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To think that the ADHD label is masking other things in society?

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comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 10:26

Disclaimer this is NOT about being skeptical ADHD is a thing, my brother is diagnosed with ADHD by a doctor as well as a close friend of mine.

Through my job I have been doing a lot of research about the impacts of tech and social media and so on on young people, and also on the elderly who are becoming the first generation of elderly people who are high technology users.

It has all been making me see so many parallels between behaviors associated with ADHD and behaviors that are becoming more and more difficult to control because of the attention-stealing environment we are in, and other aspects of society today like consumerism always available in your pocket, long working hours and both parents working, the difficulty of taking those restorative breaks that are what helps us focus and take a step back.

I'm just feeling like we are looking at some milder cases of ADHD too much as an isolated medical thing rather than a wider societal ill.

I feel like the same thing has happened with depression, framing it as some sort of imbalance that can be fixed by drugs, when it's so much about the societies we live in.

I feel uncomfortable about all of these labels being used especially by young people with mild cases of things, it seems to imprison them in a fixed identity or frame them as having something wrong with them, when none of us a perfect and we all have strengths and weaknesses, and life is about living with them and being open to change.

What do you think?

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:23

Grandmasswagbag · 25/09/2024 20:22

Yes BPD is a problematic diagnosis that is falling out of fashion. It's not necessarily medical gaslighting. I think most HCPs can see the symptoms someone might have but as I said you can see 2 different psychiatrists within days and they might come up with different diagnosis. And also a person's diagnosis might change over time.

But this happens with physical illnesses too.

lve had loads of conflicting diagnoses from consultants in the same departments.

comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 20:48

I think generally in last decade parental expectations on behavior have lowered while other expectations like academic ones have risen.

@SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun yes this is so spot on and it should be the other way around

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:49

I think generally in last decade parental expectations on behavior have lowered while other expectations like academic ones have risen.

Except in schools. Where discipline is draconian now.

comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 20:52

StarlightExpressAnswerMeYes · 25/09/2024 19:01

This is your problem re: 'mild' ADHD. You can't have a little bit of a neurodevelopmental disorder.

You're not seeing the big picture or the whole person. In order to be diagnosed with ADHD you need to have had symptoms, since childhood, which significantly impact your functioning in several areas of life.

Just because someone 'appears' to be functional by the standards you describe does not mean they are doing so without significant negative impacts in other areas of their lives. It may take all that someone has on a daily basis simply to attend work, and they may not be able to do the other things outside of that which everyone else assumes everyone does.

You just can't make these kind of assumptions about other people's lives, experiences and challenges. If there was no significant impact on their lives, they would not have the diagnosis.

Fair.

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comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 20:53

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:49

I think generally in last decade parental expectations on behavior have lowered while other expectations like academic ones have risen.

Except in schools. Where discipline is draconian now.

yes.
But parental expectations are everything, aren't they. More than those of schools.

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comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 20:57

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:11

Have they?

This just sounds like medical gaslighting to me. No you aren’t depressed/anxious as we have no test for it. Even though you may be suicidal or unable to leave the house through anxiety.

These names exist to describe a range of emotional symptoms. And sometimes they overlap. Just like physical symptoms.

There’s no definitive test for chronic fatigue or long Covid. They are still recognised through symptoms

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Yup, and remember there isn't a "definitive test" for very many things. Getting an A* in A level biology isn't a definitive test that you're really good at biology, it's merely a very strong indicator.

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comoatoupeira · 25/09/2024 20:58

Hellenbach · 25/09/2024 18:50

I find this debate fascinating. I go into schools to observe children and quite often they are flagged as potentially having ADHD.
What I'm seeing is school environments that don't support children's holistic development.
I observed a Year 2 boy for an hour, at no point did his teacher speak to him. Work was presented on an interactive whiteboard. Reward points were pinged via an iPad. Story time was a YouTube video.
There was no human interaction. No co-regulating adult. How can children thrive in these environments?

This is absolutely heartbreaking, and criminal in my book.

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SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:10

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:02

Mental health diagnoses do not hold up to scientific scrutiny.

How is this even true?

So MDD where someone is suicidal is not a diagnosis because it doesn’t hold up to scientific scrutiny?Grin

There is a massive amount of research that shows that the ‘diagnoses’ don’t have reliability or validity. They are literally just labels that describe various patterns of psychological distress.

One study compared the diagnoses of different psychiatrists of the same case studies and even for something seemingly ‘bread and butter’ like major mood disorders, there wasn’t reliability.

Formulation using a BioPsychoSocial model is much better. You assess the person from a physical/biological, psychological and social lens and working in collaboration with the person experiencing distress to find the most useful way forward is much better. If you feel medication is going to help it’s more likely to. If you think therapy will help it’s more likely to.

It’s much more complicated than that of course. But the medicalisation of psychological distress has some significant downsides. It’s hard to really get it across here as I’m talking from a place of 30 years experience and learning. Hard to condense into a short post. The history of the medical lens coming to dominate over more psychological lenses is interesting and complex too.

Lucy Johnston is a Clinical Psychologist who has written a lot about this stuff.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 21:15

But the medicalisation of psychological distress has some significant downsides

Except it saved my life. What are the downsides when someone cannot function? What is the necessary evil here. I think medicalisation is a good thing if the symptoms are distressing.

Its like the obsession about the ‘medicalisation’ of childbirth. Fine if that’s what someone wants. Not fine if someone is in distress. Breathing through just won’t cut it.

SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:16

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 20:23

But this happens with physical illnesses too.

lve had loads of conflicting diagnoses from consultants in the same departments.

Partly the problem is the splitting of mind and body. Actually our emotional and psychological worlds are linked in multiple ways to our physical health and vice versa.

Thats just one example of the evidence that mental health diagnoses aren’t reliable and don’t have validity. I’d have to write an essay to properly explain it properly.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 21:18

SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:16

Partly the problem is the splitting of mind and body. Actually our emotional and psychological worlds are linked in multiple ways to our physical health and vice versa.

Thats just one example of the evidence that mental health diagnoses aren’t reliable and don’t have validity. I’d have to write an essay to properly explain it properly.

So they don’t exist?

SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:21

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 21:15

But the medicalisation of psychological distress has some significant downsides

Except it saved my life. What are the downsides when someone cannot function? What is the necessary evil here. I think medicalisation is a good thing if the symptoms are distressing.

Its like the obsession about the ‘medicalisation’ of childbirth. Fine if that’s what someone wants. Not fine if someone is in distress. Breathing through just won’t cut it.

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I’m not saying the distress isn’t real. I’m not saying the medicalisation of distress doesn’t have benefits. I’m talking academically, but clinically you can provide safe, effective interventions for people in acute distress without the need for a mental health diagnosis. We could do away with them, if we wanted to (but like you say, we might not want the alternative).

I am really glad it was helpful for you and sorry you had such a tough time.

SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:24

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/09/2024 21:18

So they don’t exist?

The difficujt human experiences exist. Of course. How we understand those experiences has gone down a medical route for many social, economic and historical reasons. There are benefits and costs of that. The diagnoses don’t measure up to scientific standards of reliability or validity.

Chillimuma · 25/09/2024 21:47

OP you should read the book Stolen Focus.

it delves into this a bit more.

SodaFountainMountain · 25/09/2024 21:53

Chillimuma · 25/09/2024 21:47

OP you should read the book Stolen Focus.

it delves into this a bit more.

It’s pretty depressing to see what we are doing to our kids letting them have access to all these devices. I say that as a parent that struggles so much with limiting screen time. It’s such a battle.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 25/09/2024 21:56

EmmaEmEmz · 25/09/2024 10:31

ADHD is not a label. It's a medical condition, which is often genetic. It's not something that just develops because of society. It's something that has always been around, but never been understood in the way in the way it is now. We have better diagnosis and a bigger population so its going to seem more prevalent.

This. Smartphones etc certainly make my ADHD 'worse'...or enables it, but it was always there. And I only got a smartphone at 30.

YourTruthorMine · 25/09/2024 23:02

I think ADHD is a form of autism, (I'm diagnosed with severe ADHD) I have met many, many people with ADHD and aside from the usual symptoms all of them have sensory issues (much ADHD behaviour is sensory seeking - hyperactivity, impulsivity), social struggles and intense hyperfocus when interested in a topic, which literally is the diagnostic criteria for autism.

Efacsen · 25/09/2024 23:35

Bananamanlovesyou · 25/09/2024 16:37

The way society acts in adhd is likely through something called epi- genetics. Genes exist but they are switched on under certain circumstances. I think the stress of mothers can up grade the expression of genes in a foetus. ADHD is a useful mindset in times of change stress and turmoil. Think hunter gatherer rather than farmer. It’s natures way of making sure your offspring are well prepared to survive the environment they are born in to. ADHD can also be very similar to trauma so always worth working through anything like that first.

Another hypothesis explaining why the genes for ADHD have persisted in the human population over ?centuries - is the usefulness of ADHD traits in times of war and conflict

Impulsive hyperactive young males = brave warriors hurling themselves into battle with great energy but without too much thought for the consequences

Many died in this sort of hand-to-hand combat - removing the most heroic/impulsive gene bearers and generally reducing/moderating the numbers in the population

Modern warfare being a more sedentary affair does not find these young men so useful

BalmyLemons · 26/09/2024 00:30

YourTruthorMine · 25/09/2024 23:02

I think ADHD is a form of autism, (I'm diagnosed with severe ADHD) I have met many, many people with ADHD and aside from the usual symptoms all of them have sensory issues (much ADHD behaviour is sensory seeking - hyperactivity, impulsivity), social struggles and intense hyperfocus when interested in a topic, which literally is the diagnostic criteria for autism.

That was one school of thought not that long ago as there are many similarities and overlaps, as well as ADHD and ASD being the most common co-morbid conditions with each other but ADHD is not on the autism spectrum.

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UnfortunateFluff · 26/09/2024 06:29

It’s a topic that must be treated very carefully, as it could descend into “ADHD and autism don’t really exist!” (and I do think they do), but I do think we need the conversation on how some of the traits in some people can also be environmental. It seems like today, people are very quick to see a few behavourial traits in other people, and then claim it must be related to a lifelong, permanent brain difference.

I’ve been diagnosed myself, diagnosis wasn’t nearly a positive experience for me as most people describe, and I would love a more critical, nuanced view.

Blanc0Nin0 · 26/09/2024 07:19

UnfortunateFluff · 26/09/2024 06:29

It’s a topic that must be treated very carefully, as it could descend into “ADHD and autism don’t really exist!” (and I do think they do), but I do think we need the conversation on how some of the traits in some people can also be environmental. It seems like today, people are very quick to see a few behavourial traits in other people, and then claim it must be related to a lifelong, permanent brain difference.

I’ve been diagnosed myself, diagnosis wasn’t nearly a positive experience for me as most people describe, and I would love a more critical, nuanced view.

Still not getting it are you.

You don’t get a diagnosis from a few environmental traits.

You don’t even have a diagnosis so I really don’t get get how you think you criticise the diagnosis of others.

Care to share which people and which traits?

Blanc0Nin0 · 26/09/2024 07:25

YourTruthorMine · 25/09/2024 23:02

I think ADHD is a form of autism, (I'm diagnosed with severe ADHD) I have met many, many people with ADHD and aside from the usual symptoms all of them have sensory issues (much ADHD behaviour is sensory seeking - hyperactivity, impulsivity), social struggles and intense hyperfocus when interested in a topic, which literally is the diagnostic criteria for autism.

Many people have both - audhd. Our NHS diagnosticians who diagnosed our autism then referred us for adhd diagnosis.

UnfortunateFluff · 26/09/2024 07:26

Blanc0Nin0 · 26/09/2024 07:19

Still not getting it are you.

You don’t get a diagnosis from a few environmental traits.

You don’t even have a diagnosis so I really don’t get get how you think you criticise the diagnosis of others.

Care to share which people and which traits?

I'm talking about armchair diagnosis, today people will armchair diagnose ADHD and ASD based on a few traits, like being restless or not being into small talk. Of course ADHD and ASD as a whole would be much more than those few traits, but my point is that traits like these, on their own, could be environmental. It's visible in a lot of threads here.

I've literally said I've been profesionally diagnosed (and didn't have a good experience), so it's quite confusing to have this reply directed at me.

independencefreedom · 26/09/2024 07:51

Efacsen · 25/09/2024 23:35

Another hypothesis explaining why the genes for ADHD have persisted in the human population over ?centuries - is the usefulness of ADHD traits in times of war and conflict

Impulsive hyperactive young males = brave warriors hurling themselves into battle with great energy but without too much thought for the consequences

Many died in this sort of hand-to-hand combat - removing the most heroic/impulsive gene bearers and generally reducing/moderating the numbers in the population

Modern warfare being a more sedentary affair does not find these young men so useful

What about impulsive hyperactive females?