What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

[harriethoyle]

Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

Every wedding and funeral outfit I've ever worn apparently 🤣

I'm not criticising but, why does it irritate people if kids stand or sit in the trolley? I have adult kids so this isnt something i've ever come across but, it wouldn't slightly bother me if i saw parents doing their shopping and their kids were sat in the trolley!

@Bellaboo01

It's the GERMS (from the children)

All of their shoes are caked in dogshit - other germs/contaminants are available!

Your shopping will be contaminated.

Conversely, your children will also be contaminated by the trolley which has sat outside being sprayed in rat piss.

I bleach all my toilets daily (who knew) and then scrub them twice a week when I clean the bathroom. Utter heathen here

Also happily take my neighbours parcels in AND drop it into them week they’re home. And they do the same for us

Are you telling me you answer the door without a specific invitation for the knocker? 😮 Clearly there is no hope for you either 🤭🤣

I’ve learned some truly invaluable things about my awful lack of understanding of boundaries. I’ve had lots of great advice that’s led me to life changing therapy and a new approach to setting boundaries and that it’s ok to just stop relationships with selfish narcissistic parents. I couldn’t have become as mentally well as I now am without 4 years of Mumsnet scrolling! Thanks

The number of MNers who seem to live in perpetual terror that one day they might meet a germ.

@BirthdayRainbow there have been some lovely threads like this except sincere in the recent past, not sure how to find them though.

Despite the general sneeriness here I've learned many invaluable things on MN (no sarcasm)

I've also learnt that as a SAHP for a few years I mustn't of had any self respect as I wasn't earning my own money.

Oh and I've learnt that not inviting everyone to something is rude but it's also rude to expect to be invited and hosting is too much work but also you should host everyone in your house or you are failing

I did not know that. I’ve raised 2 without anyone ever telling me that bit!

I seem to remember them all being squished anyway.

Though I absolutely loved doing this as a kid, as an adult I see possible trapped fingers, smashed fingers or the kid toppling out. I’d never say anything though. Like you say, life is a risk whatever you’re doing and everything is dirty.

The number of MNers who seem to live in perpetual terror that one day they might meet a germ.

The fact that a human body contains more bacterial and fungal cells than human cells must be a severe shock to them. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_microbiome

An adult getting drunk few times a year ia in need of rehab cause they're obviously an alcoholic. Adult going to a club few times a year is obviously an overgrown teenager.u

That men and women can't be friends, and that every man I'm friends with secretly wants to sleep with me. In real life I've never had a genuine friend make a pass at me.

I wonder whether I'm really ugly and unattractive compared to others on mumsnet.

At what age children can do what independently is all over the place this site. 12yo can't be home alone cause that's negligent. But every 14yo is drinking and giving blowjobs after school so you should be the one buying alochol. 13yo can't take public transportation alone but if your 15yo can't navigate interrailing alone in Europe there is something wrong with him. 16yo is just a child and can't make their own decision but also 16yo is almost an adult and you should let them do whatever they want. Young teens need to be in bed by 8.30 but also your 14yo is lazy if they don't have a job. But also they're too young to get there by themselves. Also at 18 they are adults and need to survive by themselves. But also 25yo is total child that needs guidance.

This is something I genuinely learned form mumsnet. The cake is not served at children's parties instead it is put in a napking and the kids take it home. Seems to be quite common. I'm waiting to experience this.

See, I think it’s the opposite, things usually have to pass the ‘sniff test’ to see if they need washing…people can go days without showering etc due to saving the planet…quite frankly, whatever ‘rules’ I read on MN, I do the opposite 🤷🏼‍♀️

What with that and the ‘mental load’ if something needs done, we just do it…🤷🏼‍♀️

You said 'needs done' <waits for the legions to come along and tell you it's 'needs TO BE done', their teeth are itching and it's not dialect or colloquial, just Bad English>

Well, I’m Scottish and it may be regional, I care not a jot about their itchy teeth! 🤷🏼‍♀️

I've been single for most of my life and have been doing "life admin" (grinds teeth!) for decades. It's one of the easiest things I've ever done. When I first read about it on MN (never heard the term anywhere else) I thought I must have been doing it wrong as everyone else seemed to find it so stressful and hard.

I have been wildly wrong in thinking that it’s usual for parents in normal, reasonably happy families, to leave most of their assets to their children.

So anyone who actually assumes that eventually their non-estranged parents will probably leave them anything, is disgustingly grabby and should be ashamed of themselves.

Won't be doing that, thanks.

People who don't understand how life admin can be a grind have obviously never been in the situation where absolutely every piece of household organisation falls to them and if they don't do it, it won't be done, eg DC don't have dental appointments or appropriately sized school clothes and shoes or will be done badly with knock on consequences, eg not getting cheaper car insurance when the family is short of money.