Might be being petty AF

[TheOddSocks]

Happy to be told I'm being petty AF here but it's actually driving me mad.

I've recently started reacting to dairy so I'm trying to cut it out completely.

I've been buying DF alternatives and it seems to have been disappearing quite quickly and twice this week I have gone to make a coffee to find there is none left. Similarly I went to open DF cheese I had bought to find half of it gone.

I know I haven't finished the milk as I only use it for coffee and I know I didn't open the cheese. Everyone has denied opening it (could have been a simple mistake so was just highlighting that's it's DF). This morning I've just seen DH using the DF milk in his coffee. Why when there is normal milk he can and always has happily used is he now choosing the only one I can have.

He's obviously been the person using it and prob used the cheese and I asked him this morning to stop and he just said "ah sorry" and walked away.

I wouldn't even mind if it was for a coffee and he noticed we'd ran out of normal milk but that isn't the case. We have a shop 2 mins down the road but it doesn't sell DF so I need to either order it or jump in the car and go to the shop further away.

I know this is stupid but it's just another in a long line of unnecessary shitty behaviour that I seem to be the one impacted by.

Can't buy all DF as kids wouldn't use it. I can buy spare and put it in the cupboard I guess and always have one in there.

The other shitty things are just ongoing thoughtless behaviour. Nothing major in isolation but all together it's really grating on me.

And there is no way you can accidently mix up the milk, cardboard container vs plastic.

It's a power play. The feigned nonchalance when being challenged gives it away.

I put up with this sort of shit for years, thinking I must be BU. I now live with a man who actually likes me.

I think he's doing this deliberately, so you don't have something exclusive to you (wanker).

I agree with pp - don't buy ANY dairy products (he obviously likes ND) and if he complains tell him to buy his own!

It was my way of asking if she meant dairy free or lactose free, without sounding rude. My granddaughter is lactose intolerant and I have never been able to taste the difference with LF products.

That depends whether the reaction is to the lactose or the dairy protein. My DD reacts to the A1 protein so can only have 100% A2.

It's dairy free rather than lactose free

Has he no sense of taste?
Why would anyone choose to eat something that definitely tastes inferior?

Buy more DF?
He's a dick

This.

That is my kind of pettiness.

Extremely inconsiderate as opposed to thoughtless. Pretty shit of him.

This! ⬆️

He clearly doesn't give a shit. That's the issue.

You’re not being petty, my brother used to do this to me. It’s calculated and sly and deliberately cruel, and you need to bin him off.

I'm currently DF as breastfeeding my son with possible CMPA.
Why on earth anyone would choose to eat cheese alternatives is beyond me! I mean they are not terrible and I can eat happily as an alternative but will be pleased to go back!!
DP would go without milk over drink my oat milk!
Maybe it is genuine on his part but unlikely!

I'd be fucking furious. I had a horrific allergy to dairy for a good 10 years and the bastard stuff was so bloody expensive on that alone I'd have gone up the wall.

This isn't inconsiderate, it is deliberate.

Do you have room in a cupboard for a large stock of long life dairy free milk? It would lessen the impact of him stealing what's in the fridge. I buy the 8 packs of long life almond milk from Amazon. They have soya, oat and a few others available too.

I've given up on DF cheese but the one I used to buy had long enough until the best before date that I'd buy 2 if it was on offer. Start buying it on the assumption 2 people are going to eat it and if he suddenly stops it shouldn't go to waste.

I know you shouldn't have to do these things and I'm sorry you're having to tolerate such behaviour.

Twattty behaviour but an obvious solution is to buy extra DF milk

I would spit in it. Or a small bit of pee. Or bin juice. But I'm petty and if I've asked and he's lied, then keeps doing it then that's on him.

Full disclosure - I have brothers and growing up nothing was my own so the delight in watching them eating/using my things then rubbing in my face, was priceless

but it's just another in a long line of unnecessary shitty behaviour that I seem to be the one impacted by.

It's deliberate OP. Once you realise that, other things start to fall into place. Open your eyes and you will see what a manipulative, awkward, unsupportive, dismissive, belittling arsewipe you are living with.

This but buy from Aldi or Lidl, it's like 50p or 70p for a litre.

I always have a few different milk alternative stored in the cupboard so I'd be doing that.

Also vegan cheese lasts a lot longer than dairy obviously, especially unopened. You could get a fridge lock box and put your cheese in there.

Sheese grated, blocks and slices are decent, Asda own make grated, Cathedral City grated, Cathedral City soft cheese with black pepper and spring onion is very nice, Applewood smoked cheese slices, Violife Camembert style and Lidl feta style are all pretty good. Get a selection and lock them up!

Maybe he prefers the taste? I’m not dairy free but I have oat milk in my tea because I prefer it, I have friends and family who are dairy free and when I go to their homes and they brew up they offer me oat or cow milk and I choose oat milk I prefer it, it wouldn’t occur to me that I should refuse the dairy free milk because they can’t have it. Just buy more of the dairy free milk so you always have a few spare cartons and don’t run out. It certainly wouldn’t occur to me if I lived in a shared family’s household that I couldn’t help myself to things in the fridge, in a family food should be communal and you just buy enough that everybody who wants to use the product can.

That said, using the dairy free cheese when you can eat regular cheese is very weird because dairy free cheese is rank 🤢

but it's just another in a long line of unnecessary shitty behaviour that I seem to be the one impacted by.

And this is the worry. What a shit of a man.

As someone who's WF (so mainly buy GF foods) that would piss me off as well.

We are very lucky that for the few GF/DF staff at school they buy treats for them too when buying for staff room.

Some staff will tuck into them to "try" them. It's selfish. They can try the only foods we eat and then eat everything else. We can't "try" their foods without consequence!

Or they'll be GF/DF foods left because all the "normal" food has gone so they'll just eat it. It's like we can't possibly have something they can't when the shoe is normally on the other foot.

I’m gluten free, not by choice, and have become hysterical when I’ve bought myself a gluten free treat and one of the kids has eaten it

its not on, it’s fucking mean and selfish.