To think this is so wrong but also quite funny at the same time

[littleredbumblebee]

We went to DHs aunt and uncles for DHs uncles birthday last night for a meal. His uncle is known for being very uptight and anti kids so we did not take DS (he is also a bit poorly after having chicken pox) so my mum came to look after him.

Any way we got there and there were two tables set out. One for adults and one for kids. Turns out the kids table for us and DHs other cousins some of whom are married some of whom are not but we are all over the age of 30!!!

We were told to not make a fuss by DHs mum as we know how the uncle is so we all sat on this kids table trying not to laugh. While the “real growns ups” sat together. We all got smaller potions as well. We did takeaway on the way home.

So wrong yet I keep laughing when I think about it and DH and I laughed all the way home. God knows where he would have put DS if we had brought him. Maybe in the garage

This still happens at our family gatherings too. There's always a kids table and an adults table. I'm quite a lot older than my other cousins so it was awkward when I was in my 20s, but now we're all adults so it doesn't really matter, but it's still quite funny.

really made me laugh!

Brilliant! Did you get chicken nuggets, chips and beans?

Thing is that you are ‘the kids’ to them. My siblings and me are ‘the kids’ for my parents generation even though we’re in our 50s. My kids are all grown up and they’re ’the kids’ when DH and I talk about them.
The grandkids are referred to as the kids by my kids.

Putting you on a separate table might only be because he thinks you’ll have a better time talking to people of your own age.

It’s not something I’d do but it doesn’t seem particularly odd or funny to me. I’m wondering if I’ve missed something - like did it have coloring books or jelly and ice cream?

My granny invited my uncle over so I as a young person had another young person to hang out with. When he arrived she went “oh damn I thought you two were the same age” he was 65 I was 25 😀😀. But to his mum he’s always a youngster!

I don't have a large extended family so I just don't get this thread!

Can no one advocate for themselves in your family?

I love this - thanks for sharing. Mildly eccentric relations can be hilarious!

You got kids portions? Omg 😂😂😂😂

You should have all had tantrums, food fight, refusing to eat because foods were touching, where's the nuggets etc

@littleredbumblebee I despair of the reading/comprehension abilities of people these days

Your post was perfectly clear and illustrated a) how nuts eccentric your uncle is and b) his wife and siblings go along with it

Your post is hilarious.

Ignore the people on here picking it apart.

My DH is also not allowed red wine as he spilt some on there carpet when he was 18. He is now 42

That's hilarious.

They are annoying but these weird quirky relatives really do make for the best stories.

WHAT?!! thats fantastically batshit

Did no-one ask on what planet 30 year olds are children?

At big family gatherings we are often separated into ‘generations’ rather than kids/adults and it’s not really they strange. Me siblings and cousins all have more in common and more to catch up with than older generation ie aunts uncles parents. We also have young dc so it’s often easier for us all to sit together with them.

They weren't in a restaurant so nobody ordered, they were in their Uncles home and the food was dished up.

I bet if you'd brought your son they would have Russian doll'd it and had him sat at a smaller toddler table.

That's even worse, I assumed it had been pre-ordered restaurant food and the restaurant had done it based off of it being a kids' table.

Thats really rubbish @HeyPrestoAlakazam !! Some of your family members sound horrible.

Some people are like this - I used to have a horse, and the owner of the yard where I kept it would regularly scold me (whenever she was in a bad mood, which was often) and once said, 'I know I seem harsh, but this is how I speak to my own children.' I am in my late 40s and probably less than 10 years younger than her. (I moved my horse as I got totally fed up with being infantilised! TBF she did do it to everyone. Horse people are weird though!).

Anywayyyyy it's the small portions that got me, OP. How can he actually think grown adults have child-size appetites? Did he serve it on plastic plates too?!

This is so funny, were you allowed an iPad at table to keep you amused? 😀

My partner's family does this for Thanksgiving too - the mid-30's, married "kids" sit at one table having a blast and the REAL adults sit sombrely (and probably soberly too) at the adult table, with DH's parents gazing yearningly over at the fun table while they have to sit in po-faced gloom. The seating arrangement is not negotiable. Poor IL's!

This is classic. At large family gatherings I was always on the kiddies table until my late 20s. Sometimes I still am if space is tight. If I'm at the regular table I'm always on a tiny broken chair, in between two teenagers, in the corner with a huge table leg between my legs! I'm in my 40s and suffer from osteoporosis!
I really should say something! 🤣

Good tale to tell and I hope you sent a thank you letter and picture you had drawn!
At Christmas we have 20 for a sit down meal so split onto two tables. I was aware that one of the cousins was older and married etc compared to range of teens. We moved every course and themed by age, gender, dietary/allergy needs. This meant everyone sat with a variety of people and worked well.

I still call my kids kids... and my mum still called us kids (collectively) up until she died...

Yes I see it as a generation thing rather than children, uncle and his generation sitting together, relatives from the next generation sitting together. If you need two tables it doesn't seem an unreasonable way to organise it although I'd just let people sit where they wanted to.

The portion sizes are another matter.