To sleep with someone

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I'll try to be brief.

So I'm not 100% sure of their relationship, they call each other cousins though so let's go with that. But my ex husbands cousin is into me, I didn't pick up on it at first but I was telling a friend about the conversations and actions and he pointed out that the cousin is definitely interested, he ask me why I didn't do anything when we visited the cousin a few weeks ago.

I said I hadn't even thought of it, I guess it's because I have always put myself down and thought I'm not good enough and my ex husband leaving me just confirmed that in my eyes.

Then he messaged the cousin asking how he was, told him we were having drinks to catch up, the cousin said to say hi to me with a winky face and a kiss, which apparently confirms he's into me - coming from a man.

Anyway my friend invited him to come over and stay and we can all catch up, he's coming in a couple of weeks.

But since my friend told me the cousin is attracted to me I can't get him out of my head, he is VERY attractive (I guess I just never thought anything of being attracted to him)

I'm old though, the cousin is about 18 years younger than me, and however close of distant, a relative of my ex husband.

Is it wrong to sleep with him? Just as a one off, if he even wants to.

C’est un peu comme quand j’ai commencé!

Go for it. Life is too short not to shag a man 18 years your junior! (Assuming you are at least 36)

Go for it! Unless he’s a child in which case you need help.

😂

This.

@SonjaBarkerFinch I'm almost 44, so yes definitely both old enough

Almost 44 🙃

No he's not a child, I'm almost 44

I'm almost 44, I know if I was a man it wouldn't even be an issue.. To be honest I think for both of us neither would be looking for anything serious

This sounds like it would be a bit of a shit show tbh. He is related to your ex, you sound like maybe you’re reading more into it than there is and I don’t think your friend is being overly helpful.

Shagging your ex husband's 25 year old cousin.

What's your relationship like with your ex and his family? Clearly still good if you're visiting the cousin and your friends are involved too.

Do you have kids?

I guess where I'm going with that question is (a) how will everyone feel when they find out what you've done and (b) are you sure you're not being set up in the wrong way???

If you need confidence boosting, life affirming sex, there are better ways of going about it.

Your ex husband's 25 year old cousin? No.
There are far less messy ways to get laid

Bloody go for it!

It sounds like your friend has talked you into believing that this guy fancies you and you've leapt straight to him wanting a shag. Maybe get the lie of the land before your imagination gets you into a humiliating situation.

Why would you want to complicate your life like this? There are plenty of men to fuck who aren't related to your ex-husband. Find one of them.

Yanbu

You are both adults

Watch The Idea of You with Anne Hathaway and go for it.

You see this with men in real life and films all the time and no one cares.

Good luck 😁

They would in real life

AIBU to be pissed off that ex DH is sleeping with my 25 year old cousin who is 18 years younger than him?

Is it wrong to sleep with him?
Not if you're from Norfolk no.

There's 4 billion men in the world.
It's usually best to sleep with ones who don't know each other.
Less messy, less drama.

Wrong on so many levels. Leave well alone.
although I’m also of the I don’t believe he’s really attracted to you. It’s a whole other generation and not likely and massively creepy. If he was trying to pursue something then I’d question his motive.

There's potential here for things to go really wrong.

OP - you are obviously going to do it as the only posts you have responded to are the ones saying go for it…

The whole set up sounds a bit tacky to me - do you have children with your ex husband? If so it could get really awkward ( for them mostly! )

Theres nothing wrong with sleeping with a younger guy but maybe not one that’s linked to your ex H?? Go online and there are a plethora of young guys wanting to hook up - maybe choose one of them…

I would be very suspicious of his intentions.

He’s VERY attractive and out of all of the women in the world he wants to have sex with an ex of his family member who is almost 20 years older than him.

I wouldn’t get involved.

Go on tinder and find someone else to shag.
There are always 1000s of men up for it.

I'm sorry but you are being ridiculous. Sleeping with him opens up all sorts of cans of worms. Have some self respect.

Sorry I haven't been online all day and haven't actually gone through all of the responses line by line. It definitely isn't a case of I'm definitely going to do it. There is every chance it's my friend getting the wrong end of the stick, or it's some kind of plotting to see where I'm at by my ex husband and his family (like finding out what I'm up to - ex husband has asked me before if I'm dating)

I know there are many men online just wanting to hook up, but I have many reservations about that sort of thing nowadays, my friend knows this and set me up on a date with one of his mates from football before.