Nursery staff won't provide out of hours care?

[ThatMauveSquid]

My baby goes to a council run/owned nursery. I want to go out for dinner next week two nights on the go - with a friend. However baby will need looking after.

Everyone says to ask the nursery staff, which I'm 100% comfortable with them looking after the baby, but it's a council run nursery and I don't think they would be allowed to?

It would be so ideal if one of the workers I already know could do it :/

Says much about morals

Interesting how the nursery insurance can be claimed upon?

I have a very happy life thank you. One that didn't invole putting my selfish needs above those of my children.

What a rude response.

Or fuck it because col?

Don't need women being judgemental on this board.

I meant I don't think the council run nursery owners can say no to staff who may choose to do babysitting in their own time! Not that staff can't say no to a babysitting request! 🙄 At no point did I state that employees would be forced to do o.o.h work...

And this is funny how?

Ensuring my child is safe and comfortable and with someone we both trust is a lot more important to me than what you very strangely call morals.

Says the woman claiming others have a sad life. Pot kettle black....

The morals of an employee happy to beak their contract of employment are questionable

It's not.

Their employment contract is their business, not mine. They are free to say no, and I’m not going to judge anyone who gets paid peanuts doing extra work on the side.

Literally….

You are posting on MumsNet.

Of course you are going to be judged. Haven’t you read any other threads here?

It was a very common clause when my eldest DS started nursery 30 odd years ago!

It goes.....first kid goes to nursery, all is fine. Second kid is on the way and ma and pa do the maths and realise that a nanny is cheaper than two kids in nursery and because one of the nursery nurses already knows the kids and babysits for them on the side, they offer her the job. So babysitting between nursery workers and service users meant that if they owners got wind, the parents care contract would be terminated and it counts as gross misconduct with the nursery worker so they lose their job with no notice.

6 kids here and this has been in every nursery contract since, so I would assume that this is the case now.

So you would be risking her job and your kids nursery place.

Could you just ask them if they know of any local babysitters/is there anyone they can recommend to you?

If it's something they do then they'll volunteer it. Otherwise you might get contact details for someone else for future.

You're coming across as quite difficult here.

You're complaining about being judged, but you've posted in AIBU. The whole point of this forum is asking for judgements on your actions. If you just want to know about child care, there's a whole other area dedicated to that. Also, being worried you might get told off is rather rich when you're happy to tell other posters they have sad lives.

Hmmmm.......

Some people are too immature to be parents. Grow up and ask the nursery directly. No one here knows their policy.

You are going to have a hard time as your child gets older if you can't ask a question because you're worried about being "told off". Gosh, I feel for your poor child.

Our nursery had a list of staff who did babysitting , I just called the office

I’m a Nominated individual of a group of nurseries and we have policies saying no out of hours babysitting. This is mostly due to our liability should anything happen to the child or employee.

also if there are any disagreements about payments or behaviour etc.

we have had staff take annual leave in order to babysit for families of three or more without letting us know.

I think it does happen without the nursery manager knowing but we really wouldn’t support it.

It’s obvious why nurseries have rules like this. You could try asking one of the staff on the fly and you might get lucky but if it’s in their contracts they’re unlikely to flout that. Use childcare.co.uk - it’s brilliant you’ll find lots of experienced childminders on their. I’ve got a manager from another nursery to the one I’m my daughter attends who now comes regularly to us in evenings. Ask to see their DBS and CB and ID - I think you should easily be able to sense of who is decent.