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Original poster

to be annoyed that religious people think theyare more fulfilled than me???

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PosieParker · 21/04/2008 17:40

I am a very happy atheist and feel that I am kind, caring and considerate. Time and time again religious people show pity to those that haven't 'found' God and think that we are missing something. It really pisses me off.
I do see that they believe that some of their own fulfillment comes from their faith but why assume that I am lacking because I have none?

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Finbar · 21/04/2008 17:41

I agree totally - and I have tried teh Godly way - but am now confirmed atheist!

KerryMum · 21/04/2008 17:43

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MrsMattie · 21/04/2008 17:44

Totally agree. I don't need religion or a 'God' to be a good person or lead a fulfilling life. If you do, fine, whatever gets you through.

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 21/04/2008 17:44

You need to tell them that they are missing something!!

nametaken · 21/04/2008 17:46

that's why you should never talk about religion, sex or politics - someone just ends up getting annoyed.

TheFallenMadonna · 21/04/2008 17:47

some religious people I think you mean...

Some people are rude no matter what their belief-status.

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:47

Posie, you are damned and you are going to HELL.

And I shall be right there with you !

I think what gets up my nose, is the self-satisfied smugness of the 'saved' - the attitude that theirs is the only way.

But then, that's all they have, as the rest of us have drink and drugs !

NotQuiteCockney · 21/04/2008 17:48

But maybe its the smugness that makes them extra-fulfilled?

Honestly, why let it bother you?

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:49

Having said that, my mum is a church goer, and one of the nicest women I know, and I expect she's sad that she won't be seeing me in Heaven, but she's given trying to make me into a good person - especially since my divorce!

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:50

No bothered really. I just find them a bit scary and when they do their fundamentalist Xian thing (or any other fundamentalist religion, for that matter) I get this awful feeling of claustrophobia.

MicrowaveOnly · 21/04/2008 17:50

I agree PP

What pisses me off big time is those massive boards outside churches that are for us the passerby saying ' jesus loves you' or 'confess and save your soul' @you are a sinner' etc etc

Bloody cheek, how about if we put ' Jesus doesn't exist' or 'there's fairies in the bottom of your garden, blo them a kiss'.

I think they'd call the police, there's probably a law against it!!!

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PosieParker · 21/04/2008 17:50

I just love a good debate, but a Krishna follower stopped me in the street, no wonder they recruit they're worse than cold callers!!!!

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Unfitmother · 21/04/2008 17:50

Yes, YABU.

Why let it bother you?

ladymariner · 21/04/2008 17:51

I think if everyone treated others as they want to be treated themselves, regardless of religion, colour or whatever, then the world would be a much happier place!

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PosieParker · 21/04/2008 17:52

Makes me laugh that spiritualists are under the rules of trading standards, but what about the other religions, they're real are they? no misleading there then!!

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Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:52

MO, I quite like some of the awful puns they put on those boards!

Posie, did he at least give you a free vegetarian cookery book? DD got quite a nice one off a Hari Krishna on Oxford St.

frogs · 21/04/2008 17:53

I'm a catholic, and I'm happy with that. If you're happy being an atheist, I don't have any ishoos with that. Some of my best friends are atheists. My dh is a nominal CoE person, which = agnostic really.

I don't assume anything about other people's fulfilment, unless they are clearly miserable twisted old gits, in which case I assume they're just old gits.

Is that OK?

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PosieParker · 21/04/2008 17:53

I should have written some religious people.

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Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:53

Ah Posie, you have no faith !!

Ladymariner, you are quite right, but that is far too sensible!

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PosieParker · 21/04/2008 17:55

He held my hand as I was reaching to give my dd a packet of white chocolate buttons, the hand with the packet too.... which I had to snatch back.

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Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:55

frogs, catholics and CoE tend to be fine - and methodists like my mum. It's the more obscure evangelical sects that frit me. Don't want to offend any JWs or 7th day adventists, I have family/friends in both - but I dread answering the door on a Saturday morning!

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 17:56

Posie, he was trying to tell you that chocolate buttons are bad for you

Actually seriously, that's a bit too persistent!

wannaBe · 21/04/2008 17:59

I have a "friend" who is devoutly religious. To the point that she told me to pray for forgiveness for having sex with my dh before marriage! and broke up with her bf because he "came between me and God.".

She is 34, still lives with her mother, and apart from God, she has no-one, because her judgemental attitude has driven everyone away, even her fellow believers, because she gives the impression of looking down on them.

That can't be a fulfilled life, surely?

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 18:02

No. I had a friend who became a JW and refused to attend a mutual friend's (CoE) wedding 'because I can't accept them marrying in church' - but she was intending to attend the reception. What was that about? Sad to say, that was the end of the friendship.

Tanee58 · 21/04/2008 18:03

I met her recently, by chance. 25 years later, she's still a JW, but still alone. I've had a rackety life, divorced, mad DP but a lovely teenage DD and feel loved and loving with great friends. Such are the wages of sin!