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Petsitter left dead rabbit for us to find. (Some details may be upsetting to read)

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Serendipity12 · 03/09/2024 19:43

Hi - it’s a complex one so I’ll try to keep it brief. We had a small family holiday - long weekend away an hour or so away. No extended family available but we rarely go away so bit the bullet and booked a petsitting couple through an agency at humongous expense for the few days as we have a couple of cats, dogs and three (now two) rabbits.
Now the couple were lovely, and I should say I don’t think they caused the death in any way. I am aware that rabbits can go downhill quickly and luckily we have a blink cam in the front garden so could review the footage, but I didn’t do this on the three days we were away as we were getting regular ‘all’s ok’ updates from the sitters and we had explicitly asked to be informed if there were any problems.

On the Saturday he (the rabbit, not the sitter!) looked a bit quieter than usual in the footage that we watched back later, and the sitters did keep them all fed, also replenishing the water (one bottle on the wire run, one inside their hutch that they can go into freely all the time). On Sunday morning rabbit goes inside and doesn’t come back out, at all. Sitter makes a brief check later opening the door and after that visit there is no more water etc put inside, only outside in the outside water bottle where the other rabbit is hopping about. After that only the outside bottle is changed and the inside appears to have been left well alone, like they know what has happened and are leaving the dead rabbit well alone. I should say I said and wrote several times to let me know if anything at all was wrong.
We came back yesterday (Monday) morning to happy dogs and cats, and the sittters appeared to have looked after everything well. But later in the morning when I went to check the rabbits I found him dead and without going into too much detail re: rigor, flies etc it was obvious he had been dead for some time.
I feel from the footage I’ve looked at and the state he was in it is obvious that the sitter/s know but just didn’t want to tell us. I can understand that rabbits can go downhill quickly and that on Sunday a vet may not have been an option, especially as he was probably dead already, and I’m really trying to be reasonable but I really hated finding him like that - and the thought that they knew I would have wanted to be informed, but chose not to. I’m just glad neither of the kids made the discovery first.

I am thinking of letting the company know but I don’t want to be unreasonable and am not sure of my rights in this either. As I say, I’m sure they didn’t cause the death itself, it’s more about being informed and respecting my wishes in that, it really was a horrible shock…

Yabu - they did their best and clearly just wanted to avoid awkwardness, it is best left alone
Yanbu - at the least the company needs to be informed about this.

OP posts:
Stickytreacle · 04/09/2024 08:29

I think the best course of action would be to give the company the facts. That the rabbit had no water imside is unacceptable, regardless of whether they knew if it had died and see what they say.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/09/2024 08:33

That must have been horrible for the rabbit’s companion.

iNoticed · 04/09/2024 08:33

HolyMilkBoobiesBatman · 03/09/2024 19:50

Assuming that the rabbit was indeed dead then they were technically right to leave the body in the hutch - you are supposed to leave the body so that the other rabbits can understand they are gone so you allow the rabbits as long as they need to groom, fuss, try and rouse the one who has passed until they choose to move away. This allows any rabbits left behind the opportunity to move on. If the body is removed too soon the other rabbits will keep searching for it and possibly become depressed.

Aside from that of course you should have been informed beforehand so you could ensure your children didn’t get there first!

I wonder if th pet sitters panicked that they would be accused of harming the rabbit in some way and perhaps thought they could pretend he died after their last visit?
Did they know you had a camera?

The OP said there were flies. I cannot believe anyone would recommend leaving the body there until flies infested the home of a creature prone to fly strike?! We’re super vigilant about flies around the rabbits hutch.

Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 04/09/2024 08:34

DinosaurMunch · 03/09/2024 21:07

I don't think it's neglect to not change the water daily... As long as there was water in the bottle

For rabbits water must be changed at least daily. Ideally they should also have a sturdy heavy water bowl so it’s not tipped over. A bottle is not optimal for rabbits.

ViciousCurrentBun · 04/09/2024 08:38

They should have informed you. Maybe they would have waited until they knew you were returning home so as not to upset your holiday but to not tell you at all is appalling, I would inform the agency.

Wordsmithery · 04/09/2024 08:43

Sorry for your loss :(
I would be upset and angry.
Death is a natural part of pet ownership. As such, the company must have a policy on what to do in this situation. And the sitters, even without guidance from the company, should have sufficient experience and insight to realise you don't pretend an animal in your charge hasn't died!
Contact the agency.

SphinxOfBlackQuartz · 04/09/2024 08:46

For rabbits water must be changed at least daily.

Indeed. For ALL animals. They must all have access to fresh water. Dangerous bacteria can grow in water sources very quickly. I'd take a dim view of a pet sitter that did not provide daily fresh water for all the animals in their care. And without checking they would have no way of knowing if something had happened to the water supply to cut it off (e.g. a leak or spill).

I cannot think of a single good excuse why a sitter (or owner) would not check and refresh water daily (at least).

HoppingPavlova · 04/09/2024 08:47

Either neglectful or psychotic. Neither are good options. I’d contact the Agency and provide feedback.

flirtyqwerty · 04/09/2024 08:59

You absolutely need to inform the pet sitting agency about them. I imagine the contract has all sorts of small print but surely lack of care or not informing customers of a pet death asap is a major problem.

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