Cannot understand this mentality

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So few weeks ago DH mowed through lawnmower cable, no one was electrocuted but lots of swearing and tantrum whilst I calmly looked on you tube found a video how to replace cable and ordered one from Amazon, came next day. Next day DH sat for 45 mins mending the old cable with electrical tape WITH THE NEW CABLE NEXT TO HIM. I offered to help rewire the new one or share the video, no, look I've got it working. Last week he went to mow lawn, stopped working, que another strop, even though I'd really asked him to be safe about this. Today, I'm out gardening in front, come in to get a coffee and he's sat watching the cricket RETAPING THE CABLE. He's asked me to be supportive of him doing it his way. please let me understand the mentality

My dm taught a girl whose dad was killed mowing over the cable. Tell him not to be so stupid.

Let him crack on doing it. If he electrocutes himself at least you won't have to tolerate the tantrums anymore.

My Xh once stropped because ds1 (who was 9 at the time, isn't his bio son and was mowing the lawn for the first time ever) didn't mow the lawn 'properly' (he'd missed a few bits.)

So he flounced out to the garden to Do The Job Properly Himself and promptly mowed over the cable in several places. I nearly wet myself laughing.

Anyhoo. My standard response to male stupidity (being the proud mama of two boys and having a partner with a 'let's try it and see' mentality) is to bellow "If you cut off an arm/leg don't come running to me for help" or "If you hurt yourself I will SMACK" and then retire away from the danger zone with a cup of tea/ small tot of something, depending on time.

So far, my strategy seems to have ensured a 100% success rate of calamity-avoidance.

🤣

To be fair, I cut through the hedge trimmer cable several weeks on the trot, Dh fixed it. However, had I bought a new cable, I’m pretty sure he would have used it. Some years later-I don’t think he trusts me (!!) he’s bought a cordless one. Which he has yet to use, but I filled silly amounts of builders’ bags this week using it.

Crumbs, don’t say that! A colleague’s Dh literally did actually (almost) cut off his hand this year, nearly all the way through in a gardening accident. 😢

do you have life insurance on him?

yes he's daft.
dh's 'speciality' is getting injured exercising. <sigh>

Wow

Cordless mower really would be best all round, will save up

@BarbaraHoward Paddy is a widely used term for a tantrum where I live.

That doesn't mean it isn't racist.

@BarbaraHoward Racist?!?!?!?! In what way is the word Paddy racist?!?! There's a company called Paddy Power Bingo ffs

I know people who say ch**ky for a Chinese or the P word for a curry doesn't mean it's acceptable.

The word paddy isn't racist, obviously. Paddy to mean tantrum is, it's an anti Irish slur (although not everyone is aware of that evidently). Glad to fill you in.

Time to increase his life assurance.

Paddy is short for Padraig or Patrick. You get lots of Irish called Paddy. Have a Paddy is to have a tantrum like an Irish person, that's why it's offensive as it's a cultural stereotype.

I'm wincing at all the names posters are calling your husband. I cannot imagine giving strangers the opportunity to release their pent-up misandry at my husband. Talking about how dangerous what he's done is, how unreasonable, foolish, etc his behaviour is - fine but all the namecalling and pp even 'joking' about his death? Bizarre!

Imagine the outrage if this was a man posting about his wife and all the men were saying this about her.

Luckily I take it as a joke, and I'll never show him this thread 😆

Imagine the outrage if this was a man posting about his wife and all the men were saying this about her.

We would still call her a muppet. We would still call her stupid. We would still advise the OP upgrades the life insurance. This really isn't about the differences between men and women 🙄

The name Paddy is obviously not racist. Fucking hell. The ops husband is not the only dim one around here.

Some people would be like ‘you’ve told us your husband is standing on the roof drying his hair with a hairdryer during a lightning storm and people are saying really nasty things about him- they wouldn’t do that if he were a woman, Mumsnet just hates men.

I would save up that line op, ‘I’d like your support for me to do this my way.’ For every time he says anything about how you do anything. If he’s still alive.

Ha, your DH sounds like my dad! He will fix something (badly - often with duct tape), and despite it looking awful and possibly being dangerous.... in his mind it is still functional so is ok.

Sadly, my DP is not much different. He bent his glasses badly (somehow!), and still continued to wear them as they "still did the job", even though looking at him was making me feel seasick.

Named after the owner's (David Power), son Paddy (Patrick).
Having a paddy was a outdated term used for a tantrum because of the drunken, trouble causing Irish stereotype. Paddy was a nickname for the Irish. It has racist roots.

So he flounced out to the garden to Do The Job Properly Himself and promptly mowed over the cable in several places

To be fair, I cut through the hedge trimmer cable several weeks on the trot

How stupid do you have to be to do this? I used to occasionally mow the lawn when I was growing up, and even as a child of barely double-digit age I knew to keep the cable well out of the way of the blades.

Does he have life insurance?