To wear red to a wedding?

[WhosAfraidOfLittleOldMe]

It’s my cousin’s wedding coming up and it has taken me forever to find a dress that actually fits and looks nice! It is red midi dress with an a-line skirt and sleeves (and POCKETS!!).

I have seen a post on Facebook this evening, one of those click bait things from Reddit, saying that it’s inappropriate to wear red to a wedding, because it is saying that you have had a relationship with the groom??

Cue major panic at my dress being inappropriate when I finally thought I’d sorted it out. After 15 minutes I have talked myself round, but only based on the fact that it is a lesbian wedding and so there is in fact no groom at all 😂

Is this an actual thing, not wearing red to a wedding?? I thought the only colours you had to stay away from were white/cream/ivory!!

YABU: of course you don’t wear red to wedding

YANBU: you can wear red to a wedding

It's absolutely fine. Especially for an autumn/winter/spring wedding. And the dress is grand op.

Thank you, I’m sorry for the loss of your mum ❤️

I've just gone and had a look at some photos of my wedding to check. Immediately counted one bright cherry red, one orange, one black with large red rose pattern and matching red fascinator, one bright purple and my own mum who was in cream with a red floral pattern and a red bolero jacket. So loads of bright colours which theoretically clashed and maybe stood out in photos.

It never occurred to me at the time or looking back that I was meant to be upset by people wearing clothes that make them happy to wear and they felt celebratory because they ruined some imagined aesthetic.

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But I am not 5 foot 9 like that model so I actually cuts just above my ankles 😂

It sounds like it is an autumn wedding so no-one will be waftin around in pastels (unless they are completely bonkers). You'll be find. It isn't the 1950s. It's not like it is some sort of throw back wedding.

Thank you ☺️

Thank you so much xxx

Of course you can wear red to a wedding - lots of people do. That dress is lovely and you will look great.

Thank you!

My bridesmaids all wore read ..pretty sure they hadn’t shagged my husband 😂

Thanks! It feels like a minefield of etiquette that I have no idea about 😂

Thank you so much!

Thank you! (It has pockets!!!!)

I have never heard this. And I'm old.

What a lovely way of looking at it!

Yes exactly! Pastels don’t feel right around Halloween 😂

I do find this "if it's attention grabbing, please don't wear it" stuff a bit much. Are guests supposed to blend into the wallpaper? Why exactly? The idea that the bride wants everyone's full attention is a bit weird. Isn't it more about sharing your happiness? I couldn't have cared less what people wore really but if anything would have seen making an effort to dress up as a compliment.

Thanks! I’m so glad I have found lots of people that have worn red to weddings and it hasn’t caused any incident! It has been so long since I’ve even been to a wedding! And thank you (it has pockets!!)

The dress you are looking at is gorgeous!

It was a wonderful wedding with drag queens and kings providing the entertainment- so I think I was quite understated! 😂

I hope not 😂😂😂

Wow, beautiful dress! Wear it.
The only 'rule' with weddings is not to wear any white or cream, simply because the white will attract attention away from the bride in photos. Anything else is fine.

Hell - my wedding dress was red!

Go for it!

Red is fine. The only colours you should avoid at a wedding are white and black.

Definitely wear it, it's lovely!

I agree! Colours feel happy to me and it is a day of celebration!

(although I would never where ivory or similar as my aunt wore ivory to my parents wedding as a protest because she wasn’t a bridesmaid and apparently it caused quite the drama 😂)