To think people use “self-care” as an excuse to be lazy?

[OneAgileAzureSloth]

It feels like people are using ‘self-care’ to justify being lazy and not doing what needs to be done. AIBU to think this term is just an excuse for avoiding responsibilities?

AIBU to think this term is just an excuse for avoiding responsibilities?

Yes

Bear in mind AI is on all platforms and data mining to "learn" these days. In a few weeks time there'll be a slew of media articles decrying the laziness and lack of resilience in whichever demographic is in the sights of "experts" and "think tanks" and eventually to frame public policy via the "nudge units"....

I'm lazy sometimes. I avoid my responsibilities sometimes. I'm depressed sometimes. Just like most people I presume.

Bear in mind AI is on all platforms and data mining to "learn" these days. In a few weeks time there'll be a slew of media articles decrying the laziness and lack of resilience in whichever demographic is in the sights of "experts" and "think tanks" and eventually to frame public policy via the "nudge units"....

Maybe we should test it out by throwing in random words and expressions and seeing if they later appear in clickbait articles!

No I don't. I think as a woman I have to actually give myself 'permission; to slow down. I have a kidney infection at the moment. I havent stopped working, I havent stopped doing house stuff or kid stuff, even for an hour. My partner has sat me down and given me a talking to to let me 'be off' for a few hours. I am terrible at just sitting and relaxing and my partner, who is a man, seems to have no worries about it! If I'm just sitting I am constantly thinking about laundry, walking dogs, housework, my job etc. I think prioritising self care, for the vast majority of people (women) is a good thing that we don't so enough.

Sometimes self care is exercise, sometimes it's sitting with a coffee doing nothing
To me it's listening to what you need so that you can do your responsibilities without burning out

I'm pretty languid and sanguine these days but I've never shirked my actual responsibilities unlike my fucking ExH

Nothing wrong with being lazy.

It's more like realising that a lot of "what needs to be done" does not, in fact, need to be done (certainly not urgently).

Define lazy.

Nobody else can define what is 'lazy' for any other person.
I won't let others down, but beyond that it is no one else's business how I choose to spend my time

Depends on what you class as self-care, as it often involves some element of 'doing'.

Saying that, sometimes you just need to do nothing, which is not lazy by any means.

Laziness is something else.

Can you give any examples, @OneAgileAzureSloth ?

I don’t really know what you mean.

No, if anything people should be doing more self care.

Not all self-care is ‘lazy’ although I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being lazy from time to time.

Define self-care.
Define 'lazy'.
Provide individual context for whoever it is you are judging.

I assume YABU. The word 'lazy' usually deserves .

Ah yes good idea. The user name is made up of a couple of It / tech words as well, agile and azure.

i would wager that the Op’s partner said this morning that he / she was going to have a bit of self-care time

Absolutely not.

Women are often conditioned to think any minute they aren’t in motion, generally in the service of others, is a minute when they are “being lazy”.

We need to switch women’s brains to think that self care - rest especially- is important. If it requires the use of a slightly wanky turn of phrase like “self care” then so be it.

I can’t speak to whether certain men, who usually ensure they get a healthy amount of rest already, are appropriating the phrase and using it to be even more lazy than they often are already.

What I hate is the use of 'self care' (generally without the hyphen) to mean 'endless onerous (sometimes painful and/or expensive) efforts to live up to beauty ideals'.

Colour me surprised!

another bobbin thread where the OP FIRES & runs. Fucking tedious.

No, because that pre-assumes that all time must be 'productive' time, and so the lack of tangible output is therefore a waste (see also: people who get up early are virtuous, people who stay up late are wastrels, even though they have the same number of hours in the day to use).

I don't need to justify bring lazy. It's no-one else's concern.

What's with all these GCSE sociology question threads these days?

What’s wrong with being lazy sometimes? Being busy all the time isn’t a moral virtue.

Please elaborate!

It was a long weekend here and I’m tired of full on parenting and travel. Today I’ve planned to do absolutely NOTHING (for anybody else but me) until pick up from school time. You’d probably call it lazy; I call it self care 🤷🏻‍♀️