Is he an idiot or should I not be annoyed?

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I was watching Jeremy Clarkson farm TV programme with my partner when a lamb who Jeremy had rescued and took home passed away.

It showed the lamb but I didn't see it as I covered my face with my blanket as didn't want to see. (They showed one earlier in the same episode but it was my first time watching it so I didn't know they'd do that and saw the first lambs body.)

My boyfriend tried to wrestle the blanket off me so I'd have to look. I love animals and he knows that would have upset me. He carried on trying to drag the blanket from me. I said he was an idiot and got really annoyed.

We watched the rest of it an I've just come upstairs.

Am I overeacting? We were walking once and he said look a sheep when I looked over the sheep was dead in the field. I was annoyed then and told him never to do it again, he obvs hasn't listened.

He's an idiot and I wouldn't have been happy. I don't watch any animal programmes as they always upset me.

YABU to be upset that farming involves dead animals, even if you don’t eat or consume animal products (do you?)

He shouldn’t be pulling your blanket off your face either, but.. I would personally find it hard to not take the piss out of an adult watching a show about farming who couldn’t cope with the sight of a dead lamb.

Not least because a recently dead lamb just looks like a motionless live lamb, it’s not dripping with core and coming to turn you into a lamb zombie

He has boundary issues, in that he can’t stop can’t stop trampling on yours. He doesn’t respect you.

My husband is the opposite, if he spots anything that he knows I would find upsetting, he will distract or shield me from it.

That would be a deal breaker for me.

He knows exactly what he's doing, he knows you love animals and don't want to see the body of an animal that's passed away but he insists on you looking. It's not 'a joke' or 'just a laugh' or you being too sensitive. It's him being a disrespectful, cruel arsehole.

It would be the end for me I'm afraid OP. Especially if he's done after you telling him not to.

Are you vegan? If you are, he was being unreasonable.

If you consume animal products in your diet, clothing etc then YABU.

I didn't finish my last message.

If you care about someone you don't force them to see something that upsets them even if you don't find it upsetting .

I think your reaction was very...strong.

But he was a completely nasty cruel cunt.

It sounds like you were being a bit dramatic, why not just shut your eyes or look at your phone or something?

I don't think he should be forcing you to look, though.

are you seriously that sensative that you couldn't bare to see a lifeless animal? you were watching a 'farming' programme.. a programme about farms and farms animals!

i assume the animal wasn't mutilated, bloody or rotten? it was simply lifeless?

Yes i think you were over reacting! and your bf/ was just messing about with you, probably also amazed at the fact you are watching a farming show and hiding your eyes from a lifeless lamb?

Just curious are you vegetarian?

Being vegan has got nothing to do with her bf being an arsehole. It's the disrespect that's the issue.

He sounds like a cunt

Does he usually treat your emotions as a joke? I'd see this as a red flag

He doesn't get to decide what you find upsetting and don't!

It's totally irrelevant whether the OP is vegetarian, or sensitive. What kind of man tries to physically force his partner to watch something in order to upset her? A total and utter arsehole, that's what kind. 'Just messing about' . It's the kind of behaviour you expect from bullies at school, not adult partners.

OP - if he's done it before, it's deliberate, it's not that he 'hadn't listened'. He finds it entertaining to upset you.

Sorry. To clarify this is the first time I've ever seen the show so I didn't know what to expect. He had it on whilst I was cooking tea and then I started watching it with him. The episode I saw first was just him planting things and pond going wrong.

Then I stayed to watch the next episode which had the lambs in. Had I know this I wouldn't have watched it. I wasn't engaging my brain before hand to think a farming show would show dead animals.

I'm not vegan as I eat chicken and turkey. That's it. I don't have anything from cows, sheep and pigs.

I have vegan chocolate and eat veggie food. But as I say I eat chicken and turkey.

I'm really peeved off. I've shut my eyes to things like that before from other shows an he's tried to pull my arms off my eyes.

Just shut your eyes; there's no need to make a big performance out of it

Not cover with a blanket or your arm, as that just draws attention. Just close your eyelids.

I have done and turned my face away. He's then tried to turn my face back to the TV.

I've just had a go at him. But he's said I need to toughen up.

Idiot.

Sorry he's the idiot not you.

Yes I'm sure him pulling the blanket off was a vegetarian protest. FFS that's a stretch.

He's just being a boundary-crossing wanker and yes, he is the unreasonable one.

Hmmm some bad vibes from him I think.

You don't want to see hurt/dead animals. He tries to force you. Totally weird. It's a red flag that he isn't impacted by seeing hurt animals and actively wants you to look at them.

I'd get rid. Do you want him doing this to your future kids?

He's a piece of shit.

But he's said I need to toughen up.

I agree. Get really tough on shitty boyfriends. Physically forcing you to face something is assault. I wouldn't call the police but I would point that out to him. Arsehole.

He's a twat. Get rid of him. My DH changes the channel if he thinks something that would upset me is on (adverts for animal charities etc.)

Are u replying to yourself?

I'm trying to imagine why he would do that, and nope, I got nothing.

FWIW, if there's an opportunity, DH will warn me if a programme shows something he thinks might upset me, so that I can decide whether or not to give it a swerve. I literally cannot imagine him forcing me to look at something I didn't want to see. And if he did, he'd be in for a smack in the chops.