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AIBU to think this lady was nuts? Share your WTF interactions with strangers here

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BarbaraVineFan · 28/08/2024 22:31

In the park with 4 year old DD today and she became fascinated with a ladybird which she found near the path. We were standing by the side of the path as DD let the ladybird crawl over her arms and hands. A lady went past with a little kid of a similar age and was looking over, so I said 'we've got a ladybird!' (Not sure why really but I felt the need to explain.) Upon which this woman sort of sniggered and went 'ah..,Chlamydia!' And then just...went on her way.

Having googled, I see that apparently ladybirds carry all sorts of STIs, which they transmit to other ladybirds and not humans. So I guess that's what she meant. But at the time I was like 'What the actual fuck?' 😂 Who even says that to a stranger?!

Does anyone have any similar stories of batshit interactions with strangers to share?

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Gardendiary · 29/08/2024 10:07

VivienneDelacroix · 28/08/2024 23:04

When my eldest were aged about 1 and 2, I was going into the local post office. One in a pushchair, one in a sling on my back, both asleep, neither bothering anyone. I held the door open for a man who was coming out as I was going in and he looked me straight in the eye and said "Don't have any more children". Such an odd thing to say to a stranger - it wasn't like I had hoards of kids running rings around me and causing mayhem.

Ahh I've had exactly the same. On the bus with baby ds, man asked 'do you have any more children' I said no - generally in similar situations people say something nice about the baby/how lovely it is etc. This guy pretty much shouted 'Good - well don't have anymore!' cue me exchanging baffled glances with other people on the bus who had heard this exchange.

Lemonadeand · 29/08/2024 10:07

MammaMiaPizzeria · 29/08/2024 00:49

Oh and "I bet it's Fifty Shades of Grey you're reading on your Kindle. You've got that look about you"

🤮

Mookie81 · 29/08/2024 10:07

Rosscameasdoody · 29/08/2024 09:58

OK then.l’ll take fact over opinion every time.

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Yeah no, it's not 'fact', it's also your opinion!

Keenovay · 29/08/2024 10:08

Thurien · 28/08/2024 23:34

On another occasion, I was walking up a high street and turned into a small newsagents to buy a newspaper.

Between the shop server and the public was one of those deep sweet counters. Squatted on top of the sweets, was another elderly gentleman pawing at the lollipops and chocolate bars. A young teenager then appeared and tried to coax him down saying "Grandad, don't do that please. You know it's wrong."

I was very unsettled for a while.

This one is like a vintage James Thurber cartoon.

Limth · 29/08/2024 10:09

I was in a pub once with a few friends having lunch. I was dressed very casually and not particularly special.

On her way out a very stylish European (Italian I think) lady came over and told me I looked beautiful, that I'd done an amazing job of making cheap clothes look expensive and chic 🤣🤣🤣🤣

She very much meant it as a compliment but it was a bit double-edged.

She then very theatrically put on her designer sunglasses and kind of sashayed out of the pub. I had to ask my friends "Did that actually just happen?" because it was so random

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 29/08/2024 10:09

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Bit of an overreaction...to have a thought?

Ok then.

possomblossom · 29/08/2024 10:09

Cas112 · 29/08/2024 08:17

Bit of an overreaction from you 😂

Over-reaction: "I didn't say anything back by the way, I just looked at him for about 3 seconds like >>>> and carried on walking."

I'm not really curious to see what you (and others previously in the same vein) would call an "under-reaction"... The strange people with their weird comments are appearing on this thread too....

whitefiligree · 29/08/2024 10:11

The fish thing, I assumed it was a medium sized dead fish, so head first then you can pull it back out by the tail…but why am I even giving this serious consideration?!

Scirocco · 29/08/2024 10:11

As I left a mosque, a rather intoxicated gentleman staggered over to me and demanded: "Are you Protestant or Catholic?" I gestured at the building I'd just left and said "I'm Muslim." "YES, BUT ARE YOU A PROTESTANT MUSLIM OR A CATHOLIC MUSLIM?". I asked which he'd prefer me to be, then agreed with him that I'd be that kind.

The fish debate is a tricky one. Instinctively, head seems the obvious answer. But, if it's a live fish, then tail first would probably make it easier for the fish to wriggle out. As I wouldn't want the fish to be in there, facilitating its departure would probably be the preferred course of action.

Litlgreyrabbit · 29/08/2024 10:12

I’m upset with those of you engaging with the fish question 🤢🤢🤢🤢

Rosscameasdoody · 29/08/2024 10:14

HappiestSleeping · 29/08/2024 09:51

I assume he had seen my youthful-looking rear and was disappointed that my mid-40s haggard face did not match up and his original sexist leer had to be replaced with a more age appropriate rudeness. I am still trying to come up with a witty rejoinder.

What about "I'll be able to outrun creeps like you though", or "next time I want your opinion, I'll give it to you", or "I may be unfit, but your ugly, and at least I can get fitter".

"Why did you not just hit him with your sticks?"

What about "I was looking for his owner to hit them with the sticks for not training him properly", or "he is fine, it's his owners who are the problem", or "because I'm a decent human being".

Seriously, the stuff on this thread is amazing. I've said some stupid things in an unthinking moment, or where my sense of humour hasn't been aligned, but I don't think I'm ever going to worry about it again as I'm nowhere close to some of the fucktards you have all experienced. In the old days, people with mental health issues were often in institutions, possibly too many were. These days, I wonder if it hasn't gone completely the other way with people not getting the care they need anymore.

In the old days, people with mental health issues were often in institutions, possibly too many were. These days, I wonder if it hasn't gone completely the other way with people not getting the care they need anymore.

Not the point of the thread l know, but you make an important point nevertheless. Mental health provision is in crisis and those with MH conditions often end up in trouble with the police or imprisoned - basically because they’re not getting the help they need and there’s nowhere else for them to go if they end up offending as a result. The ‘care in the community’ approach has never worked and some of the descriptions of various interactions are actually quite worrying.

EveningSpread · 29/08/2024 10:14

Thurien · 28/08/2024 23:16

A well dressed gentleman of about 80 came out of a block of flats in Central London, crossed the road to my side and as he approached me sang:

" I am a very friendly lion called Parsley" then proceeded to deliver two weak roars.

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Someone might have said this already (haven't read the thread beyond here) but do you know The Herbs?!

TorroFerney · 29/08/2024 10:15

That’s not nuts that’s just saying a random fact though. It caused you to learn something new so that’s a win. I knew it about koalas not ladybirds. I bet she’s writing a similar thread about an adult who pointed out a ladybird! Her fact was more interesting than yours!

godmum56 · 29/08/2024 10:16

BarbaraVineFan · 28/08/2024 22:31

In the park with 4 year old DD today and she became fascinated with a ladybird which she found near the path. We were standing by the side of the path as DD let the ladybird crawl over her arms and hands. A lady went past with a little kid of a similar age and was looking over, so I said 'we've got a ladybird!' (Not sure why really but I felt the need to explain.) Upon which this woman sort of sniggered and went 'ah..,Chlamydia!' And then just...went on her way.

Having googled, I see that apparently ladybirds carry all sorts of STIs, which they transmit to other ladybirds and not humans. So I guess that's what she meant. But at the time I was like 'What the actual fuck?' 😂 Who even says that to a stranger?!

Does anyone have any similar stories of batshit interactions with strangers to share?

could she have got her words mixed up? The latin name for a ladybird is Coccinella.

godmum56 · 29/08/2024 10:16

EveningSpread · 29/08/2024 10:14

Someone might have said this already (haven't read the thread beyond here) but do you know The Herbs?!

yup, they used to be one of my favourites

Hoppinggreen · 29/08/2024 10:17

PinkyGold · 29/08/2024 10:02

Another time (and this was me being odd) I was walking to work listening to the radio on earphones. It was a very playful interactive show, and there was a phone in competition. A contestant was played "who lives in a pineapple under the sea" and seeing no one around I decided to bellow "SpongeBob SquarePants" loudly.

I then spotted this lady rapidly walking away from me whom I had just shouted at as she'd walked past me. She looked back at me with a terrible look of incomprehension and bemusement. I called "sorry" and pointed at my Ear buds. As she nearly sprinted away I realised she probably couldn't see my ear buds... 😂

So if you were in Castle Park at just after 8am on a Tuesday and this oddball shouted SpongeBob SquarePants as you walked past, that was me. 🤭

Anybody who doesn't sing "Spongebob squarepants" to the question of who lives in a pineapple under the sea is odd in my view

Notreadytomakenice · 29/08/2024 10:18

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 28/08/2024 22:58

Yeah YOU don't!

I find your post and responses so odd... What he said wasn't remotely sexual and if you thought it was, that probably says more about you than him.

Lemonadeand · 29/08/2024 10:18

Jellybeansweets · 29/08/2024 02:27

Oh my goodness. The weirdest interaction I had was with a man dressed in corporate wear. I was walking in westfields, and there he was sat on a bench in the middle. As I walked past he leapt up and ran towards me to shout “DID YOU KNOW CHRISTMAS IS ON A WEDNESDAY THIS YEAR?! HAVE YOU BEEN GOOD OR BAD?”

Another weird interaction was being accused of shoplifting in Primark. I had a designer tote bag with me, and had put my denim jacket inside but hadn’t zipped the bag up. I was so confused at being followed out of the store by 4 security guards, who demanded to see this jacket which was from Zara!!!!!! 😂😂

Never in my life had I been accused of stealing- I’d been carrying quite an expensive purse so it was even more weird iyswim?

So bizarre and strange, ended up making a big complaint and the manager got a warning.

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I was once accused of stealing the book “The Book Thief” at Budapest Airport. The irony was lost on the shop assistant. Thankfully I had the receipt so could demonstrate I had just bought it from another shop.

CurlewKate · 29/08/2024 10:19

3 posts before age starts being mentioned....

HiHo2024 · 29/08/2024 10:19

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Oohh that’s eerie! Poor girl.

greektreacle · 29/08/2024 10:20

Downunderduchess · 29/08/2024 08:53

@greektreacle you’ve reminded me of my own bus stop harassment. I was around 14 waiting at the bus stop on my own on my way home from my nanas house. It was summer so I was wearing a singlet (vest) top and a skirt. An old man stumbles up to me and says ooh, “I’d love to suck on those”… I was mortified and I didn’t really understand why he would want to do something like that, I only thought they were to feed babies. It was probably the start of too much unwanted male attention. Really sickening.

😨😨 gross. I’m sorry.

miniaturepixieonacid · 29/08/2024 10:22

Remembered another very weird one.

When I was about 19, I offered to give an old lady who went my church a lift home. It was a hot day and I had the front windows down in the car. Half way to her house she said 'I'd wind your window up if I were you, dear. There's a lot of those single mothers on this street.'

Not sure what she thought that terribly dangerous and undesirable demographic of people were going to do to us from inside their houses while we drove past in my car... 🤔

SleepwalkingInTesco · 29/08/2024 10:23

We were at the park and I'd put DD1's hat on top of the buggy in a fenced playground area at our local park. A woman walking outside reached over, picked up the hat (for a one-year-old), put it on and walked off 🤔

PriOn1 · 29/08/2024 10:23

Gremlins101 · 29/08/2024 05:00

Years ago my mum and her friend did a weekend road trip. They (accidentally, or so they tell me) passed through a town where there was an annual matchmaking festival for local farmers. They were in a pub, an elderly man was sitting nearby, and some American women were at the next table.

Out of nowhere, the old man took his walking stick and prodded one of the Americans in the side, saying "and what are you across the scales then?"

i was horrified at this story, but my mum said he genuinely seemed to think that was how to spoke to a woman you liked the look of at a matchmaking festival!

Back when I was young, I used to attend Young Farmers’meetings in Scotland.

One of them once told me I had good, calf bearing hips.

I assumed it was intended as a compliment! 🤣

Lemonadeand · 29/08/2024 10:24

Mistressofnone · 29/08/2024 07:40

On my first lone outing with DS as a newborn, we sat in a coffeeshop and a woman walked by with her grandson of about 18 months on their way to the toilets. On their way back she stopped at my table and said 'thought you might have offered to help me change him.. sitting with your coffee watching a grandmother struggle'.

I said that I couldn't leave my three week old to go and wipe a random kid's bum. She flapped her hand and said 'don't worry it's done now' and walked off.

There’s something about being a newborn mum that attracts intrusive comments. I don’t know if it’s because you’re feeling vulnerable anyway but it seems to happen a lot. A couple in a cafe had a go at my sister for being a teenage parent when she was breastfeeding a newborn. She was 30! She just laughed at them.