DH refusing to drive my car

[GlowingStar]

DH’s car is in the garage and has been for a week now (they are saying he won’t get it back until the end of next week!) which has left me to do all the driving over the past week. DH drives a tiny Fiat 500. I’ve tried to get him to drive my Tiguan over the past week but he just refuses and says it’s “too big” for him to drive compared to his Fiat. So I’ve had to do all the driving for the past week, including dropping him off at places where he could just drive to himself while I stay at home with DD but instead I have to drive him there because he refuses to drive my car. AIBU to just expect him to drive my car until he gets his car back and stop complaining that my car is too big? For example, last night he went for a meal with a friend, I had to take DD out the house twice to drop him off and pick him up, he could have just driven himself there like he would normally in his car but he wouldn’t do it as apparently my car is “too big” for him to drive,

DH doesn't drive. He has gone out today by bus. He will either get the bus or an Uber back. I will occasionally offer a lift -when it's not inconvenient for me - but he would never demand it.

I certainly wouldn't be inconveniencing both myself and my child if he was capable of driving himself in a car which is available, but chose not to. No is a complete sentence.

Who drives on holiday or long drives? Family days out? To get big items from shops? Has car seat in their car? Is that by any chance always you too?

Just in case he does decide to go for it, this doesn't usually cover driving your spouse's car.

You didn't have to though for goodness sake. You say to him take my car or get a taxi. Goodness sake

Well every day is a school day!
We're insured on each other's cars but I'd never heard of this

He is BU.

I hate driving my DH car as it’s so different from mine, but if mine is in the garage then I suck it up and use his. I feel a bit uncomfortable using it but I’m just grateful to have a backup option really and certainly wouldn’t be asking him to chauffeur me around!

I'm 4' 11" tall and I used to drive a people carrier. No problem with it at all.

Tell him to man up.

Not to derail, but you may well find that, come renewal time, it's actually cheaper to add him on to the insurance, even if he point-blank refuses to ever drive your car. Worth checking.

Sometimes we have to be adults and do stuff that is intimidating and nerve wracking. I was nervous about hiring a van recently to transport furniture but it was surprisingly easy to drive.
I think making him take public transport will motivate your DH to try driving the Tiguan. Natural consequences do motivate people. Driving him around is a rod for your own back. You are his spouse, not chauffeur.

DH is getting the bus to work tomorrow!

He sounds like a real wet lettuce scared of a “big” car, this would totally give me the ick

Cba to read the thread but has anyone called reverse yet?

This is what crossed my mind as I don't think I've ever seen a man driving a Fiat 500

It doesn't seem to be an issue as she isn't going to drive your car but the third party driving other cars part on your insurance has exclusions for partners with some insurances and also mainly covers occasional unplanned situations. I'd be very careful about suggesting this. I also wouldn't pressure dh to drive a car he didn't feel competent and safe driving as he might have an accident and you aren't covered for the damage. It doesn't mean you have to ferry him everywhere however. Hopefully the situation will be resolved soon with a more suitable replacement

I understand feeling anxious about driving, I don’t like driving on big roads with multi lanes that I don’t know where I have to be in the right one to get my exit etc. But I prepare for it, look at the route, think it through, make a plan and do it. I don’t just say no wah I can’t dh you have to drive us.

@Codlingmoths I guess we all have different levels of confidence. I am an anxious driver due to be lots of scary driving situations included crashes as a child. My wife is autistic and gets high anxiety with change. Neither of us would feel too happy driving a bigger although I guess it's not massive. In fact we probably would go waa waa waa. However I'd also then not expect to be ferried everywhere. Can't see it's any different for a man

Oh dear I am DH 😂 Fiat 500 driver who refuses to drive anything else. I just don't feel comfortable, I wouldn't expect to be ferried around though.

He needs to man up.

I hate it when the first post(er) nails it!

@GlowingStar does he not feel embarassed driving a girls car???? I dont know any bloke who drives a tiny car like that!! they usually all opt for the big cars cos they think it compares to the size of their willie!!!

I work with a chap who thinks his Arbath is the dogs bollocks and floats about the long way home when he's in it! And he's over 6 foot tall! 😂

Fucking hell some of these comments are downright sexist shite.

I know quite a few men with small cars like fiat 500. I also have similar small car and refuse to drive husband's massive car. And the ones I hate most are sedans. Sounds ridiculous I know.

Yabu for ferrying him around a lot though. Bit of help fine, regular all the time drop offs, he should get rental as I would.

I have a small-medium sized car and are family car is now large, I was terrified of driving it - but now I prefer it (which is good, as it's the car we need to use for the kids really!)

There's nothing embarrassing about driving a small car. DH used to drive our tiny, hideous yellow, Kia Piccanto around quite happily. What is embarrassing is being unable to drive a bigger car if you have a licence and being too lazy to even try.

It's also embarrassing to think he should be embarrassed about driving a smaller car usually.

Good grief, what a wet husband you have! Refusing to drive himself and letting you chauffeur him round 🤢

I just couldn't sleep with this man again after this...totally unsexy 😖