To ask what would you do?

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Spoke to sil yesterday she brought up dn birthday which is next month she invited dc to the party (soft play) then back to theirs for a get together. All good. Kids are all 4-6 years old and get on well.

That night dh gets a text from one of his oldest friends they are doing a bbq at theirs to introduce their new baby. Same day same time, all dh friendship group are going plus partners. Dh wants to tell sil we can't make it to nephews party as we are already going to bbq.

I want to ask mil if she will take dc to the party while we go bbq. The we all meet back at sils. We would have around 3hours at bbq. Dh is worried we would look rude leaving early and bbq may not have started by that time.

Wwyd?

Really? I had a bbq when mine was that age. It was my idea and I had a great time.

I think you should do the first option with the children as you have already said yes. Your husband can go to his friend’s bbq if he wants.

@LivingDeadGirlUK that's a really strange assumption. It's inviting people over and doing easy food with minimum mess in the house. Plenty of women arrange BBQs.

Ok it seems I had a different experience to others here raising a 3 week old! I certainly had visitors, but they were bringing me food, not me waiting on them.

Tbh I'm with you. I was a bleeding/ leaking exhausted mess. That was the week dh went back to work and I was definitely not up for entertaining.

Is this their first baby? Has it been born yet? If it 3 weeks after due date, and baby is late, the mum may not even feel upto hosting a bbq. Brand new parents may not quite realise how tiring it is and could cancel/postpone.

I'd go with family and soft play on this occasion and meet baby another time. Also strange that they're having a bbq for a baby but no children are invited!