they are mailing a long list of people, it can be easy to make a mistake

I've got a common 1960s name with 2 spellings. I get slightly irritated when it's spelled wrong by those who know me well but I usually let it slide with others.

It is rude, particularly if it keeps happening with the same company.

Call centres abroad insist on addressing me by the male version of my first name, no matter how many times I tell them I'm not male, and I don't want them addressing me by my first name anyway! One idiot working for Vodafone even changed my personal details on the account to the male version, meaning the next time I rang I couldn't get past security because I was giving the wrong first name...luckily I got through to a UK vodafone call centre and the advisor dropped a strong hint to what had happened... it was the final straw so I made a formal complaint and got £150 credited to my bill.

The minute the contract was up I left Vodafone...

Don't even get me started on my surname, it's French and no one can get it right. Recently I had a tradesman look at his worksheet, very rudely say 'I'm not even attempting to say THAT'...his firm promptly got a complaint, too.

why let it slide? what else will they let slide at work if they can't even get a name right?

Just email to correct it
I get the male version of my name constantly and am thinking about changing it as I'm so frustrated with it
Even in an email with my name and signature

Same! My surname is British and has 2 spellings, it's on my work email signature, any reports I sign off, and my work badge. I still get the non correct spelling of it, all the time. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I get this all the time. My (admittedly, passive aggressive) response is to misspell their Anglican names.

“Hi Adum, thanks for your email”. “Thanks for reaching out, Stive.”

I have a very common 1980s name spelt three diff ways so this happens to me frequently. Even my own dad has spelt it wrong in Xmas cards. My son has a more rare name but perfectly spellable name it gets spelt and pronounced incorrectly all the time. It’s not really worth getting stressed about.

Does it really matter though.

I've had people call me the completely wrong name.

I didn't give a shit.

I'd let it slide.

I have an uncomplicated, English name and people still spell it incorrectly on emails even when they can see my name right there. (Jill instead of Gill)

It’s sloppy but I don’t think there’s anything more to it. I have a very simple & relatively common English name and people very often spell it wrong (or bizarrely, call me something completely different) in response to my emails.
I’d let it slide.

It’s obviously a mistake.

It matters when it’s a “foreign” name being Anglicised, or someone simply not being arsed to learn to spell/pronounce a foreign name.

My name and surname are both long & unusual (thanks parents!).

Regularly spelt incorrect even though they are correctly spelt in the email address.

My favourite one is a guy who changes by name completely - something like this,

My name is Isabella Goldsmith.
His version is Clarabella Greensmith.

Every single time!!!

It's not intentional and he has apologised, corrects it for a while, then changes back. It's like he has hardwired it into his brain wrong.

Every so often a central mailing time will send an email will issue company wide asking if anyone knows Clara Greensmith as post has arrived for her & they don't know where to direct it.

It used to annoy me but I no longer care.

I don't let it slide purely because it's
1-right there in the previous email, email address and/or signature
2- I spell their "foreign to me name correctly" so come on like
3- it's 5 fucking letters and nothing special

I misspelled many English names after 3rd time they did mine. Somehow, they never misspelled mine again after. Chrees instead of Chris type of thing.

Though many people are incapable of spelling correctly even their fellow colleagues' or bosses' British names... It's just lack of care and basic respect to who you work with