AIBU to ask if I’m just not a very nice person?

[Baskerville2]

Long term lurker but first time poster so please be kind.
I’m just beginning to wonder if I’m just not a very nice person?
I always try to be encouraging to people and be polite etc but my internal monologue just tells me that I’m just not nice.
I can be blunt and find it hard to be around people with no ambition or hypochondriac’s but just walk away rather than be rude.

My O/H says I can be a hard and blunt which I think doesn’t help how I feel about myself.

If I am just a bitch then how do I go about changing it without turning into someone who’s walked over. (You have to be very strong in my profession else you are simply walked over!)

Maybe a bit deep for a Monday night but it’s already been a long week!

....how do you know that that's what the OP has no patience with? She mentions people without ambition and hypochondriacs.

Do you feel that people without ambition talk crap? In what way? How does a lack of apparent ambition correlate with talking crap? I suppose one could say that hypochondria leads to talking crap, but that's hardly the defining feature of that condition.

How do you get to that assertion from what the OP has offered?

I mean, there are those who might suggest you're talking crap.