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To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..

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JKbowling · 05/09/2024 21:47

I got this in my email inbox today, sent to all parents and guardians.

"Failure to safeguard a child's education" appearing on your DBS, really?

As for term time holidays. If a family can't afford to pay for their one measly UK break per year to be had during the 6 weeks holidays (because the prices are hiked right up and become unaffordable) how does school suppose said family is going to pay the fine?

To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..
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noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:50

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 22:47

But everything is educational. Swimming, languages, different foods, how an airport works, geography, currency. Etc

Edited

Ah yes, these families are not only making sure that they only take holidays during times when absolutely no learning is going on at school, but they also are making sure that they are getting a cultural experience and not spending their days in the pool with the swim-up bar. Definitely all families are doing that.

Ladamesansmerci · 05/09/2024 22:51

The main aspect for me is the government interfering so much with what you do with your own child. It's ridiculous to not be able to take your child away for the week. People should not be priced out of holidays due to this. Let's be honest, the UK is not a nice place right now, and people deserve a break.

As long as you're not taking them out at key points like exams, who cares?

EasterIssland · 05/09/2024 22:51

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:43

How many kids do you have that the fine would be £5k?!

1 child.
1st fine is £80 each parent.
2nd fine is £160 each parent
3rd fine is court + a fine 2.5k and your dbs records affected

the fines are per child.

UsernameAlreadyTaken101 · 05/09/2024 22:51

coffeeandascarf · 05/09/2024 22:28

I'm going to get caught in this. Currently on holiday with my 5year old, he was off-rolled by the private school he attended (when they didn't consistently send him home - his ASD didn't fit with their standards) at the end of last term. We had our holiday booked and were told no school places were available. We finally managed to get a local school place and they've asked me to retrospectively apply for the holiday. Will I get a fine? We weren't even in the state system when we booked? Between the off-rolling and now I had to home school, they said I couldn't register him at the school starting at the end of our holiday. Shoot me but the holiday discount effectively pays for the private education...

Do you mean you saved enough money to cover private school fees just by booking a term-time holiday or have I misunderstood?
I'm a teacher so it's been over twenty years since I booked a holiday during term time - are the savings really that huge?

I know flight prices are much higher in the summer but if you factor in fines and then having to pay for childcare during two weeks of the summer would it really be that much of a saving?

Labraradabrador · 05/09/2024 22:51

OlympicProcrastinator · 05/09/2024 22:40

Great for you. I also have a lovely time with my children at home. But that is the same as weekends. It’s not a break from routine in the same way as a holiday and there are still responsibilities that reduce the time we have to focus on them.

When you only get a week or two max a year where all of you are off together, getting away from the stresses of home and the mental load it brings is important for some people.

Then save up for it and make it a priority - every other year if that is what it takes. term time + a fine that is a choice, I guess, and one that you are entitled to make, but don’t complain about fines.

sad for you that you can only connect with your family once a year by getting away, though.

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:52

Bloody hell the amount of special pleading going on.

The vast majority are taking their kid out of school to go on holiday because it's cheap and they don't value education enough to make sure they turn up to school every day.

People should just own it.

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:52

EasterIssland · 05/09/2024 22:51

1 child.
1st fine is £80 each parent.
2nd fine is £160 each parent
3rd fine is court + a fine 2.5k and your dbs records affected

the fines are per child.

Edited

Ah right, so now you want multiple holidays.

vitahelp · 05/09/2024 22:53

What’s ridiculous is how much more expensive holidays are during school holidays, absolute piss take.

DrCoconut · 05/09/2024 22:54

The thing that has been overlooked in all of this is the serious risk to some (mostly) women that fining separated couples could cause. If the RP takes a child away or a fine is otherwise generated, the NRP could get really arsey about it and then things could turn nasty. Not everyone is all nice and amicable. And it's not as simple as just don't go on holiday. My DS was classed as persistently absent last year because the sheer amount of illnesses he was unlucky enough to get took his attendance below 90%. You get unauthorised absence for things like doctors and dentists appointments as the rules say they have to be out of school time, even though that's not usually possible especially at hospital clinics. Attendance policies and sanctions are really ableist and i hate them. I will be writing to my new MP about all of this.

Twofurrycats · 05/09/2024 22:54

Unfortunately the approach to attendance has become a very blunt tool.
I taught in a very deprived area in the 90's, attendance was a huge problem. And it certainly wasn't due to going on holiday. A few examples from the many I could give.

  • child who was absent every Monday. Turned out weekend was party central at their house and Monday was a massive comedown.
  • children absent on giro day. All gone shopping.
  • a large family where we realised a child was always off. Turned out mum was lonely in an evening and kept one child up with her, who then had the next day off.
Fines etc would have had no impact. Support from staff for children and parents did. I then worked in a more affluent area where holidays were a thing and probably the main reason for absence. We could authorise 10 days. The problem came when you had a child who had 2 weeks holiday with Mum, 2weeks with Dad and then 2 with Granny. All in term time. Fines made no difference because it still worked out cheaper.
ToBeDetermined · 05/09/2024 22:54

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 21:56

450,000 kids were absent from school the last week of the summer term. You don't think that's a problem?

That could be 95% or so the ones that have finished their GCSEs.

Starlightstarbright3 · 05/09/2024 22:54

lemonslimesandallthingsnice · 05/09/2024 22:42

It's a piece of nonsense.
Education is more than a classroom setting. (MN is all about education and can't usually see past the classroom on these threads)

Holidays can be educational. I wouldn't be arsed with fines.

This exactly …

so many live in a dream world ..

lots of parents work in jobs unable to take holidays lesuire industries, armed forces

many children with Sn’s can’t manage when it’s busy .

but feel free to sit in your ivory tower ..

The problem with schools in England ( as I believe children in other parts of the uk seem to manage without these fines) is you keep throwing rules at parents expecting them to just submit ..

it isn’t about the absence it’s the reasons for the absence ..

my ds’s school loved when I was childminding would drop him at school for registration- then collect him after I dropped the kids off for an appointment . He did no learning that morning but he kept there figures up .. that taught him about playing the system which is what parents are doing

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 22:55

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:50

Ah yes, these families are not only making sure that they only take holidays during times when absolutely no learning is going on at school, but they also are making sure that they are getting a cultural experience and not spending their days in the pool with the swim-up bar. Definitely all families are doing that.

That is literally the opposite of what I said I said a beach/pool holiday absolutely can be educational for all the reasons I said you don't need to be going to museums and churches for a holiday to be educational everything in a new environment is educational for a child including swimming which is a very important life skill

Labraradabrador · 05/09/2024 22:55

Peakpeakpeak · 05/09/2024 22:47

It doesn't matter whether you think they're following the wrong cues. The people making the choices about travel, which yes obviously aren't the 5 year olds, don't agree with you. Your experiences in the 90s are not the standard, and so naturally people don't pay attention to them.

So no ability to reflect on the merits of foreign travel vs. education? Just lean into the cues you are getting from your friends / social media?

Libre2 · 05/09/2024 22:55

I’m sorry, you reap what you sow. You cannot deem education to be of so little importance that you had kids out of the classroom for an irrationally long time during 2020 and 2021 and now all of a sudden it’s important again. That sent a massive message that actually it’s OK to be out of school.

To state my position- we have never taken a holiday outside of school holidays even before we had children as I am married to a teacher.

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:56

ToBeDetermined · 05/09/2024 22:54

That could be 95% or so the ones that have finished their GCSEs.

Well no, because their absence post-exams isn't unauthorised. These 450,000 absences were unauthorised.

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 22:57

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:52

Bloody hell the amount of special pleading going on.

The vast majority are taking their kid out of school to go on holiday because it's cheap and they don't value education enough to make sure they turn up to school every day.

People should just own it.

We couldn't afford to go on holiday in August plus it's to hot for small children. I also strongly believe my children will learn more in a week on holiday then they do at school

Fizbosshoes · 05/09/2024 22:59

Peakpeakpeak · 05/09/2024 22:27

It's long enough for the cultural attitudes to have completely changed. Have you not noticed even in the last few years the increased value placed on travel? It's social media. No point telling people you had a couple of camping holidays in the 90s and liked it, we don't live in that world now.

My kids had several camping holidays between 2011 and 2019, do they not count either?

I live in a fairly wealthy area. Most people go abroad multiple times a year, mostly in school holidays but sometimes during termtime, because skiing or Disney works out cheaper that way.

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:59

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 22:55

That is literally the opposite of what I said I said a beach/pool holiday absolutely can be educational for all the reasons I said you don't need to be going to museums and churches for a holiday to be educational everything in a new environment is educational for a child including swimming which is a very important life skill

Like I said, just own it if you don't think attendance at school is more important than a beach holiday.

If swimming is an important life skill, there are many ways to take a child swimming that isn't a week in an all-inclusive.

ToBeDetermined · 05/09/2024 23:00

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:56

Well no, because their absence post-exams isn't unauthorised. These 450,000 absences were unauthorised.

Depends on the school. Our college has a new headteacher who is quite dim and thinks Ofsted would be affected if she authorised such absences.

Attendance at study sessions at school were mandatory until the last day of term even if you’d already completed all your exams.

Editing to add she also did away with study leave. All of we parents are disgusted over this.

EasterIssland · 05/09/2024 23:00

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:52

Ah right, so now you want multiple holidays.

it’s in a period of 3 years If you get 3 fines those are the fines.

the poster I was replying to said If you can afford the holidays then you can afford the fines. The fines are changing so yes I can afford the holidays but I can’t afford a fine of 5k and my records being affected. I’m lucky to be in the position to be able to travel as much as I want(even at the hefty prices of holiday term). Not everyone will be able to afford holidays when their kids break. Also , not every child’s education will be affected because their parents decided to take them out of school for a week to go to an all inclusive or to go to another side of the world one year and did it again the year after.

JKbowling · 05/09/2024 23:00

Libre2 · 05/09/2024 22:55

I’m sorry, you reap what you sow. You cannot deem education to be of so little importance that you had kids out of the classroom for an irrationally long time during 2020 and 2021 and now all of a sudden it’s important again. That sent a massive message that actually it’s OK to be out of school.

To state my position- we have never taken a holiday outside of school holidays even before we had children as I am married to a teacher.

Fantastic point.

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Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 23:00

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 22:59

Like I said, just own it if you don't think attendance at school is more important than a beach holiday.

If swimming is an important life skill, there are many ways to take a child swimming that isn't a week in an all-inclusive.

I have owned it can't you read how many times do I have to write a child will learn more in a week out in the world then in a classroom.

queenprincess · 05/09/2024 23:01

YANBU. For some children the odd term time holiday will offer greater enrichment and wellbeing than those few days at school.

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 23:01

Differentstarts · 05/09/2024 22:57

We couldn't afford to go on holiday in August plus it's to hot for small children. I also strongly believe my children will learn more in a week on holiday then they do at school

Everyone thinks 'oh it's ok for my child to do this because I'm special and it's not that important'. And hundreds of thousands of kids are missing school.
Thats millions of hours of lost education. Of course the government thinks it's important.

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