To be worried about ex?

[Cheeseybeanss]

We split over a month ago and every time I see him he is just a shadow of himself (he weren’t much before hence the split)

he came to see dcs last night (4 and 7) and he was just falling asleep. He has severe obstructive sleep apnea.

since we split he just seems to be going on nights out/seeing friends etc and getting in at the early hours everyday. He did this a lot before but not half as much. Could he be depressed? I have no idea what is going on with him and obviously care as he is the father of my children.

Was he a nice guy though?

Because if he was then likely he just wasn’t fussed about having children and didn’t like how they changed both your lives and decided to opt out as much as he could.

Or is that when you didn’t have kids to consider as well, these things were so obvious?

He is using you to look after his children while he pisses his money up the wall. Assuming he isn’t still paying the bills, instead of CMS, he using you to cover the costs of his children. The part that he should be paying for.

If he is paying the bills and that’s better financially for you, you need to decide what you want. Him to continue paying bills or CMS. I would recommend CMS. So that you are living somewhat independently of him.

Because if he is paying bills and can’t afford to pay a few pounds for medicine, next thing will be ‘I am not paying the bills anymore’.

Can you afford to pay the bills if he just decided to not pay (assuming he is paying the bills)?

What’s your own income like?

You are thinking about where he is and what he is doing because you are still enmeshed with him.