To not have another child simply because…

[herh]

I can’t be arsed? Dd is 3. I’ve found it relatively easy, mostly enjoyable and think I’m pretty ok at parenting. We have enough money. Lots of support. DP can’t understand why I don’t want a second, he would have another but also isn’t pushing for it in a big way. I am almost 38 so don’t have much time to change my mind.

I just can’t be arsed, basically. It was lovely and fun when she was tiny and I do miss those moments, the tiny baby months etc. but I can’t be arsed doing it again. DP thinks this is an odd reason. Am I alone in this?! Will I regret it?!

You said “Really want to try another one for a girl” - that makes it pretty clear what your reason is for wanting to try for another one.

An elderly lady told me it's selfish to have 1 child then admitted her 2 kids haven't spoken for 30 years. What's the point in having 2 kids then?

Yes i do want a girl but doesn’t mean i wont love if its a boy. Dont draw conclusions like that.

Right, but the point was - and still is - that trying for another baby because you want a certain sex (when you wouldn’t necessarily have another baby if you knew for sure that it wouldn’t be the sex you want) is irresponsible.

@Mnetcurious back off?!

even if @Femme2804 wanted to try for a girl (like lots try for a particular gender), doesn’t mean she wouldn’t love another boy. Your posts are really over the top.