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To ask how I can successfully ringfence this money? (Please don’t post for moral judgement)

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Jaalp · 02/10/2024 14:26

I am a single parent to a 3 year old who will start school in the next two years. I have saved up a significant amount of money for schools fees. As a single parent I am constantly worried about job loss or anything else that could affect things. I am aware that if for some reason I was made redundant, for example, if I have more than a certain amount in savings then I would be expected to use this before claiming universal credit etc.

I have no intention of claiming universal credit but life happens and I have to be conscious of the potential things that could happen.

My question is, is there any way to put this money in an account for my child that would be protected as theirs and not counted in an assessment for universal credit etc should that ever happen?

Please don’t make this is a private school bashing thread or about playing the system etc. I’ve worked hard all my life and intend to continue to do so. Thanks.

OP posts:
Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:33

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 18:19

OP your post says "I'm considerably wealthier than most of you reading this because of my high income. Should I lose that income, I'm unwilling to give up my rich person trappings. How can I hide my money from you, the taxpayer, so that if I lose that income the taxpayer will continue to pay for my luxury of choice. Please tell me how to cheat the system like this, but absolutely no comments on my morals."

@BarbaraHoward you have mis read my OP. I never said I wanted to cheat the system. I wanted to know if there was a legal way around this, which it turns out there potentially is, in the form of a trust fund. Your comprehension skills need some work.

OP posts:
InterIgnis · 02/10/2024 19:34

MrsSunshine2b · 02/10/2024 19:15

No it isn't. Housing is a necessity. By paying off a mortgage early when you can afford it, you are putting yourself in a position where you will not be at risk of ending up homeless or potentially having to pay more in rent than your current mortgage costs.

Private school is not a necessity. You are entitled to use money you have when you can afford it. If you can't afford it, you can't pay for it. If you need the state to step in to pay your living costs, you can't afford private school.

She can afford it. She’s making contingency plans for a worst case scenario. She wants to know if there’s a way to ring fence this money for her child’s education - and there is.

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:35

wombat15 · 02/10/2024 18:45

You will be able to claim contributions based Universal Credit regardless of your savings for six months. Presumably you won't be out of work for longer than that? If you become long term unemployed or unable to work surely you it would be better to use the money to keep your house rather than pay school fees?

@wombat15 oh I didn’t know this. So it’s only assessed on savings if you claim beyond six months? I’d not be happy being out of work for a month, let alone six, so this is the hypothetical cushion I was hoping for.

OP posts:
InterIgnis · 02/10/2024 19:35

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:33

@BarbaraHoward you have mis read my OP. I never said I wanted to cheat the system. I wanted to know if there was a legal way around this, which it turns out there potentially is, in the form of a trust fund. Your comprehension skills need some work.

Speak to a solicitor that specializes in setting up and administering trust funds. What you want can be done, and legally.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/10/2024 19:37

Menopausalsourpuss · 02/10/2024 16:34

Dear op, I have no idea what the options are, but understand 100% what you are thinking and think you're very sensible. On a wider point the people on here have no idea of your situation or reason for going private, there may be some excellent state schools but there are also a hell of a lot of dreadful ones. Why is it better for a wealthy person to move to the catchment of an excellent state school which a poorer person couldn't afford than go private and save the state money and make it more likely a poorer person will be able to get into an excellent state school as there is one less person to cater for?

If she could hide this money, she'd get (assuming maximum value home and are Council Tax band E in outer London, so a high value area) just under two grand a month plus a loan towards the mortgage of a smidge over a thousand.

Average payment for a primary aged pupil is more or less seven and a half grand a year depending upon location and whether, as would happen here, the kid is eligible for pupil premium of about fifteen hundred quid.

Making this oh, so very noble sacrifice of hiding money would 'save the taxpayer' the grand sum of MINUS twenty eight thousand pounds a year, so if she is able to wriggle out of the requirement to seek and take work/persuades the person assessing her jobseekers' allowance that she really is trying to find something for the first three years of his education somehow, she would be responsible for the best part of ninety thousand pounds of government expenditure.

That's clearly not doing any favours for society.

BoBoBigUns · 02/10/2024 19:40

ANightingaleSang · 02/10/2024 19:08

This thread makes me angry. It's so wrong. I took an oath saying I would die for this country when I joined the military, have worked and paid taxes for my whole adult life. I am also a single mum with £17k savings which I was saving towards a house deposit. I now have no choice but to use these savings to get through maternity leave as I am not entitled to UC and cannot afford nursery fees until the free hours kick in. I will then work full time and continue paying taxes for potentially another 40 years. I was not eligible for help when I needed it the most, why do you think your situation is any different? Being a single mum has nothing to do with it. If you can't afford private school, then don't send your child to private school.

But she can afford private fee's. Its luck of the draw. Thread should not make you angry.

If you had bought a house with your 17k deposit last year you would be entitled to UC. Your whole situation would be different.

If you had previously pissed that 17k up the wall or gone on luxury cruises you would be entitled to UC. If you earnings are more than 17k this financial year and you dump that money in a pension you would be entitled to UC and you will get rent paid for you.

AND most importantly any of the above choices would be yours to make.

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:43

InterIgnis · 02/10/2024 19:35

Speak to a solicitor that specializes in setting up and administering trust funds. What you want can be done, and legally.

@InterIgnis thank you

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Dawninglory · 02/10/2024 19:46

Just interested Op why you think private Ed is best. I'm in W Sussex and our local academy has better GSCE results.

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:50

Dawninglory · 02/10/2024 19:46

Just interested Op why you think private Ed is best. I'm in W Sussex and our local academy has better GSCE results.

@Dawninglory i really didn’t want the thread to be a debate on the value of private school - but in essence I want my child to have the best chance of a happy time at school. Statistically the chances of a happier and calmer environment are in a private school. Not always, but statistically. Couldn’t give a hoot about the results… I know my child would do well academically anywhere as I would support it everyday.

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wombat15 · 02/10/2024 19:53

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:35

@wombat15 oh I didn’t know this. So it’s only assessed on savings if you claim beyond six months? I’d not be happy being out of work for a month, let alone six, so this is the hypothetical cushion I was hoping for.

Yes, it is based on your national insurance contributions for the first six months. Therefore, as long as you are not out of work for longer your savings will not be taken into account.

XelaM · 02/10/2024 19:54

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 14:44

@redskydarknight yes it would be a priority for me

OP - as fellow single mother who has been paying private school fees since my daughter was in Reception (now in Year 10) I can honestly tell you IT'S NOT WORTH IT. It's honestly one of my biggest regrets in life and a complete waste of money. There are much better investments with actual return.

BanksysSprayCan · 02/10/2024 19:54

If you are having to think in this way you cannot really afford private education right now. It’s a lot more than the basic fees involved.

I would advise to spend the money on a property with a spare room, within the catchment of decent schools, in good order, with high spec insulation, solar panels etc so it is comfortable and cheaper to run. Because if you do need to claim it, universal credit is not very much to live on and high bills will be unaffordable.

If your income suddenly dropped, this option also allows you to get a lodger / Airbnb a room.

If you keep earning, you will probably be able to afford private secondary school, or finance their university education.

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 19:54

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:33

@BarbaraHoward you have mis read my OP. I never said I wanted to cheat the system. I wanted to know if there was a legal way around this, which it turns out there potentially is, in the form of a trust fund. Your comprehension skills need some work.

As I've said I don't doubt that there's a legal way - look who writes the laws that allow it.

My point (and others' points) are around the morality of what you're doing.

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:54

wombat15 · 02/10/2024 19:53

Yes, it is based on your national insurance contributions for the first six months. Therefore, as long as you are not out of work for longer your savings will not be taken into account.

@wombat15 thank you this is very reassuring

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ANightingaleSang · 02/10/2024 19:54

BoBoBigUns · 02/10/2024 19:40

But she can afford private fee's. Its luck of the draw. Thread should not make you angry.

If you had bought a house with your 17k deposit last year you would be entitled to UC. Your whole situation would be different.

If you had previously pissed that 17k up the wall or gone on luxury cruises you would be entitled to UC. If you earnings are more than 17k this financial year and you dump that money in a pension you would be entitled to UC and you will get rent paid for you.

AND most importantly any of the above choices would be yours to make.

It makes me angry because while there may be legal ways to go about it, claiming UC while sending your child to a private school is morally wrong. I would feel equally angry in the other scenarios you mention.

Buying a house with a 17k deposit as a single person. Is this even possible in 2024

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:55

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 19:54

As I've said I don't doubt that there's a legal way - look who writes the laws that allow it.

My point (and others' points) are around the morality of what you're doing.

@BarbaraHoward i really think there are much bigger moral issues than a parent trying to ensure her child can have the best chances in life. Perhaps focus on fixing the very long list of issues prior to that before berating a parent for this.

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Nastyaa · 02/10/2024 19:57

Does your child have to go to a private school? Why don't you just put the money into a trust for them to do with what they want when they reach 18? That would be a lot wiser than throwing a load of money at a pretentious private school.

XelaM · 02/10/2024 20:01

Nastyaa · 02/10/2024 19:57

Does your child have to go to a private school? Why don't you just put the money into a trust for them to do with what they want when they reach 18? That would be a lot wiser than throwing a load of money at a pretentious private school.

This. Or buy them a house and rent it out. I say this as a private school parent (who can't wait for my daughter to finish her GCSEs and go to a state school).

immigrant002 · 02/10/2024 20:01

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 14:26

I am a single parent to a 3 year old who will start school in the next two years. I have saved up a significant amount of money for schools fees. As a single parent I am constantly worried about job loss or anything else that could affect things. I am aware that if for some reason I was made redundant, for example, if I have more than a certain amount in savings then I would be expected to use this before claiming universal credit etc.

I have no intention of claiming universal credit but life happens and I have to be conscious of the potential things that could happen.

My question is, is there any way to put this money in an account for my child that would be protected as theirs and not counted in an assessment for universal credit etc should that ever happen?

Please don’t make this is a private school bashing thread or about playing the system etc. I’ve worked hard all my life and intend to continue to do so. Thanks.

BiscuitConfused
If you lose your job you put your kid in state school simple

LIZS · 02/10/2024 20:02

If you do put in trust, bear in mind withdrawals are limited, so should your circumstances change you cannot freely access it.

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 20:03

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:55

@BarbaraHoward i really think there are much bigger moral issues than a parent trying to ensure her child can have the best chances in life. Perhaps focus on fixing the very long list of issues prior to that before berating a parent for this.

We're all trying to give our kids the best start in life. You're no different there, you just have more resources than most.

We have savings that are earmarked for our DC's future. Not as much as you, but they're there for uni/deposit/wedding/whatever is appropriate when the time comes.

If we fall on hard times though, those savings will feed and house us, as they should.

IVFmumoftwo · 02/10/2024 20:04

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 19:55

@BarbaraHoward i really think there are much bigger moral issues than a parent trying to ensure her child can have the best chances in life. Perhaps focus on fixing the very long list of issues prior to that before berating a parent for this.

She can have a pretty good chance at state like many other kids. Just need to look around and see what ones are out there.

Jaalp · 02/10/2024 20:07

BarbaraHoward · 02/10/2024 20:03

We're all trying to give our kids the best start in life. You're no different there, you just have more resources than most.

We have savings that are earmarked for our DC's future. Not as much as you, but they're there for uni/deposit/wedding/whatever is appropriate when the time comes.

If we fall on hard times though, those savings will feed and house us, as they should.

@BarbaraHoward again, I am not sure why your moral compass is so focussed on a parent trying to do the best for their child? There really are honestly so many bigger moral issues.

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Alexandra2001 · 02/10/2024 20:07

@Jaalp Surely. you'd just another job? thats what i ve always done, messing about claiming a few weeks of JSA etc is a pia... oh yes and i was a single parent too.

Its not like you re a Port Talbot Steel worker is it?

Have some fucking pride!!

There are rules on gifting money.

BoBoBigUns · 02/10/2024 20:08

ANightingaleSang · 02/10/2024 19:54

It makes me angry because while there may be legal ways to go about it, claiming UC while sending your child to a private school is morally wrong. I would feel equally angry in the other scenarios you mention.

Buying a house with a 17k deposit as a single person. Is this even possible in 2024

i think the first 2 scenarios are wrong. We don't persecute those people that are over indulgent and don't save.

You can buy a house/flat with 17k deposit. Depends on area and yearly salary.

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