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Did I do the wrong thing?

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BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 10:24

Last week I was on the train, it was a few stops until it terminated. A group of 3 girls got on, I’d guess they were barely into their teens. It was busy so I was stood near the door, about 8 feet away. A ticket inspector who had been making his way down asked for their tickets which they showed to him. It quickly became clear they’d been bought the tickets by an adult which means they’re cheaper but the adult wasn’t accompanying them. The inspector began really telling them off, saying they would need to get off at the next stop or give their details. I could see they were panicking and one became tearful. I decided in the moment to step forward and say I was with them and that I’d moved further up so they could chat without me overhearing. The inspector seemed a bit annoyed but moved on. The girls thanked me and I moved back to my original spot.

I mentioned this to a family member in passing when we met for lunch. They said I shouldn’t have interfered and why would I approach a group of teenage girls anyway (I’m 41F with my own teen DD if it makes any difference. I thought I was being helpful and I’d honestly hope someone else would do the same if it was my DD. Did I overstep here?

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MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/09/2024 22:04

unsync · 07/09/2024 17:27

Irrespective of the rights or wrongs, girls and women should not just be ejected from public transport into a possibly unfamiliar environment. Do men just not pay any attention to the news?

No-one should be
Gender regardless
Young men, for example, are vulnerable to other young men
Males can be disabled and completely thrown by being abandoned somewhere unknown

Northernladdette · 07/09/2024 23:43

BurtTheDurt · 07/09/2024 18:05

I don’t know the exact reason, they just are. Look it up on the greater Anglia website if you like? I just buy the tickets and go on about my business

It was a simple question 🙄
Though tbf, on this occasion, by your own admittance, you didn’t just ‘buy my tickets and get on with my business’ did you?

unsync · 08/09/2024 06:00

MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/09/2024 22:04

No-one should be
Gender regardless
Young men, for example, are vulnerable to other young men
Males can be disabled and completely thrown by being abandoned somewhere unknown

🙄 Gender is a social construct. It's always about the men isn't it? Careful, your misogyny is showing. I would suggest you educate yourself about violence against women and girls.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 08/09/2024 09:50

unsync · 08/09/2024 06:00

🙄 Gender is a social construct. It's always about the men isn't it? Careful, your misogyny is showing. I would suggest you educate yourself about violence against women and girls.

Wtf?

It's not misogyny to say that no-one should be abandoned somewhere they don't know and the correctly point out that men are at risk from other men

I never said women weren't at risk

I suggest you educate yourself about male on male violence (they are more likely to be attacked at random in the street, for example)

Todaywasbetter · 11/01/2025 13:17

Reading about Your act of kindness has helped me on a very hard day. Thank you.

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