'Don't wish your life away'

[moorin]

I have been told this by quite a lot of people recently. I can only think I come across as the world's biggest Debbie Downer.

I don't think I'm depressed, but perhaps more realistic. I'm 34. The reality is that I will be working for another 35 years. So working 5 days a week, with 2 days off for the rest of my life. My weekends are spent cleaning or being hounded by my kids to play. We do have a holiday each year, go out for food etc, but it's just short term enjoyment.

How do you learn to 'live in the moment' and not wish your life away when actually it's going to be a long old slog until I can retire and even then might not be quite as able bodied and can't make the most of it?

I’m wondering if your job is the problem? Have you thought seriously about changing it?

You don’t mention a partner, are you a single parent?

Do you work from home? The reason I ask is because you don’t seem to have much joy in your life. A dog will bring you that!!

I hope you find a happier way forward.

But isn't this a life you chose? Though as you don't mention a partner, I'm assuming you may be a single parent, not by choice, which obviously isn't (entirely) your choice. My point is to think about why you chose it (where you live, having children, your job) and think about whether those reasons have changed. Other than the existence of your children, and the need to pay the bills, pretty much anything can be changed if it's no longer working for you.

Agree with pps that your job sounds like the thing that's dragging you down at the moment. If there are few opportunities in your local area, your children aren't at a bad time for moving? We moved countries with a 7 year old in 2019, and it was a great decision.

iving in a temperate climate in a stable economy

Shhhhh!!! Don't let the Chancellor hear you say that!!!