I know we probably have these threads all the time on here...
But AIBU to think this is the lowest of the low and financially abusive?
Have a child with ex who is still a baby. He's never been regular with seeing him, just turns up when he wants. Every 6 weeks or so. Never had him on his own.
Initially applied through CMS but ex convinced me we could do it amicably between us. Big mistake. Has been mostly paying but usually late or less than agreed. He's a decent earner.
Suddenly requested to start having our son for the whole weekend, Friday through to Monday. I'm okay with it in principle, realise it's my child's right to see their Dad etc.
but as he's not been seeing him regularly or consistently I simply asked that we build up to that, 1 whole day, then 2 whole days, then do the overnights. I think it was reasonable and in our sons best interest to get used to the change.
He threatened not to pay the maintenance. And followed through.
I've offered him days but he says unless it's the whole weekends like he's asked for he's not giving "me" any money.
The money I get for our child doesn't even cover half of the costs monthly, nursery etc. I do all the caring and running around as I work full time too.
His parents and friends think he's a wonderful man.
Frustrated as I can't and would never opt out of providing for my child.