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Did I do the wrong thing?

106 replies

BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 10:24

Last week I was on the train, it was a few stops until it terminated. A group of 3 girls got on, I’d guess they were barely into their teens. It was busy so I was stood near the door, about 8 feet away. A ticket inspector who had been making his way down asked for their tickets which they showed to him. It quickly became clear they’d been bought the tickets by an adult which means they’re cheaper but the adult wasn’t accompanying them. The inspector began really telling them off, saying they would need to get off at the next stop or give their details. I could see they were panicking and one became tearful. I decided in the moment to step forward and say I was with them and that I’d moved further up so they could chat without me overhearing. The inspector seemed a bit annoyed but moved on. The girls thanked me and I moved back to my original spot.

I mentioned this to a family member in passing when we met for lunch. They said I shouldn’t have interfered and why would I approach a group of teenage girls anyway (I’m 41F with my own teen DD if it makes any difference. I thought I was being helpful and I’d honestly hope someone else would do the same if it was my DD. Did I overstep here?

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 03/09/2024 10:26

I think it was a nice thing to do. They shouldn’t have done it no, but the guard was unnecessarily harsh and I wouldn’t have wanted my teen daughter being detained at a train stop

Mumistiredzzzz · 03/09/2024 10:26

I think it was really kind of you. Maybe they, and the adult, didn't realise the adult needed to be with them. But whatever the reason you obviously helped them out.

MonsteraMama · 03/09/2024 10:28

I think it was a nice thing to do. They probably shouldn't have done it, but it probably also wasn't their decision to do so or just an honest mistake.

Septemberalready · 03/09/2024 10:29

It was a really kind thing to do.
It's not as if you just jumped in straight away. You stepped in when you saw the situation deteriorating and used your judgement.

AmandaHoldensLips · 03/09/2024 10:29

I would have done the same.

twohotwaterbottles · 03/09/2024 10:32

Well done OP. Kindness and compassion every time. I would've done the same. Keep being you

Sorenlorrenson · 03/09/2024 10:36

I don't understand, why would an adult buying the tickets make it cheaper?

BitOutOfPractice · 03/09/2024 10:39

I didn’t know you had to accompany children that age travelling!

I think it was a nice thing to do.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 03/09/2024 10:40

Sorenlorrenson · 03/09/2024 10:36

I don't understand, why would an adult buying the tickets make it cheaper?

Maybe it was on a family Railcard? I think the adult can take four kids with them and it's a lot cheaper, but the adult has to accompany them.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 03/09/2024 10:41

You did the right thing, OP.

hockityponktas · 03/09/2024 10:41

No you didn’t do the wrong thing. I would be very grateful as parent of teen girls if you had done this for my girls.

Setyoufree · 03/09/2024 10:42

You sound lovely OP, you did the right thing

Sorenlorrenson · 03/09/2024 10:48

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 03/09/2024 10:40

Maybe it was on a family Railcard? I think the adult can take four kids with them and it's a lot cheaper, but the adult has to accompany them.

Yeah but @BurtTheDurt s ticket would not have matched, this story makes no sense, actual nonsense.

SinnerBoy · 03/09/2024 10:51

Pocketfullofdogtreats · Today 10:40

Maybe it was on a family Railcard? I think the adult can take four kids with them and it's a lot cheaper, but the adult has to accompany them.

I've got one and one adult can take 3 kids, maximum 2 adults and 6 kids, it's great!

SinnerBoy · 03/09/2024 10:52

BurtTheDurt

I think you did something kind there and shouldn't worry about it. The adult who got the tickets probably made a genuine mistake and the clippie seems to have been unnecessarily aggressive, you calmed the situation down and all was well.

HitsAndMrs · 03/09/2024 10:55

You definitely did a good thing. I'd be very grateful if it was my DD!

HugHog · 03/09/2024 10:55

Sorenlorrenson · 03/09/2024 10:36

I don't understand, why would an adult buying the tickets make it cheaper?

Maybe the Kids for a Quid offer in Scotland?

CelestialNexus · 03/09/2024 10:55

Sorenlorrenson · 03/09/2024 10:48

Yeah but @BurtTheDurt s ticket would not have matched, this story makes no sense, actual nonsense.

Yes - the inspector would have looked at OPs ticket and said "thats not on the same deal"

Ardrahan · 03/09/2024 10:57

But didn’t the inspector ask to see your ticket if it was a family railcard situation?

I don’t think you did anything wrong, just obeyed a mildly kind impulse, but if the ticket inspector checked you had the Railcard that matched the girls’ tickets, and you had to admit you had no clue who they were, he could well have got suspicious of you in turn on safeguarding grounds for posing as ‘their’ adult!

Hecatoncheires · 03/09/2024 11:00

OP, is it the 'Kids for a Quid' in Scotland? Totally fair enough.

BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 11:56

Thanks all! It was a spur of the moment thing obviously! I thought it might help and clearly it did! He might’ve been embarrassed that he had an adult approach him I don’t know. I’ve bought my daughter the same ticket when she’s with me and 9 times out of 10 they just want proof you’ve paid to be there!

I’d be a massive sadcase to have made this up surely 😁

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BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 12:19

Hecatoncheires · 03/09/2024 11:00

OP, is it the 'Kids for a Quid' in Scotland? Totally fair enough.

No I think it’s just a regular discount for kids up to 15 on greater anglia as far as I know? It saves about £2 or £3 which makes the inspector a bloody jobsworth IMO

OP posts:
commonground · 03/09/2024 12:28

BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 12:19

No I think it’s just a regular discount for kids up to 15 on greater anglia as far as I know? It saves about £2 or £3 which makes the inspector a bloody jobsworth IMO

Ah. Greater Anglia. Say no more. They have their fair share of jobsworth for sure. I have had to rescue a sobbing teenage girl before for a different ticket issue (and no less confusing).

ClaudiaWankleman · 03/09/2024 12:39

Greater Anglia are awful.

Sethera · 03/09/2024 12:50

BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 12:19

No I think it’s just a regular discount for kids up to 15 on greater anglia as far as I know? It saves about £2 or £3 which makes the inspector a bloody jobsworth IMO

He's not a jobsworth. He's doing his job. We'd all like train tickets to be cheaper but the way to achieve that is not by travelling on a ticket you're not entitled to travel on.

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