Did anyone else's parents smoke in the house

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I sort of can't believe they did really. This wasn't years and years ago either, 90s and early 00s. How could they be so selfish?

No thank goodness.
I hope nobody does it in the car or the house with children today.

Yep. Both my mum and step dad chain smoked all day long all my life. This was 90s/00s. In the house, in the car, in restaurants. When I got a bit older I had a few comments from friends that I stunk of smoke (couldn’t smell it on myself) and from then on I was so paranoid about it I spent as little time as possible at home as I loathed being sat in the thick black cloud of smoke.

Also, we were really poor, my mum didn’t work and my dad was a taxi driver so there wasn’t ever any spare money for nice things, but plenty of money for 40 a day. Occasionally they’d promise to quit and we’d go on holiday or a day or something with the money they’d saved but they never stuck to it.

I also remember sitting in a science lesson as a child about the effects of smoking on the lungs and the risk of cancers etc and living in constant fear of my mum getting ill. Once I stole all the cigarettes in the house and chopped them up with kitchen scissors… that did not go down well.

Disgusting. Shouldn't be allowed.

In the house. On the bus. In the shopping centre. Back in the day it wasn't a problem, only a low functioning regressive thinker doesn't understand that what's classed as acceptable changes over time.

Horse shit that it doesn't deserve judgement.

No, my brothers nor I knew any different from we grew up breathing in but my ex step wanker did. By then it was well known how harmful it was. He did it because he could, not because he didn't know it was harmful (late eighties /nineties). He didn't care and he couldn't be arsed to go outside.

Both my parents smoked all through my 70's and 80's childhood - 20 years of passive smoking. I have never so much as tried one, ever, due to that, I hated it. Their friends would come round and there's be 4 or 6 of them smoking! I used to hate going to pubs, clubs, parties, weddings etc. where everyone would be smoking. Their house was disgusting when we sold it, DH and I had to wash the nicotine off the walls and cupboards before painting.

That’s exactly why I don’t let my children have phones/social media. There is already plenty of research to show how harmful it is to children.

Yes!
Smoking was permitted in 1970s, in cinemas, theatres, upstairs on buses, trains, aircraft (there were ashtrays in the armrests of the seats ) pubs, restaurants and cafes, and in the workplace. The staff room at school and the school office were both full of smoke and ashtrays overflowing with cigarette butts. It was quite unusual for people not to smoke.
Our living room was a constant fog of smoke, we had an ashtray on a stand and an ornate “table lighter” on the mantelpiece for everyone’s convenience. My parents, grandparents and all their friends smoked cigarettes - with the exception of one uncle who smoked a pipe. The worst was being in the car, the windows up and 4 people smoking.

Yes it was common then to do so - I gave up smoking in the late 90s, DP didn’t though so made him smoke in kitchen or outside until he eventually gave up too

But actually, the two things aren’t comparable anyway. You could argue that giving a child a smartphone is for their benefit (so they can contact you in an emergency, so they can stay in touch with friends etc) but you could never argue that parents smoking is for the child’s benefit, could you?

Mine did, and in the car (50s and 60s). But I have 3 siblings and I dare say we were lucky, but apart from the usual colds, none of us ever had coughs or any respiratory trouble.

My Dm smoked into her 90s - died at 97 of dementia/old age.

DF died at 72, of bowel cancer.

I had a friend who's parents both smoked heavily in a tiny terrace. The air was blue. He started smoking himself at University (mid 90s) as he used to feel out of sorts in the evening, then realised he was nicotine addicted.

Yup, until they moved house when I was at uni in the late 90s.

Yes, my mum did. She also smoked when she was pregnant which makes me really angry!

At the moment there aren’t any negative sides to not having a phone that I can see. They’re 11 and 10 so not teenagers, but all their friends have phones and have done for a couple of years.
When I feel that they need a phone, I’ll get them a non smart phone.
Yes it’s a difficult decision to make, but I’ve read the research about the damage it can cause to developing brains and it’s not a risk I’m willing to take.

Yes all through the 80’s. I did too in the early 90’s. Smoked at work too.
As a kid I was often taken to a working men’s club at the weekend and almost all the adults smoked inside.
Looking back it was utterly vile and the atmosphere is so much better with smoking bans.
I’ve not smoked for decades and it is the very best thing I have ever done for myself

My dad smoked essentially constantly in the kitchen with the back door open.

He would then fall asleep in the living room with the back door unlocked.

I spent my entire childhood freezing and worrying about being murdered in my bed.

My dad knew fine well about passive smoking. My childhood was 1983-2001.

I am not making this up but my mum had horrendous morning sickness with me and her doctor (1963) advised her that smoking might help! She became extremely addicted to cigarettes.

Yes my dad smoked in the house throughout my childhood and still does. He supposedly now only smokes in the living room and is down to 10 a day but you can smell cigarettes almost everywhere in that house. It's not a small house. He also still chains it when stressed or if he's not mindful. I was never aware of smelling of smoke at the time I lived at home but I suppose I must have. His smoking room is hard to breathe in and despite the paint around and above his arm chair discolouring, we get shot down and told we're silly if we blame it on cigarettes. It's OBVIOUSLY by product of oil from cooking. Despite being rooms away from the kitchen- which has no such discolouration.

Apparently he never smoked around me as a baby. He certainly doesn't smoke in my house but he brought an ash tray round when I moved in and he takes it into my garden. He smokes in all of our cars. My mum had childhood asthma which she is growing back into in old age and she really struggles yet he won't stop. It also upsets her that we never dress up or scrub up that nicely to visit her otherwise beautiful house- because of the nicotine stink. They have an age gap in her favour so hopefully she'll live smoke free again, as she would love to grannexe with us in years to come but I refuse to live with a smoker.

He's 90 this year and has been smoking since he was 14. I doubt he'll stop before he dies. By some miracle he has clean nails, non stained teeth and never smells of cigarettes.

Yep.
dad smoked like a chimney all though our childhood 70s-90s. At home, in the car.

it was a revelation moving out and living smoke free.

DH's mum was like this. She had lung cancer which was small cell carcinoma and linked to her 40+ per day cigarette habit.

She had always said that if she got particularly ill with smoking related issues then she would quit but she didn't. She continued after the diagnosis and said then that she wouldn't give up. 🙄😲 It wasn't until a couple of weeks before her death, when the cancer was badly affecting her brain and cognitive abilities that the smoking stopped. She seemed to have forgotten that she had been a smoker at all and even told DH (in a very child like voice that rather shocked him at the time) that she had never smoked and didn't know how these packets of cigarettes came to be in her house. DH gathered up all of the cigarettes he could find as quickly as he could and took them out to the bin.