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[Itsmebeckybo]

I feel so isolated, so not good enough, being told I don't do enough, being called names and feeling genuinely crap, someone please help and speak to me, I've tried all avenues, people are either busy or asleep, even samaritans aren't answering my calls 😭

I hope you're OK.

Who's telling you you don't do enough?

Try ringing the samaritans again

I can guarantee that you do more than ‘enough’ or you wouldn’t be this distressed. Dont let anyone tell you who you are or what you should be doing. You decide that. I hope you get the panick and upset under control.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling so low - there is help out there…

‘If you call 111, you can select option 2 to access a 24/7 helpline offering urgent mental health support. Or if you can wait a short while, call Mind Infoline when we're open on 0300 123 3393. We can help you find support near you. See more information about our helpline service, including other ways to reach us’

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Put the kettle on. Have a cup of tea.

Tomorrow is a new day. I hope it's better than today.

Speak to us. Most of us know how rough life can be. And can you that this too shall pass.

Hello. Please don’t feel bad. Bad people will try to bring you down. You are ok. Don’t feel alone. There are good people out there. Talk to them. Lots of love and strength.

Not really love, at my wits end, nothing is good enough I feel so useless in everything I do

Why do you feel useless?

My husband tells me I don't do enough all the time, I do my best I can't do anymore, samaritans keep cutting me off due to them being busy

I've been thinking it will pass since Xmas, its not passing, one day good 4 days bad, its a vicious cycle and its really getting me down now

Right. I phoned Samaritans and no-one answered. Listen to me. I had an amazing partner and he died in December. If your partner puts you down, and you know you are doing your best, that is not the person for you. Please be safe.

I want to be happy, I'm not happy and haven't been for a while, I feel like the best thing for me right now is to get out of this marriage, I don't want to cause I do love him, but love isn't enough anymore, thank you to all that commented, I think I know what I need to do 😓

I don’t normally reply to posts. But all I know is that whatever your childhood, whatever your history, there is a good person out there for you. I might be on my own for ever now, but I have been loved, and that will carry me through. Do not, ever, settle for less than you are worth.

Google some other numbers, keep trying. If things aren't great with your partner and you feel unsafe or you want to leave and are scared to, call women's aid. They're fab.

You're none of the things he says. X

Hes grinding me down, I don't recognise myself anymore, I tell him how he makes me feel and he brushes it off, I'm the best mum I can be shes my world and I'd do anything for her, she's the one thats keeping me here (alive) I hate my life and I hate not being myself, I feel thankful of all of you at this moment though, just to know even threw my faults its not all me, done my best and I can't do anymore than that

I am sending you a lot of love. I’m not very practical, but the practical mumsnet users will point you in the right direction. Listen to the advice.

That is so dreadful of the samaritans.

I get they're busy, not just me with problems after all, I need to just get on with things. Thats all I can do from here on in

How dare your husband say those things to you. You don't need that and he doesn't deserve you. And I say that as someone who left an abusive relationship and is happier several years down the line.

Hopefully that will be me love, just need to set it all in motion, thing is the thought of it absolutely kills me, we've been together for 10 years, married for 7 and a bit, unhappy most of it its crap, I'm putting my all in and in my eyes getting nothing back, we've bought a house together nearly 8 years ago, anything I like for the house he doesn't, but then he moans when I don't buy stuff for the house (curtains, cushions, pictures ect)

This last 18 months I've had to deal with my dad having cancer twice ( 2 different places) which was sorted thank the lord, to dad struggling with all sorts of stomach issues, not being able to leave the house hes had to make a big decision of having a stoma fitted, and not once has dh asked me if I'm ok or if I need any emotional support, but he was throwing up last week and got face on cause I didn't rush over to ask if he was OK, its so backwards I can't believe its real

Join them! They will welcome you.

Do you have kids? The thought of leaving at first is overwhelming. But you're thinking it which is the first step. It's a huge big deal to leave. But you can. It's time to put you first by the sounds of things.

I don't mean it like that @MumChp. When you are in dire need of support and get cut off, that's truly devastating. Hopefully OP can get someone to talk to whether there or elsewhere.
I also used CAB and Women's Aid btw, OP.