Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..

1000 replies

JKbowling · 05/09/2024 21:47

I got this in my email inbox today, sent to all parents and guardians.

"Failure to safeguard a child's education" appearing on your DBS, really?

As for term time holidays. If a family can't afford to pay for their one measly UK break per year to be had during the 6 weeks holidays (because the prices are hiked right up and become unaffordable) how does school suppose said family is going to pay the fine?

To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..
OP posts:
NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/09/2024 23:10

6 weeks until half term and some won't be in until the week of the 15th. Let's hope they recover from the illnesses that have hit so many of them just as they were due to be back in the UK and they don't succumb to the week before Christmas illnesses that the poor things coincidentally have every single year. And then there's the night before school disease that hits them every April. Terrible luck.

I wonder if they'll see an improvement in their health fortunes after the new law starts to impact things?

Temushopper · 05/09/2024 23:10

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 21:56

450,000 kids were absent from school the last week of the summer term. You don't think that's a problem?

What do you think they are doing the last week of summer term that is crucial to their education?

I’ve never actually had the kids out of school in term time but mine were variously having a funday at the beach, school music festival, end of year assembly/awards, watching movies and taking in games to play with friends. It seems ludicrous to suggest that’s unmissable stuff.

queenprincess · 05/09/2024 23:10

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:10

So you're basically saying that education should be optional.

so you're basically putting words in other people's mouths

Labraradabrador · 05/09/2024 23:10

OlympicProcrastinator · 05/09/2024 23:01

Now you are just making stuff up. I did not say I went away every year. Nor did I even say I took my kids out of school. And I certainly didn’t say I don’t ‘connect’ with my kids. But don’t let that stop you being sarcastic and nasty.

I do however understand how difficult it is for many working families who find it difficult to book holiday at the same time, who may find being at home doesn’t feel like a mental break. Who perhaps cannot really switch off when they are continuing their daily routine at home. I know families can suffer illness or have limited time left with loved ones and want to spend time with them. Who maybe don’t live in a nice area or in a nice home. People get less and less quality time with their families and many only get a week or so together let alone an entire summer.

Apologies, I assumed you were speaking from actual experience not entertaining hypotheticals…

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:11

Gogogo12345 · 05/09/2024 23:10

I don't Last week if term is generally clearing classrooms watching films etc. The kids that are away are not going to miss anything important

My kid certainly wasn't watching films all week. Nor were my classes.

isntfunny · 05/09/2024 23:11

"Context is relevant.

Absent from school because they / the parents couldn't be arsed to go / take them.. is a problem.

Absent because of a holiday which every child should be able to have isn't a problem, in my opinion."

As long as you are happy for me, the teacher, to just not turn up for 2 weeks at some point during the year so that my children can have a holiday with their family, then yeh I'm all for it. Holiday prices suck, but supply and demand. I haven't had a holiday abroad since having kids, because I can't afford it. That's just the way it is.

TheScenicWay · 05/09/2024 23:11

Libre2 · 05/09/2024 22:55

I’m sorry, you reap what you sow. You cannot deem education to be of so little importance that you had kids out of the classroom for an irrationally long time during 2020 and 2021 and now all of a sudden it’s important again. That sent a massive message that actually it’s OK to be out of school.

To state my position- we have never taken a holiday outside of school holidays even before we had children as I am married to a teacher.

Very true.
My dc had no work in the first lockdown and not much in the second.
What did my dc do?
They signed up to lots of free learning, attended leadership workshops, got certificates for raising money for the DEC, read "worthy" books and gained CREST science awards.
Education and learning is important to me.
Why shouldn't I be able to take them on a term time holiday if I want to?

Galoop · 05/09/2024 23:11

JKbowling · 05/09/2024 22:00

Context is relevant.

Absent from school because they / the parents couldn't be arsed to go / take them.. is a problem.

Absent because of a holiday which every child should be able to have isn't a problem, in my opinion.

The problem is you can't decide who is worthy and who is not so there needs to be a blanket rule, surely that's not hard to figure out. Quite frankly if you're letting your kids miss out on school to save some money on holiday, that doesn't sound like very good parenting

LoopyLooooo · 05/09/2024 23:11

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:09

It's also really important that they get to experience the airport etc once every year, right?

That's irrelevant because if they just experienced it once during school term time, they're still getting fined 😳

Honestly, you crash into every thread like this and start typing at the speed of light, rather than actually stopping to breathe and think about what you're typing.

Maybe take your time and relax?

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:11

queenprincess · 05/09/2024 23:10

so you're basically putting words in other people's mouths

Well if the government shouldn't be doing anything to try to stop taking kids out of school to go to Majorca when they should be in lessons, then that is making education optional, isn't it?

Ophy83 · 05/09/2024 23:12

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 21:56

450,000 kids were absent from school the last week of the summer term. You don't think that's a problem?

On that particular week I actually don't think it's a problem. My kids were at school and they weren't doing any essential learning, it was mostly Olympics themed activities (sports/art)

EasterIssland · 05/09/2024 23:12

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:10

So you're basically saying that education should be optional.

Is it optional in those countries where they don’t fine the parents if they take the kids out for a week to go on holsl ?

ps. I’m Spanish. They don’t fine you if you take the child away for a holiday despite education is compulsory. I’d say that the absence levels are higher in this country from what I can see between my British friends and Spanish friends than what they are in Spain.

Delphiniumandlupins · 05/09/2024 23:12

If there were no penalties for children being absent then even more people will go on holiday that last week of term (lots using "they don't do any work anyway" excuse). How long until the higher holiday prices creep forward a week? Then people start going on holiday a week earlier, or take their holidays at other times, and the disruption continues to schools of always having one or two children absent from every class. There is no answer that suits everybody.

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 23:13

Labraradabrador · 05/09/2024 23:07

the belief that they learn more on a week’s beach holiday than school is the problem- if true it is a damning statement about education in this country, but is pervasive attitudes like yours which signal to kids that education isn’t really that important is certainly a contributing factor.

So you don't think travel is educational. Language, culture, food, swimming, even things as basic as what an airport is what flying feels like. That beaches in different countries have different oceans/seas different wildlife/fish. That water is a different colour/ temperature abroad. Watersafety/sunsafety all these things that seem so small and unimportant kids are soaking up.

Pythag · 05/09/2024 23:13

OlympicProcrastinator · 05/09/2024 22:27

We don’t get that time off work so, no.

Maybe then skive work while your kids are skiving school ?!

Galoop · 05/09/2024 23:13

Gogogo12345 · 05/09/2024 23:10

I don't Last week if term is generally clearing classrooms watching films etc. The kids that are away are not going to miss anything important

This attitude is why British kids are so thick compared to children from other countries that actually value learning

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:13

LoopyLooooo · 05/09/2024 23:11

That's irrelevant because if they just experienced it once during school term time, they're still getting fined 😳

Honestly, you crash into every thread like this and start typing at the speed of light, rather than actually stopping to breathe and think about what you're typing.

Maybe take your time and relax?

Maybe you shouldn't be so patronising and consider that telling a teacher that it doesn't matter that kids are missing millions of hours of school so that their parents can take them on a cheap break.

Teachers generally tend to think that school is important.

venusandmars · 05/09/2024 23:14

YvonneBee · 05/09/2024 22:13

Why not have longer school holidays like the private schools do? Then provide free holiday clubs for a couple of weeks which are optional.

Possibly because there is a curriculum and educational milestones to be achieved during the term. That's what schoold / education is for. It's not a holiday club.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 05/09/2024 23:15

As long as you are happy for me, the teacher, to just not turn up for 2 weeks at some point during the year so that my children can have a holiday with their family

Teachers are off school for all sorts of reasons all the time - sickness, family illness etc - I personally can't see an issue with a two week holiday once a year, especially as it'd be planned in advance and easier to cover for 🤷‍♀️

flaxensunshine · 05/09/2024 23:15

I’m really genuinely surprised so many people support this fining situation!

I would expect a good school would know who the vulnerable children are with genuine attendance issues and act accordingly.

The government set this policy and headteachers can decide who to authorise and who not to. They can also mark an unauthorised absence and not issue a fine. It’s their decision. If they decide a fine is needed they instruct the local authority to issue it.

it is madness, but I sent my children to schools that were sensible, my DH had a job that was difficult to get time off in summer holidays so we took our children out every year (bar exams etc) and each and every time we got a lovely letter from the head saying that they were very sorry that they couldn’t authorise it but to have a lovely time and no fine!

And I’m surprised nobody has mentioned the 2 + years our kids couldn’t go to school!!!

Pinguastic · 05/09/2024 23:15

Private schools don’t charge fines ….

Donewiththisshit · 05/09/2024 23:15

Can someone explain this to me.is there a time limit to the ‘3 strikes and you go to court’ rule? I.e is it if you take 3 term time holidays EVER you go to court or does it reset each year?

JKbowling · 05/09/2024 23:15

Bookoholic · 05/09/2024 23:10

My eldest DC has a complex form of autism and really struggles in crowds/ when it’s busy in the holidays, so was wondering about taking both DC out of school next year so we can all manage a holiday away together. I’d consider it a reasonable adjustment.

I’ve always stuck to the rules and never taken my children out of school- our Local Authority on the other hand…have kept my eldest DC out of school for over a year after failed specialist school placement and had to take legal action. It was found they were in breach of the law but seems it’s one rule for us and another for them!

My DS' special needs school has no problem with it and is very supportive of these yearly trips as he really benefits from them, as do the rest of us as a family including my DD who is deemed a young carer.

It's her school I am expecting to have a problem with.

I have a feeling my DD is going to come down with a D&V bug next year 🙂

OP posts:
Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 23:15

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:13

Maybe you shouldn't be so patronising and consider that telling a teacher that it doesn't matter that kids are missing millions of hours of school so that their parents can take them on a cheap break.

Teachers generally tend to think that school is important.

Maybe stop striking at every slightest inconvenience then and we would

sunsetsandboardwalks · 05/09/2024 23:16

This attitude is why British kids are so thick compared to children from other countries that actually value learning

Then maybe schools should teach in those last weeks instead of filling them with crafts, sports and films?

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is not accepting new messages.
Swipe left for the next trending thread