To think people use “self-care” as an excuse to be lazy?

[OneAgileAzureSloth]

It feels like people are using ‘self-care’ to justify being lazy and not doing what needs to be done. AIBU to think this term is just an excuse for avoiding responsibilities?

Can you be more specific?

I suspect you would benefit from a bit of “self care” OP 😆

I absolutely do!

Like what?

Could you be more specific?… Do you mean a duvet day? Or pyjama day?… I guess it depends on how often they’re doing it. If it’s every weekend then that would be lazy to me. But once every couple month, not so.

Yep. It's so important to me to sometimes have quiet time to myself. Think I'd go a bit crazy without it.

Yes probably. Why not? There is too much pressure to be doing things all the time these days. I love a lazy day at home and it improves my mental health. Not all the time, obviously, as that would have the opposite effect.

I believe mental health is real. Don't you?

Bit vague, but yeah sometimes I absolutely do. If I'm feeling knackered and burnt out and I just want to fuck off my giant pile of washing and car insurance admin etc, I'll take the day to laze about and watch TV as self care. I'm absolutely avoiding responsibilities, but it's in the interest of giving myself a break!

Not all self care is lazy (self care is also going for a walk even though you don't want to, or cooking even though you'd prefer a takeaway because you know you'll feel better for it) but sometimes self care is knowing when to step back from the pressures and responsibilities of adult life and just saying, nah I need to chill. Nothing wrong with that IMO, and not am 'excuse' to be lazy - it's by design.

Are you doing research for a feature on daytime TV?

My self care definitely isn't lazy, it's skincare / going to the gym / reading / cleaning etc.

I'm not sure how it avoids responsibilities?

Definitely!
life is so full on for me at the moment so I’ve put this Sunday aside for a lazy day. I’ll get up slightly later to make a nice breakfast then watch TV in bed until 12 when I’ll get up and walk the dog, go for a swim before pottering in the house for the rest of the day. Not having to see anyone that day is really important to me.
To me that’s a really lazy day which massively improves my mental health. Total self care. But that looks very different to someone else’s but perhaps we all need different things from them.
i don’t have the stress of young children which changes things I’m sure.

This the third post in a couple of days that makes some rather odd sweeping generalisation with no detail . There was the employers don’t care about your personal life and the bonkers one about the menopause and anxiety and a dog. Not saying same person but it seems to be a trend, poster is then deliberately obtuse when people reply.

Why does it matter? FWIW I don’t think a day of doing nothing is lazy - it’s resting which is sometimes needed.

What's wrong with being lazy sometimes?

And so what if they do? 🙄

Yes, now you mention it.

I absolutely do and why shouldn't I? I work hard, I owe it to myself to have a duvet day once in a while.

Yep. Currently on my sofa doing exactly that.

I think women tend to put themselves last and so if a woman said they weren't doing something because of self care I'd tend to interpret this as her saying she was on the brink and in need of a break.

Obviously in any walk of life you'll find those who are lazy and will use any excuse to avoid doing things, but in general I'm ok with anything that empowers women to say no.

Depends on what you call lazy and what you call self care, I guess . I love nothing more than putting time in my diary for a self care day .and once that's in , it ain't changing for nothing short of the world ending .
I have a busy life , and not only do I deserve some time to just be ,but I also want it .
I don't think it's lazy at all .

ha ha i totally do!
However I voted YABU because lots of people are not lazy and do actually still need to carve out time to look after themselves.

Not me though, just a lazy arse

Well, avoiding responsibilities can be a kind of self-care, but if you avoid them completely and it's something really important it becomes the opposite and bites you on the bum.

I also don't think anyone is really lazy, people have different priorities and things like procrastinating and faffing about can feel quite comforting up to a point.

And also in a very busy world where people are pushed around to do all sorts of things it is very important to do things you really want to do rather than just the things you have to.

And to make time to do nothing and stare into space, if you like.

These were exactly my thoughts too. A load of goady old shit and no replies from the OP.