Aibu to feel very sorry for Ben & Marina Fogle who were wrongly reported to social services by a neighbour

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13787467/Marina-Fogle-reveals-husband-Ben-wrongly-reported-social-services-shouting-children-amid-row-Kirstie-Allsopp-sons-interrailing-trip.html

I really like the Fogles, so sorry they had to endure this stress.

This is a real issue, it's just not ok. It should be a crime to make malicious reports really.

Mistaken is very different from malicious.

Exactly even a fine for wasting social services time should be brought in, I'm sure if a fine was introduced the amount of malicious reports would be cut down on.

Exactly. She must be on Mumsnet with all the shock and the trembling.

Absolutely this!

Not really no. This was some weeks after the complaint as I understand it. So if I had been up to no good I could have continued to do so for a fairly prolonged period. The timing was purely to suit the social work team.

I get it, I feel for the Fogles and for Kirsty although I disagree with her about almost everything else.

We had a social worker here after an incident with a pissed teenager and she agreed there should be no further action, however, her request was that I write and say "I don't give consent for you to contact other agencies" which would have made me look uncooperative to anyone reading the file.

I wrote saying "the following xxx is in place as discussed and you agreed that we don't need to do anything differently and that it would not be a good use of resources to refer us to other agencies since if you were to refer us their suggestions would likely cover everything we're already doing" - ETA I just checked, she actually emailed me saying "please confirm you don't consent" - WTAF?

It's total bullshit that I should have had to do that but I wasn't going to write to say I wasn't prepared to consent, why would I? What stupid advice.

As a SW I have investigated all shapes sizes and classes of people....no discrimination from me or the rest of my team.

I can tell just by reading your posts that you have absolutely no involvement in child safeguarding whatsoever.

You simply cannot judge whether someone is a good parent or an abuser by their appearance. You just can't. It's a very dangerous way of thinking.

And well presented, middle-class abusive parents are so much more difficult to identify and investigate because of the very bias you are showing. There is as much abuse in middle class families as in working class ones. But it's better hidden.

I'd also like to know who these numerous famous, well off people are and who SS didn't investigate because they were investigating them as the easy option instead.

You must be very confident of your facts to make such a bold claim.

Or you're just making it up.

I think social services having to even make a phone call for the KA case is overkill, but responding to a report about shouting is different, as that could have been something bad.
I've had a lot of malicious reports made about me (by my ex and his parents, when we were going through a very bad custody battle), it was horrible, very very horrible, but the accusations were about serious stuff so of course I understood that the social workers had to investigate, even when they knew me and knew it was most likely malicious, they still had to investigate each time because they were alleging really bad things.

Because you said that the person who reported it did so after hearing raised voices. They couldn't have done, since BF and family were away on holiday at the time, hence it being a false and malicious report.