How do you 'recover' from a row?

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I have a really negative personality flaw, in that I find it hard to let go of bad feelings after a row/upset with DH.

Example, I spent effort and time baking a cake for him as he'd said he fancied cake, he had a slice, I asked "is it OK?" And he said "meh".

I was hurt and felt zero appreciation. I told him that I was disappointed he didn't like it, and he said 'It's fine. I like 9/10 things you cook/make."

I do 100% of all the cooking.

He said sorry and reflected that maybe he could have been kinder, but I'm still upset.

This turned into a bigger row because he told me I should let it go because he apologised.

Is this my problem? Should I immediately let go of any upset when he says sorry?

He was rude and you overreact to any slight criticism

Not a great combination really

Did you like the cake?

Your DH was really thoughtless.

He could have said something far more considered like "it's lovely and light but I prefer your carrot cake because it's less sweet and more moist"

Wholeheartedly agree