Why do I feel everything so deeply?!

[Sabrinaspellman01]

Just some late night pondering really. I just feel things really deeply, for example worry about family members/loved ones, get all upset about things that haven't even happened, feel really sorry for people I see in my every day life. It's so strange. I'm not depressed or anything like that, I know I'm probably just quite a sensitive person in general. Does anyone else get this/know what I mean? Thanks 😊

I'm exactly the same and take everything to heart/overthink it all. Not sure if it's a curse or a blessing tbh

Yes exactly! Spent about 20 mins crying over a video of some strangers earlier 😢 🤣definitely a blessing and a curse at the same time, I agree. It's so hard at times isn't it! Glad I'm not alone though, thanks for replying x

Are you a Pisces by any chance?

Hi, no I'm a cancer so actually fit in well with my zodiac traits haha!

I once read something about taste buds - if you look at people's tongues in microscopic detail, some people have loads of taste buds packed in, while others have far fewer. So although everyone experiences the same tastes, for some people it's intense whilst for other people it's mild.

I know that emotions are a lot more complex, but I've always felt it's kind of similar to that - some people experience them more deeply than others, higher highs and lower lows.

I used to be like this then life beat me up and spat me out without sounding woe is me I've had a tough time with lots of abuse and sadness. Weirdly the final nail in the being a sensitive Sally coffin was when my beloved cat died at only 3 years old from a rare disease. It broke me and I spent weeks mourning him. That was about 7 years ago, since then some really shit things have happened dh almost died from a pulmonary embolism, I almost died from sepsis etc and nothing. I'm like a stone, I can't remember the last time I cried, I'm now very pragmatic and perhaps cynical.

I don't know which is better to be honest. I think I miss the level of feeling I used to have.

Same. My therapist suggested I’m a highly sensitive person. There’s a lot of information online about it if you look it up. I think it’s mostly a good thing, because most of what I do professionally and personally is in pursuit of making the world better/tackling injustices/fighting for equity.

I think people who have been treated badly or have suffered from depression understand and acknowledge the hurt that other people feel. 2 people in my local area have died by suicide this week, I don’t know either of them but I have cried this week at how low and desperate they must have been feeling that this was their only option

Yes. Don’t most people?

Yep, look up Highly Sensitive Person as Beats say. I literally toe my curls in embarrassment for other people, feel so sad for strangers that I cry (like you, OP).

Because you're human..

I am the same and always have been. My Nan was the same and my daughter has inherited the high sensitivity. My siblings don’t have it and neither do my other kids. It’s HSP.
Everything affects me deeply. If someone has hurt me it’s literally like I’m being wounded. The pain is so deep sometimes over something fairly small and I cry for hours. I take everything to heart.

🙂Whatever you do ,avoid the Sistine Chapel, apparently it is overwhelming.

DD is an HSP.

I am not.

We have learnt to understand each other's feelings and reactions!

Same, I'll often tear up at people who look or act uncomfortable. Oddly I am a Pisces but unsure of the link? I'm just very empathetic and spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about other people who aren't in my immediate circle of friends or family. Or another example is I can't comprehend the suffering that is ongoing with war right now and how I can be sat drinking a coffee and reading a book or doing anything normal whilst people are suffering unimaginable pain, held as sex slaves, it just does not compute

I'm a Virgo/libra and am also the same. I used to think it was an asset but as I've got older, it definitely feels like a curse- I envy people who don't look too deeply into things. I pray and hope my children aren't like me. I feel burdened at times by my own emotions.

Being Highly sensitive is also a trait of autism if anyone feels other symptoms they have 'fit' the condition...

No.You’ve seen the views on MN, surely, to see there’s many, that couldn’t care less.

I read a poem once with a line close to

“it is both a blessing and a curse to feel things so very deeply”

and that always struck a chord with me because I feel exactly like that! Sometimes I wish I could switch it off but at the end of the day I think that it makes a great empath and we need more kindness in the world.

I do try and avoid certain things when I know I’m feeling particularly emosh, so I don’t watch the news unless I know I feel quite “hard” for example (that’s the best way I can explain it!)

I have ADHD, endometriosis and PCOS (lucky fucker, me) and my theory is they play into it big time.

but also it could just be me being an Aquarius 🤣

Laugh whenever I think of that, would have loved to witness it albeit the vicarious embarrassment would have done for me😂

OP I'm significantly more sensitive for others than myself. When it's me who gets a knock I'm actually quite sanguine but god, my kids, a pet, a loved one, even stories on the news. Ten times worse on others' behalf, and can easily lose perspective if I'm not guarded. Caring is good but it also manifests as anxiety so it's a psychological laugh a minute when there's issues with my family. I don't want to burden them with my anxious feelings so I spend a lot of time internalising that, suffering guilt for not being more mentally robust, while trying to solve their problem/make them feel okay about things. It's exhausting.

I'm aware I'm like this so I try my best to not let it get away from me. Been a lifelong thing though. Consolation, I bet a lot of us use this personality trait for good purposes. Hope so, anyway.

Aww, do you use this line, for all your put downs.

Well it's got bugger all to do with star signs that I do know

No, because not all humans feel this way, that’s the whole point of the thread.

I don’t think everyone is like this, no. I think a lot of people don’t really engage with other people’s emotions at all until they are forced to.

Generally I think it’s a good thing as long as it doesn’t cripple you from putting yourself first when you need to and critically as long as it isn’t used by others to manipulate you.

Being able to “read” people is definitely an advantage in all sorts of situations. But knowing when your needs have to take priority is also very important. Life isn’t usually kind to people who endlessly give of themselves without knowing when to say no.

I'm the same. DD is too. I think it's just a sign of having a lot of empathy and being quite sensitive.
I notice I'm more sensitive when I'm hormonal so it might be a sign of hormonal changes.

No.