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To wonder how on earth they will sentence a 96 year old?!

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dreamer24 · 28/09/2024 22:52

news.sky.com/story/woman-96-admits-causing-death-of-pedestrian-after-she-panicked-and-mounted-the-kerb-13204265

A 96 year old woman killed a woman in her 70s after she lost control of her car. Due to be sentenced on Monday, apparently. It's obviously completely tragic that a woman has died, but I can't imagine a woman who is almost 100 will get a custodial sentence?

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Bunny44 · 29/09/2024 08:12

FloydGerhardt · 28/09/2024 23:33

You report them to the DVLA and take their keys.

To be fair, our experience was 10 years ago so it's possible things have changed since then. The husband of the lady I knew who was killed did a lot of campaigning for the change in rules.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 29/09/2024 08:19

MaggieBsBoat · 28/09/2024 22:58

That’s awful.
People need to retake tests after a certain age in order to keep driving. That poor woman and her family. What the hell is a 96 year old doing behind the wheel
of a car!!??

I agree. Stories like this boil my blood. I lost a very dear friend in a very similar situation. Friend had just made it over a crossing at a junction and a 90+ year old driver lost control of the car, gone through some metal fencing, kerbed it, and pinned friend against a wall. Friend didn't die on impact but did die in hospital a few days later.

My own nan had to renew her driving license last year and I was shocked to see she'd only have to resit her test if she wanted a license that would let her drive large vehicles like vans and so on but absolutely fine to keep driving a 7 seater and could do so as long as she was sure they would renew the license while it was being processed.

I could not believe she just didn't have to resit it unless she wanted to. I don't think my nan is a bad driver, but my friends death is not an isolated incident by any means and it just feels so backwards and behind the times to not have safety measures in place.

Simonjt · 29/09/2024 08:25

I don’t think there are any age based restrictions where we live.

My husbands grandma is in her 80’s, her and two friends often go on driving holidays around europe in a campervan. She is the queen of parallel parking, to the point that I’m sometimes convinced her van shortens itself to fit spaces.

GrandHighPoohbah · 29/09/2024 08:30

People are living much longer than they used to. There are loads of areas where legislation and governance are miles behind the reality of what that means for society. Driving is just one of them.

Bobcat246 · 29/09/2024 08:32

People of that age absolutely do do time, though 90% of prisoners over 70 are sex offenders, so they're normally in for serious, often historic, stuff. It's actually an increasing issue for the prison service as they're not used to or especially adapted for dealing with large numbers of elderly prisoners. You have dementia, significant care needs etc and they're not geared up for it

JeremiahBullfrog · 29/09/2024 08:33

You can try to blame the family but a stubborn relative isn't necessarily going to pay attention in this sort of scenario, and taking away the driving licence/keys/the car itself would technically be theft. This sort of thing needs to be dealt with by the government.

Pussycat22 · 29/09/2024 08:35

At 96 she may not even get to the sentencing day!!! Every day is a bonus.

MrsJoanDanvers · 29/09/2024 08:38

VaubanRules · 29/09/2024 07:00

The old are hated on MN
Whatever the topic, there will be an old person who spoils it/won't pay for it//thinks they own it/are 'spending my inheritance'
A person of 154 with the motor skills and coordination of an 18 year old could be driving, and they would be villified here

Don’t be ridiculous. I’m going into the winter of my life and it’s obvious that humans can decline. I think it’s crazy that very elderly people who have poor reflexes, hearing and sight can drive. Retesting would at least assess basic capability. I know of one of my relatives who will never turn right out of a junction ‘because she gets nervous’. She shouldn't be driving if she’s like that yet gets defensive when she’s told. Retesting should be mandatory.

FloydGerhardt · 29/09/2024 08:38

Pussycat22 · 29/09/2024 08:35

At 96 she may not even get to the sentencing day!!! Every day is a bonus.

People say prisoners have it better than pensioners, maybe she’s hoping for a custodial sentence.

Tessabelle74 · 29/09/2024 08:38

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 28/09/2024 23:06

Where do we draw the line though? Who gets to decide when people are 'too old' to be in possession of a driving licence? And what age should people have to give it up? 70? 75? 80? 85? I know plenty of younger drivers who are poor drivers - and dangerous, and who need their licence taking off them. Conversely, I know plenty of over 75s who are really good safe drivers. Including a few people in their 90s.

We can't just have a blanket rule that says pensioners should stop driving! It's a lifeline for many, being independent with their car, and most are good, safe drivers If over 70s need to re-test every 2-3 years say, then so should everyone else.

Sad for this woman who died of course, and the story is tragic. The 96 y.o. woman can't go to jail, and it's ridiculous for anyone to say she should. But to say all elderly folk should be re-tested every few years (and no-one else should) is just ludicrous.

No one is saying a blanket ban is appropriate after a certain age. But the fact we don't even require a basic eye test and medical after say 70 is ridiculous! We have to update our photo so at that point the bare minimum should be a sight test for everyone and after 70 a quick medical to get out licence renewed. It's absolutely appalling that currently it's down to the driver to decide if they're safe on the road and even if you see a GP they cannot report you to the DVLA

Dibbydoos · 29/09/2024 08:39

As we get older, we lose more and more of our independence so I dont want a specific age ban, but mandatory retesting should be in place from a given age - probably 70yo.

Driving tests today are more difficult to pass than years ago, so anyone over 70 passing them should be good for 5 years, then a retest again.

in addition, new cars are so much more capable of assisting drivers, so the older we get, the requirement to have specific features in a car are also something that should be mandated eg lane departure, automatic pedestrian braking etc. If she was driving a tesla, for example, that accident probably would have been avoided. Even out in my sons 1 Yr old cupra the other day, the car infront did an emergency stop and his car followed suit. Technology can't be 100% relied upon, but if it keeps people driving safely for longer, I'm all for it.
And all thse unlicensed drivers need really stiff sentences, I see so many people who are incapable of steering, staying in lane and taking off smoothly it's untrue. They are a real menace to society.

Heatherbell1978 · 29/09/2024 08:42

gingercat02 · 28/09/2024 23:16

My parents lived in Spain. They had to have a vision check and a virtual driving test to make sure their reactions were good enough to drive every few years, once they were 70+.
I think that is a good idea.

Is this law in Spain? Father in law lives in Spain and categorically shouldn't be driving. He's so stubborn though. He's 80. If he's been doing this I can't imagine he'd pass...

countrygirl99 · 29/09/2024 08:45

sweeneytoddsrazor · 28/09/2024 23:56

So a question to all those that want elderly tested regularly and not allowed to drive after a certain age are you prepared to ferry your elderly relatives around? Take them shopping , to hospital appointments, drive them to meet friends for lunch and so on. Or should they stay at home

Selling a car frees up a lot of money to pay for taxis. There are also community transport schemes in most areas. All of which FIL refused to consider until he wrote of his car when he drove straight into a roundabout with no other vehicles present because he was worried one might appear and come onto the roundabout. We'd previously reported him to DVLA but he didn't have a condition that ticked a must stop driving box so was allowed to continue. It was just hos ability to judge speed and distance etc was shot.

Cas112 · 29/09/2024 08:46

ObieJoyful · 28/09/2024 22:59

She carried on driving when she must’ve known her reflexes were slower than necessary. Because of that, another family has been robbed of a loved one.

Age doesn’t make you less guilty of a crime, if you’ve ignored that it makes you less capable in the first place.

This

Chonk · 29/09/2024 08:48

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 29/09/2024 02:56

Nothing wrong with a 96 yr old driving if competency is good. My dad gave up driving for a year at 89 after some medical issues but wanted to get back the freedom of driving at 91 so we got a driving tester to check his ability. He passed no problem at all. Blanket statements based on age and ability shouldn't ever be used.

Blanket statements based on age and ability shouldn't ever be used.

Would you scrap the lower age limit then?

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 29/09/2024 08:50

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 28/09/2024 23:19

Yes this. ^ There are bad/dangerous drivers in all age groups.

The most dangerous category of driver, if we go by age and sex, is surely young men.

JustKeepSwimmingJust · 29/09/2024 08:50

JeremiahBullfrog · 29/09/2024 08:33

You can try to blame the family but a stubborn relative isn't necessarily going to pay attention in this sort of scenario, and taking away the driving licence/keys/the car itself would technically be theft. This sort of thing needs to be dealt with by the government.

Families can support elderly people to understand it’s time to stop though. We had to do it for my grandfather! After family intervention their gp made a referral to a driving assessment centre and they told him he had to stop.

www.drivingmobility.org.uk/assessments/driving-assessments/

much like teenagers are much less likely to commit crimes if they have family who intervene early on.

sashh · 29/09/2024 08:53

FloydGerhardt · 29/09/2024 07:45

You would like to think that whoever diagnosed cataracts would be obliged to notify the DVLA.

My dad took the car keys.

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 29/09/2024 08:54

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My FIL is 77 and still works full time in a job that he does a 20 min commute for 6 days a week (its his own business). He's fit and healthy and not at all 'old'.

unsync · 29/09/2024 08:54

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 28/09/2024 23:23

It's not just 'people in their 90s' who have the ability to 'plow into children' as you so eloquently put it. Hmm The woman who did this in that horrific and tragic incident in Wimbledon was in her mid 40s.

Ageism is alive and well on Mumsnet as per usual. 🙄 The sweeping generalisations about older people on here are disgusting.

I'm out! This type of thread really boils my blood! Hmm

Agree, so much ageism here. There's a lot of really bitter, resentful posters.

CassandraWebb · 29/09/2024 08:58

Chonk · 29/09/2024 08:48

Blanket statements based on age and ability shouldn't ever be used.

Would you scrap the lower age limit then?

Yes surely it's ageist that my very sensible 14 year old can't drive. He's mastered karting and is very skillful... Imagine how much independence it would give him

Completelyjo · 29/09/2024 08:59

Oh FS some posters are ridiculous. Stating the simple, proven biological fact that sight and reflexes decline with age is not ageism, nor is supporting retesting every few years after a certain point and it’s certainly not a blanket hate of old people.

A 96 year old who causes death by dangerous driving should be viewed in the exact same way as a 17 year old who causes death by dangerous driving. No one gets a pass because they are old.

dreamer24 · 29/09/2024 09:00

Do you think under 25s should be allowed to drive then? Doesn't their poor decision-making and impulsiveness make them more dangerous drivers?

I'd argue it probably does yes. And lack of driving experience. Which is why statistically younger people have more accidents and their insurance is higher. Maybe the age for learning to drive should be higher? I wouldn't be opposed to that in the same way I wouldn't be opposed to someone whose brain function has declined due to older age being unable to drive. People need to be safe on the roads, regardless of their age.

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LBFseBrom · 29/09/2024 09:00

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 29/09/2024 08:54

My FIL is 77 and still works full time in a job that he does a 20 min commute for 6 days a week (its his own business). He's fit and healthy and not at all 'old'.

I get that, many people are and good for them but 96 is a different matter. So is 86. I am not ageist, I'm elderly myself and have witnessed appalling driving, lack of judgement from very elderly people. They have to stop sometime. That is a fact.

Needanewname42 · 29/09/2024 09:01

Tessabelle74 · 29/09/2024 08:38

No one is saying a blanket ban is appropriate after a certain age. But the fact we don't even require a basic eye test and medical after say 70 is ridiculous! We have to update our photo so at that point the bare minimum should be a sight test for everyone and after 70 a quick medical to get out licence renewed. It's absolutely appalling that currently it's down to the driver to decide if they're safe on the road and even if you see a GP they cannot report you to the DVLA

Exactly a sight test every couple of years should be a minimum for everyone regardless of age.
Sight test will also pick up cognitive decline as people forget letters.
And the test they do for peripheral vision should also pick up reaction times.
If the opticians isn't happy they can refer to GP for further checks.

Fairly easy to implement it. We don't have a shortage of opticians and they are on every high street.

At the moment we have a shortage of GPs to do routine checks and a shortage of driving instructors and examiners.

With elderly drivers family possibly aren't in the car very often with them so don't see the state of their driving.
Unless your ill your not going to have your elderly parents drive you anywhere

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