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Neighbour is a Tw** …

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Fulltimemamabear · 17/09/2024 11:14

Just as the title says really!

It all started off amicably, helping each other put the Xmas lights up, polite hello’s and invited round for a play date (children the same age but with different childminders) and then it all went quiet from them. We suspect it’s because one evening in summer at around 8pm we had friends over for a BBQ - very quiet no music or overly loud chatting however their child had been screaming in the garden for 3 hours straight (regular occurrence) and one of our friends said gosh she goes on a lot! He said it in heat but he did have a point, not once does the mum
ever take the child in or try to get the little one to keep it down other than just saying stop it then doing literally nothing to enforce that. I suspect she heard it as our garden fences literally touch and their seating area is against the fence as is ours. We kept smiling saying hi when seeing them it just turnt awkward after this point. She knew it wasn’t us that said this as our friend has a distinctive accent (and also lives on the same road so she knows him).

Nothing has actually happened yet she’s taken this sudden and huge disliking to me and my family, avoiding eye contact or ignoring us if she does see us, which is fine she can do what she likes but I’m finding it very petty and unnecessary. The first thing we thought was odd was, whenever they go on holiday they say feel free to use our drive as we have a work car each and a family car, we only have a car park space for 1 so often park on the road, whereas they have one of the new build tarmac style drives which is in between our house and theirs. They didn’t say that thus time and asked another couple 4 doors down if they wanted to use it. Fine that’s her choice but just seemed odd, the other couple had enough space on their own drive, just seemed so we wouldn’t use it for parking (not that we would’ve without permission!!) then sudd let 3 cameras were put outside their house, one pointing almost towards our house. Then fast forward a month later the only time my partner had ver done it, he had parked out the front. Of our house, rather than go down to the end of the road where it’s very awkward to turn, he reversed literally just the back wheels onto the start of their drive, there was no cars whatsoever on it, she happened to drive towards us as he did it and she went mental shaking her head saying no do not do not ever reverse on my drive without permission how dare you! And wagging her finger at us. He obviously said okay sorry and drove off. Ever since she will not look at us! We had a parcel left by DPD yesterday down the side of their drive, the courier obviously mistook it for our drive as their garage is attached to both houses and within an hour later there was a big sign saying this is not property of number 38, it’s 36. Just all seems ridiculous!

Just so so strange how people act nowadays to neighbours. I don’t expect to be best friends but politeness costs nothing.

AIBU thinking a bit of manners are needed?

OP posts:
imverynosey · 22/09/2024 01:42

My thoughts? Fuck her. Fuck them. Have another party

HauntedbyMagpies · 22/09/2024 02:23

@SerafinasGoose I think the neighbour is probably upset that OP didn't defend her.

CosyLemur · 22/09/2024 09:26

You were rude about her child who was being a child! Yet you want her to be nice? Regardless of whether it was a guest or yourself you didn't say anything in her defense. So you clearly agreed.
Also you say it wasn't a loud party yet you also say they could hear the conversation so which was it quiet so they couldn't hear you or lots enough that they could?
And the way you talk about her parenting and her child you clearly didn't like her in the first place; so why do you care if she doesn't like you?

Whatshername99 · 22/09/2024 10:43

It would be useful to hear the neighbours version of events, as somewhere in the middle is the truth & there's more to this than meets the eye (reading between the lines).
I don't think she's a twat - I'd say it sounds like the neighbours laughing & talking about her behind her back are the ones being twats!
It seems obvious she was in a huff about not being invited to the BBQ & also sounds a rather sensitive person who lets things get to her (why wasn't she invited? Had the animosity already started before then?) & it sounds like she's made allies with the 'neutral' neighbours.
Grow a pair & have a civilised adult conversation with her to find out what's really bugging her perhaps!
I don't envy you though to be going through this! Hope things can be smoothed out between you all xx

TinaMariaW · 22/09/2024 20:46

Fulltimemamabear · 17/09/2024 12:06

Wasn’t sure if you were allowed to swear on here! Not that it’s a particularly awful word

It is an awful word. Means a woman's genitalia. Equal to the C... Word

Rosscameasdoody · 22/09/2024 21:01

SocksAndTheCity · 17/09/2024 11:57

What is a 'Tw**'?

Twat. I should point out that I only answered this because I just love typing that word. It’s cathartic !!

Childfreecatlady · 23/09/2024 00:17

They do sound like twats and I'm sure anybody else would have said the same, or a lot worse, had they been in the same situation, trying to enjoy time out in the garden with the neighbours kid crying incessantly and the parents doing fuck all about it. Your friend just said gosh she goes on a lot, that's nothing, after 3 hours I would have asked to shut that kid up already. I think your best bet is to just ignore them and get on with your life, if someone is going to get that upset over nothing, you are more than likely going to piss off her delicate sensibilities for something else in the near future anyway.

GofE · 23/09/2024 13:37

Jeez, i'd have said a lot worse if a kid was screeching all evening. Have to consider others around you.

Kingfishjuice1 · 23/09/2024 19:33

Honestly. Sounds to me more like its the fact you had friends over and didn't invite them to the barbecue and then on top of that comments were made about the child. Someone has already said this but its probably compounding.

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