What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

[harriethoyle]

Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

I do it too. Resources and money saved. It can be a bit chilly in the winter, but that's not the end of the world.

This is genuinely difficult for some people, for all sorts of reasons. No need for the snark just because you don't happen to find it difficult.

It does make you wonder though - who ARE these people? I'm as middle class as they come but I still don't know anyone with the classic Mumsnet 'children at private school, only eats big salads, never puts on weight, has perfect children, dresses exclusively from Boden, tells everyone they don't like robustly to just fuck off, and has no debts and massive savings' persona in real life. Hmmm, now I write that down, it does make Mumsnet sound a bit like the women's arm of the Conservative party.

I've been quite happily letting tradesmen who are working in my house use my loo for the last 30 years. I only recently learned from Mumsnet that the correct way to proceed when asked 'can I use your loo?' is to pull a disgusted face and say 'I'd really rather you didn't. Could you please try to schedule your shits before you arrive in future? This is my home after all.'

Well I agree with multiple wears pre wash BUT what do I do with the worn-so-not-clean-but-not-actually-dirty clothes in between? For some reason putting them back in the wardrobe feels wrong and DH is very tidy and loathes my chairdrobe... ( I know, I know, LTB etc)

That I'm not obsessed enough about how much protein is in a meal.

I use hangers and hang them on the back of my door with this:

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Definitely agree with this.

That I should leave my DH as I broke one of my acrylic nails and he didn't immediately book a month off of work to console me.

So where does your husband put his jeans or other trousers or jumpers that he wants to wear again or does he wash everything after one wear?

I am surprised at the sheer number of people on here who had the audacity to get married, bearing in mind that a wedding invitation is not a summons.

You have to get a cleaner!

I’m apparently a disgusting, lazy parent because I only give my son a bath three times a week. I’m also a bad feminist who’s leeching off society because I didn’t go back to work half an hour after he was born.

I’ve never stopped anyone in a toilet to check that they’re a woman before but it seems to be the norm for many on here.

I know no one likes this!

this ...😂

He folds them neatly on his chair. I'm more of a slovenly thrower to be fair 😂Maybe that's the real problem! I like your door hooks but that's where I hang my towels and my kimono...

I've never quite mastered the 'No is a complete sentence' thing.

So if I want to refuse a request, I stupidly still feel the need to briefly explain or justify my position, often with an apology attached. even if it's a lie.

Whereas apparently half the women of Mumsnet just go around barking NO at people whenever they are asked for a favour.

I can't make a cup of hot chocolate last three hours, even if snuggled up cosy on a lovely cold day after a whole week of horrible sunshine.

I answer the door when someone knocks/rings without an appointment. Apparently this is disordered behaviour.

I let other people (including builders and other tradespeople) use my toilet.

I was one stopped. I remember being mortified. Way before any trans debate. I was 11, and pre-pubescent still (I was also super short). I had my hair cut like my mum's in a cute pixie style because I thought it looked quite sophisticated. Had a slightly older girl (12/13) try to stop me going for a pee at guides because I didn't have long hair like a girl...

I just looked blankly and said 'I am a girl' and went for my pee.

Mortifying for everyone!

I was wearing a girl guide top and leggings at the time.

I use fabric softener.

I had no idea it is not actually used by Anyone Else Ever apparently.

I even read a thread recently where someone said those of us who do use it (just me apparently) are being so selfish and inconsiderate to everyone who hates it.

That everyone at my evening wedding party was offended, disgusted and starving because there was no meaty food on offer. Luckily back in the real world the enormous burritos and pizzas went down a storm with veggies and meat eaters alike

MN has taught me that's its okay as a woman to wash your underwear in the washing machine. We are not disgusting beings that need to hand wash our filthy underwear separately as i was taught growing up. No one will be infected by mixing their clothes with female underwear.

Do not ask for marital advice on MN, too many people over project from their own traumatic lives into it. If you must ask advice as for very specific things like, how do i move out without an income? how do i cope alone with 3 kids?

If you need advice about higher education and your dc went to private school, best not to mention that fact.

Someone else joining pedant's net with me! 😅🤣😂

I answer the phone and the door
I have made friends at work
I have made friends with my neighbours
I got on well with my late MIL
I sit down on the loo seat (after wiping it if required)
I pik up the phone to make phone calls to strangers
We don't wear shoes in the house
We love having visitors
I love summer