Checking dog didn’t mess - reasonable?

[Creamcarpetandwhitewalls]

I was at my relatives house this afternoon and we were stood in her kitchen.

She lives in a house that doesn’t have a garden at the front, but it has some grass and that grass goes down the side of the house (which is hers). It’s a nice house and she plants flowers etc, she likes to take care of it. but there are no walls, fences or gates allowed at the front or side.

As we were chatting, a lady walking a dog stopped outside the window on the pavement. She didn’t see us and she was letting her dog all over the grass.

My relative was livid. She went outside and pointedly checked where the dog was to make sure it wasn’t pooping and the lady looked up and walked away with it.

Relative came back inside and that was it. I get that this isn’t my business, but I didn’t really want relative doing this as I worry about who you get into confrontation with these days, but relative was never going to let the ‘cheeky buggar’ leave without it being noted that she was letting the dog use a garden as a toilet,

Who is being unreasonable?

I’ve done a diagram of house garden area and pavement. I promise lady has a pet dog and not a pet spider.

The dog owner is unreasonable. It's not their grass to let their dog on.

The person who let the dog run over someone else's lawn was unreasonable.

The person who checked for dog shit wasn't.

The person who though the lawn owner should roll over and accept a random dog crapping on her lawn was also unreasonable.

It’s not that I thought she should roll over and allow it. It’s more that I worry for who you might confront and whether it’s worth it.

Nah that’s totally a spider. I’d go check out a sick spider-on-a-leash too.

I don’t let my dog pee or crap on strips of grass outside people’s houses. It’s fine for your relative to check.

Dog owner here.

If it is a lead length onto the grass that close to the pavement, I would let me dog wee on it, or poo.

I would try not to and would certainly pick it up but, in an emergency, I think it's better for them to go on grass than the pavement where people will then walk in it.

Luckily he normally saves his poos for the bridleway undergrowth or field.

If she has such a short strip and is that worried about it, a more formal barrier (shrubs, stones etc) might be better.

Her argument is that she has to walk along it to mow and then pick up the grass, which I get.

She also planning a boundary of lavender shrubs, buts she’s propagating them herself, so going about it the long way. I’ll help her plant them when they are ready to go in.

I don't get why dog owners think it's acceptable to use someone else's lawn as a toilet. Why not take the dog out to piss and shit on their own lawn

😂 😂 😂

That’s probably the path to the street 😳

Oh and obvious the grass is not public.

That's THE BEST DIAGRAM ever. Fact.

Why thank you! I’ve been looking for a reason to show off my art skills for a while.

We're in a tiny village and walkers use our quiet road as part of a circular route - which means if one dog pees on the edge of the lawn (or against the bin on collection days), then every single dog thereafter wants to add their scent to the message pile. 🤷‍♀️

I have two dogs myself and walk in the road to avoid my dogs peeing on the neighbours lawn or shrubs, it's a bit disrespectful of other people's property.

Having said that - I do not have strong feelings about the pees that are directed onto our lawn. I'm not sitting near it, most dogs have already had 40 pees already so what comes out is barely more than a few drops, and meh...in the grand scheme of life's shit show, it is a minor thing.

I particularly enjoy when the peeing dog suddenly squats and lays a turd on the lawn. I am greatly amused by the owners utter horror and humiliation. 🤣 They always pick it up, what does it matter? I'm not eating my dinner off it.

Sorry, to answer your question - there is a fine line between asserting yourself firmly, and making an enemy by being a dick about something inconsequential. If it bothers her, she should be clear about it, but it doesn't have to be all out war. People are strange.

That's nothing,
This guy lets his dog urinate outside my front door ( and shits all over the neighbours lawns without cleaning it) but the council don't care that he is letting his dog purposely walk past our front and piss everywhere "cos it's on a lead"

YABU. You can't worry about people's reactions all the time.

Love the diagram! Not sure if I like penis or the spider best.

Shocked the dog owner admits to allowing their dog onto someones garden. My neighbour had huge issues with similar set up and put prickly bushes in now as her grandchildren play on the lawn.

I think it is absolutely disgusting that people let their dogs use others peoples garden as I toilet. I have confronted them.

Thanks all. I just don’t want her to put herself in a situation, as she can be fiery. But I’ll back her on this one.
Hopefully next spring her lavender can go down and it’ll form a border.

How thoroughly disgusting @pintofsnakebite .

I really don't understand how it's socially acceptable to let animals shit on other peoples property, even if you do say you pick it up.

Recommend your friend plants a hedge of berberis.

Love the spider drawing!

I don't actually think I do. I'm trying to think of our normal walk and there aren't any. He does wee on the odd shrub, and the public grass verge.

What I was trying to say is that you can't always choose when your dog needs to go, or be confident about how 'solid' it is going to be so I would rather let the dog poo on the edge of lawn and pick it up than let him go on the pavement and leave a residue that people would walk in. This is only a rare occurrence.

We have a woman locally who lets dogs poo on any persons lawn. She does pick it up, but she doesn’t seem to think it’s a problem that the lawn belongs to someone.
Madness.