To really want a ONS?

[Ohshandy]

So, DH and I haven’t really been in a relationship for the past 8 months, he moved out 2 weeks ago and I am not going to lie I have found it really difficult and don’t really feel myself? Is this normal? I just feel really out of sorts

we have been together for 17 years and I went on a night out on Saturday and got super drunk, I o ow probably not wise but I got talking to a guy and although I chickened out, would it be good for me to have a one night stand?

I might give it until next week and see how I feel. If I still feel the same I will ask him to take me for dinner

It doesn't sound 'awful' at all. It sounds like a little bit of you has reawoken after the end of your marriage. Have rocksolid contraception, use condoms, take the usual safety precautions, and enjoy yourself! (And if it's not so great, chalk it down to experience. It's no reflection on you.)

Thank you. I have the coil and will use protection. I have told him to give me a few weeks as my life is a hit show at the minute and if I message him he can take me out for dinner 🤣

I feel better now

He just said ok I hope you do 🤣

You’re definitely talking about him and messaging him as if it’s for dating, and not a one night stand. Just make sure he knows what you’re looking for, so he isn’t expecting something more and then is a bit blindsided when you ghost him afterwards.

I don’t think he would be expecting anything else surely? Aren’t most men the same?

Not many people text and arrange to go out for dinner with someone they intend to just have one night with, no.

Surely he wouldn’t say to me
lets have a one night stand? I’m assuming he thinks most women don’t want that and will probably ghost me too

I have to be honest, based on your posts, I really don’t think a ons would be a good idea for you. You seem too invested already in his history etc, and you’re obviously, naturally, reeling from the breakdown of your long marriage. As you said yourself, if you had negative feelings just about a kiss, you’re bound to feel those negative feelings after sex.
I have absolutely nothing against casual sex, it can be great fun, but I think you need to be in a better headspace the voice of bitter experience Just give yourself some time, some space, and maybe revisit this idea in a while. Take it easy on yourself.