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What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

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harriethoyle · 24/09/2024 11:17

Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

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PuppyMonkey · 24/09/2024 16:52

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon what does the packet say these days?

bringincrazyback · 24/09/2024 16:52

I'm supposed to wear makeup and dye my hair.

See, I've seen a lot of the opposite on here: we should embrace the grey and eschew makeup because the male gaze. And not wear heels because the male gaze. Oh, and most importantly, shroud ourselves in baggy Toast dresses at least a size too large because the male gaze...

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/09/2024 16:54

p.s. as it has been at least a decade and a half since I have used tampons ( too much info there ) I have no reason / need to be reading the packaging or instructions.

Thistooshallpass24 · 24/09/2024 16:54

That you can spout any old shite as long as you include the phrase "everyone knows it" it's true facts and can be left up on threads, when its actually nonsense.

Doingmybest12 · 24/09/2024 16:55

I did not know that you shouldn't clink glasses when you say 'cheers !'with friends. Other than a formal toast ,I have never seen it where people don't clink.

Soditsally · 24/09/2024 17:01

Don't know if this has already been mentioned .. I learned how to fit my king size duvet in the cover the right way round by paying attention to the vertical lines
Never knew this until I saw it here 😂

Pooeyskewy · 24/09/2024 17:01

I call friends/ family for a chat without pre booking via text and I answer the door!

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 24/09/2024 17:04

@bringincrazyback I'm wondering why you came on to a clearly lighthearted thread to find something to be offended by. Life admin is up there with picky bits, holybobs, naice, hot choccy, and other wanky ways to say things. Everything involved in it is just life. It's doing the same as everyone else does.

We don't have to agree on anything. I'm not sure why you needed an explanation.

I was having a good today, then you came along

Thistooshallpass24 · 24/09/2024 17:06

Thistooshallpass24 · 24/09/2024 16:54

That you can spout any old shite as long as you include the phrase "everyone knows it" it's true facts and can be left up on threads, when its actually nonsense.

I sent too early
whereas in real life you have to be able to back up what your saying or accept you are wrong.

youheard · 24/09/2024 17:07

Oh and you should never tip waiting staff as a political gesture because that'll teach the restaurant to pay their staff the same wages as bankers and nurses don't get tips

Hotsweatymumsspagetti · 24/09/2024 17:10

Expecting my parents to care and want to help me as a parent. MN taught me I should never expect my parents to help me mentally, financially or physically. But I should also have a village but in no way ever expect my village to help me

JudgeJ · 24/09/2024 17:15

Thistooshallpass24 · 24/09/2024 16:54

That you can spout any old shite as long as you include the phrase "everyone knows it" it's true facts and can be left up on threads, when its actually nonsense.

Of you are spouting garbage adding Fact and End of at the end validates anything and everything.

Wishimaywishimight · 24/09/2024 17:21

You need to 'meal plan' rather than just throw lots of stuff in the trolley, freeze some it then decide each day what you'll have for dinner.

PinkArt · 24/09/2024 17:23

housethatbuiltme · 24/09/2024 14:11

Also that Xmas is time for FAMILY (even if you don't have it). The only way to do it right is to go for a wet grey drizzly walk then snuggle up with a film or book and spend TIME with your kids (as if we don't do that EVERY day) but while also hosting the entire circus thats in town because everyone must be invited.

If you spend any money then you are simply a materialist commercial sheep whose doing it wrong and raising spoilt brats and filling landfills with 'tat'. You should save that money and pay for useful things like private school, holidays to Thailand and horse ridding lessons instead (as if the £100 spent on xmas would cover any of that).

The only way to do it is to give only needed and useful items like PJs, undies, toiletries and books. These however under absoloutly no circumstances should ever be give on any other day except xmas day. If you do it on the 1st of December or on xmas eve then you are a materialistic commercial sheep buying unnecessary tat (even though its the same items) because 'boxes' obviously didn't exist until the invention of pinterest.

It doesn't matter if your from a different area, type of Christianity or culture all must be done the mumsnet way.

Only for 'proper' family though. As a why-are-you-even-here childfree woman I apparently don't have family and especially don't at Christmas which is For The Children.
My own fault for being selfish I guess, along with 'never knowing real love'!

Wishimaywishimight · 24/09/2024 17:24

You're supposed to think about the effect on the climate before booking flights. I'm afraid my only thoughts are "can I afford it" and "have I got enough annual leave left".

Pooeyskewy · 24/09/2024 17:29

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 24/09/2024 13:59

I should be ‘deep cleaning’ every bit of the house on a weekly basis, instead of when I can be arsed, which is usually to some half-hearted extent before Christmas and before any guest who’s going to give a toss is coming to stay. Which is hardly ever.

When did it stop being called ‘thorough’ cleaning, anyway? ‘Deep’ cleaning used to be a term reserved for the likes of operating theatres.

I still don’t actually know what deep cleaning means tbh!

BunnyLake · 24/09/2024 17:31

Until I read MN I didn’t realise how easy it was to get therapy for every tiny little mishap happening in your life. Missing your dc who’s just gone to uni, get therapy. Crying because you hate your new haircut, get therapy. Upset because no one liked the dinner you cooked, get therapy. It seems the police are just as easy to access for every tiny misdemeanour as well.

Wishimaywishimight · 24/09/2024 17:33

All ills can be cured by; a) a spa day, b) a cup of tea and 5 minutes to yourself or c) a hot chocolate (for children).

PontoonRelish · 24/09/2024 17:34

BunnyLake · 24/09/2024 17:31

Until I read MN I didn’t realise how easy it was to get therapy for every tiny little mishap happening in your life. Missing your dc who’s just gone to uni, get therapy. Crying because you hate your new haircut, get therapy. Upset because no one liked the dinner you cooked, get therapy. It seems the police are just as easy to access for every tiny misdemeanour as well.

Therapy is extremely easy to access. You don't need a 'reason', just to be able to pay, or have healthcare cover that covers sessions. Paid-for therapy is a different matter, obviously.

RobinEllacotStrike · 24/09/2024 17:34

@AnonymousBleep re drying washing, I have a line in the garden and one under cover on the deck. I also use an a-frame drying rack on the deck. I've certainly used the covered deck lines a lot more this summer than in previous years.

I WFH and my desk looks out over the garden. When its warm and windy washing can dry quickly and if it looks like rain I run out and bring it in.

Arping and autumn when the heating isn't on is the worst - I'm in the SE and it can be quite humid and also cool - so washing doesn't dry unless there is a good breeze.

When I am forced to dry inside I use either a dehumidifuer and drying rack (perfect for one load at a time with the heating on) or if I'm going nuclear and drying several loads at once I use a heated drying rack plus the dehumidifier.

BunnyLake · 24/09/2024 17:34

Hotsweatymumsspagetti · 24/09/2024 17:10

Expecting my parents to care and want to help me as a parent. MN taught me I should never expect my parents to help me mentally, financially or physically. But I should also have a village but in no way ever expect my village to help me

Ha yes. It’s funny how it’s ok if you help out your parents but it’s an absolute no no for them to help you. I never understand why that is.

BunnyLake · 24/09/2024 17:36

Also I do Christmas Day wrong because I stay indoors. I never go for a walk on Christmas Day.

BunnyLake · 24/09/2024 17:39

PontoonRelish · 24/09/2024 17:34

Therapy is extremely easy to access. You don't need a 'reason', just to be able to pay, or have healthcare cover that covers sessions. Paid-for therapy is a different matter, obviously.

I wasn’t really thinking of the paying type (obviously not wealthy enough to be on MN lol).

PinkArt · 24/09/2024 17:57

MN taught me that despite going to uni, having a successful career and hiring many, many people - mostly graduates - in that career, that without going to a Russell Group uni you are doomed to failure. It also taught me that Russell Group unis exist, as I'd never heard of them.
I still don't know which universities are in the group and which aren't, or what makes them better, so have clearly been hiring all wrong for 15 odd years.

Namechange1892 · 24/09/2024 18:06

IainTorontoNSW · 24/09/2024 12:50

Apparently, all my years of paying energy bills, utilties bills, mortgage payments, et cetera on time was wrong. Apparently, according to friends, I am "anal". I spent my 20s and 30s (mostly) only buying things I could afford. I avoided weekly cafe & restaurant visits until my house was paid off (1985-1994) ... I am 68, completely debt-free with half a million in superanuation and a house recently valued at 600K-650K. My non-superannuation savings are close to a quarter million. I paid cash for my new car in 2022. I am now realising that my so-called ANAL existence is good. I see myself as an asset rather than a liabilty.

Of course it’s good to live within your means, but personally I think that denying yourself simple everyday pleasures so you can boast about how many gazillions you have in savings is a pretty depressing way to live. You can’t take it with you. And your house going up in value isn’t a function of your financial virtue - in the last 50 years, pretty much every house in the country has gone up in value. Unless you bought a house on the edge of a rapidly eroding cliff, your house is likely to have gone up in value significantly since the 1980s. But congratulations on having lots of money I guess.

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