Is he an idiot or should I not be annoyed?

[Stickytoffeepudding6]

I was watching Jeremy Clarkson farm TV programme with my partner when a lamb who Jeremy had rescued and took home passed away.

It showed the lamb but I didn't see it as I covered my face with my blanket as didn't want to see. (They showed one earlier in the same episode but it was my first time watching it so I didn't know they'd do that and saw the first lambs body.)

My boyfriend tried to wrestle the blanket off me so I'd have to look. I love animals and he knows that would have upset me. He carried on trying to drag the blanket from me. I said he was an idiot and got really annoyed.

We watched the rest of it an I've just come upstairs.

Am I overeacting? We were walking once and he said look a sheep when I looked over the sheep was dead in the field. I was annoyed then and told him never to do it again, he obvs hasn't listened.

This what someone who loves you does!

Your BF is an insensitive wanker!

Why would he want you to be upset??

Ignore the posters who are asking if you're vegetarian or saying you overreacted.

Someone who loves you should want to protect you.

Thank you.

I've just said that to him but he's ignored it and carried on playing his video game.

We have a cat who I love very much and few times I've not been able to find her in the garden and ran around the house trying to find her, becoming more and more upset. He's just sat there watching TV. Not helped me.

Like I've said he's an idiot. Mr Nice Guy to everyone else.

You absolutely do need to toughen up and dump his cruel arse.

YABU for allowing that clown on your tv. I'd rather look at a blank screen.

He's an immature idiot. I would ignore those earnestly enquiring about your eating habits or telling you off for not wanting to look at a dead animal on a farming programme.

Dead lambs apart, it is clear you two aren’t suited, so do yourself a favour and call time on it.

No he's not an idiot - he's uncaring, spiteful, cruel, neglectful and horrible.

A little from column A, a little from column B.

He’s not “an idiot” he is an abusive piece of shit. Stop putting up with this. It can only get worse. If your lover can’t bring himself tovtreat you kindly and attentively at the start do you think he ever will? He is telling you by word and deed that he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t care what you like or love or don’t like—he will physically force you to do what he wants. This man is abusive.

It's actually got nothing to do with what you were or weren't watching. The issue here is that trying to physically force you to experience anything, when you've clearly told him not to and he has form for this kind of thing anyway, is a massive red flag. He's enjoying watching you be upset and belittling you. Whether it's usual to find that content particularly upsetting is irrelevant! He's a prick.

Been there myself (the relationship became more and more emotionally abusive) - I hate horror films and being chased/scared, and my ex h used to love scaring me (jumping out at me in the dark after watching something I found scary, for example). Also chasing me/the kids with spiders when he knew we hated them. No amount of increasingly upset reaction made any difference. In itself it could be explained away as a joke once, but the fact that he knows it's causing you genuine distress speaks volumes about him.

He sounds like a fucking tool. Dump him.