Hi Everyone,
I just need to get this out of my chest as I can’t talk to my husband about it because he will say that I’m over reacting.
when my husband and I were going to get married, my husband’s parents suggested we move in with them so that we can save up for a home and won’t need to pay rent apart from help out with bills. Initially, I thought my mother in law was nice but after about a month or so she started getting saying things like; you can’t put your sanitary towels in the bathroom bin and to put them in those sealed plastic bag, inside your bedroom draw. Which I thought was insane and unhygienic- which btw I didn’t do. She then started saying why don’t you use tampons instead, is it a religious or a cultural thing? I said it was a preference.
then about few weeks later she was getting upset and saying to me, why can’t my son be with a white woman? Why does it have to be an ethnic woman. which I found upsetting but ignored.
she was constantly belittling me and saying how she is a doctor ( a retired Dr).
Anyhow, eventually I fell pregnant and my husband and I decided not to say anything until it’s past 12weeks. But during this time we would say to her and our FIL how it would be great if we had an additional member of the family. She hated that and constantly said she has no interest in becoming a grandma. Once my husband and I purchased a property and were getting ready to move, I discovered that my MiL goes to our room and searches our bin.
when my son was born she started saying that there was nothing special about him etc.
Anyhow, few years later and now the racism is really bothering me. She looks down on my mum and when I’m out with her she starts giving angry hateful look to ethnic people. I really can’t stand and I have no idea what to do.