To think a three year old can’t do this?

[shakemyheadatyou]

Ds finishes preschool at 3. I don’t get home until 4.

DH thinks ds can just watch tv and entertain himself (dh wfh Fridays) I think he’s too young, what do others think?

Dh could prep the dinner at lunchtime then it's just a reheat job in the evening. Leave the mess. Once both in bed, you and dh tidy up

Think (as I said) you need to have a conversation with DH

Tell him this new plan is not working

Tell him he needs to pick up the slack on the Friday while he's wfh.

He can sort DS breakfast/packed lunch. He should be clearing up breakfast dishes. And could easily have something started for tea.
My dh will walk around the house and potter while in less important work calls. The time he'd normally be commuting he can do house stuff.

It has to work for you both and if you are the one picking up the slack from his decision it's not fair - moaning in here isn't going to change things. You need to talk to him. Tell him if it doesn't improve then DS will have to go to nursery on a Friday.

I will sound soooo caustic and cutting here and I’m not, honestly, but the straight up answer to that is because I don’t want to sit in a shit heap. I don’t want my children playing in a shit heap. I hate it, it stresses me out.

DH claimed he had no time to clear up the breakfast things; I don’t believe him but I can’t really say either way. I think it’s just really annoying the way this new system has doubled my workload!

Someone will - aslong as you’re upfront, I ask my cleaners to iron and change beds. They often hate ironing but the you find a diamond who is happy to help!

Yep your DH needs to pull his weight properly in a Friday if he wants to save money that much.

He needs to get up early, start work early so he can takes to clear up after breakfast, do dinner prep in his lunch break and finish work on time/early to clear up this huge mess your DC seem to make in that hour.

Your DH can't have it all ways. Morning at pre-school afternoon at nursery?

If it was me, I would return home at 4, collect DS, put him straight in the car, drive to nearest supermarket cafe or similar and feed both children there. Much cheaper than private nursery, and probably similar standard of food nonetheless.

Then pick up an easy dinner that can just be shoved straight in the oven for myself and DH in the supermarket and drive home.

Meanwhile DH has time to finish work calls and tidy up at home.

@shakemyheadatyou Firstly let me assure you you're not going mad - and if your son is like mine you'll eventually stop assuming he'll ever tire himself out haha it's hard work but normal :)

Forgive my bluntness but your husband sounds very selfish and needs to step up his game. His son should come first above work. I don't know what your husband does but if he can't manage an hour of his day around child care needs and can't manage to intersperse a moment here and there to do household chores while he works then I doubt he has the competence to be doing anything all that high level.

((Me > Father. Works from home. Does all the housework in the natural breaks we all find during the day.))