Did anyone else's parents smoke in the house

[Hernamewaslola22]

I sort of can't believe they did really. This wasn't years and years ago either, 90s and early 00s. How could they be so selfish?

Yes, my dad did. And in the car which I hated. This was 60s and 70s. When I smoked I never did so in the house - I gave up years ago.

Yes I have clear memories of my mum doing things like tying my shoe laces with a cigarette hanging out her mouth 🤦‍♀️ she gets really upset if I remind her of it now as she feels so guilty about it but it was very normal back then, everyone was smoking everywhere!

Yes my Dad did. And in the car. And he’d complain about my Mum asking him to open a car window!

I remember my Mum asking him to smoke a pipe rather than cigarettes to reduce the risk of us getting burnt if we were around him, but never did anyone think about the passive smoking!

I find that’s quite a boomer thing - being defensive when reminded of their own actions as parents.

I’m sure we will all be the same when our kids are reminding us of all the terrible mistakes we are making now

I like to think that if my children were begging me to stop something because it was making them feel ill, if I could see that it was making them cough/splutter while I was doing that thing, and if they were pointing me in the direction of all the information about how harmful it was to their health, as was the case with me and my parents, I might stop and think about what I was doing and maybe chance my actions.

My Dad smoked a pipe this was 80s and early 90s . House / car everywhere by my late teens he was relegated to the basement but it still came up through the floorboards. Re: ENT issues one of my kids had similar and no one ever smoked near them. My first job in the early 90s as a teen in a travel agency I had to go buy the owner and staff the cigarettes they and all the customers smoked at their desks. People used to smoke in cinemas! The whole passive smoking stuff seemed to kick off the early 90s with Roy Castle developing lunch cancer despite being a non-smoker from working in smokey clubs!

When I was a kid on the 60s, we simply didn't notice the smell, because it was everywhere. It was our norm. Because 90% of people smoked, and many lit another as they finished one.

I hate smelling cigarette smoke indoors now, or on people's clothes, because my norm is now smokeless air. Both cigarette smoke and atmospheric smoke from coal burning are rare now, so you're aware of it.

As I said earlier, I did tell my mum how sick her smoking in the car made me feel, and she simply told me I was wrong, and it wasn't the cigarette smoke making me feel so ill on long journeys - then blithely carried on smoking in the car.

Funnily enough, now I travel in a smoke free car, I don't get travel sick - strange that, huh mum.

My mum was in denial about the problems of her smoking right to the end, and would get really snippy if any of us tried to suggest she follow her doctor's advice and stop. She was in hospital for 7 weeks, at one point, and bed bound, so she wasn't able to smoke for the whole time she was there. Dsis and I thought great - she's through the worst of the withdrawal, maybe she will stop for good now, but no. Her reason was that she had a stock of cigarettes in the house, and didn't want to waste them.

All her nighties had burn marks on the front, because she would fall asleep smoking, even in bed - she could have caused a conflagration. Thank heaven for flame proof nighties. When she died, we found out she had undiagnosed extensive lung cancer - the symptoms had been masked by her pain killers (morphine).